How does the sense of security come about? Where does security come from?

Adults' sense of security seems to vary. On the surface, it looks like it's really different. In fact, there are three reasons for this. <>

First, the financial foundation.

Most of the sense of security of adults is based on their own financial foundations. If an adult is in debt, then his sense of security can be imagined.

Second, the social foundation.

An adult has a sound outlook on life, worldview, values. Living in a society that conforms to his three views. Naturally, there will be security.

Third, self-esteem.

A person has sound self-esteem. Don't put all your hopes in someone else. Don't judge yourself by what others say.

I think with these three foundations, there will naturally be a sense of security. <>

And when it comes to children's sense of security. Most of the security comes from one's parents and surrogate caregivers.

In infancy, you feel safe as long as you are surrounded by people. After four or five months, you start to recognize people, and you must be familiar with people to feel safe. After the age of one, the child learns to walk and begins to explore new worlds.

Parents or adults must be able to feel safe where they can see. When you grow up, you will feel safe knowing that your parents are where you can find them. In the future, as long as you know where your home is, you will feel safe.

Everyone's sense of security is built up gradually, not innately. <>

When we feel insecure. In fact, it is some memories and emotions such as childhood that affect us. At this time, meditation and meditation can help us to meet our little child.

First of all, I recommend two books: "The Secret of Confidence" and "The Extreme Self is King". ‍

Feeling insecure is entirely due to one's own reasons, that is, the sense of security is one's own oneself. There are three main reasons for insecurity: low self-esteem, fear of loss, and sensitivity. By prescribing the right medicine, you can slowly establish a sense of security for yourself.

1.For low self-esteem, it is also a kind of self-denial. Low self-esteem makes you feel inferior to others and makes you feel vulnerable in a relationship.

At the same time, because you are weak in your heart and have been lonely for a long time, you feel that no one understands you and no one wants to understand you, so you need to establish a lot of interpersonal relationships to affirm your own value. Then the second reason arises: fear of loss. Let's start by talking about how to increase self-confidence, it's very simple, learn.

Only if you know more, you won't think that others are awesome. Cultivate more of your own interests and hobbies, and understand him deeply, so that others are curious about you, and make yourself stronger step by step.

2.About loss. Everyone is afraid of losing this.

But the more you are afraid of losing, the more it will cause an invisible pressure on the other person, just like the sand in your hand, the tighter you hold it, the faster it will flow away. You might as well relax, treat yourself and your friends equally, say whatever you want, don't worry about what the other party will think of you, at this time you need to express yourself very much, let others know what you think, too closed people, it is difficult for others to enter your world, really understand that your friends will always be, as for those who want to go, you can't keep it. So, let it be, let it be.

3.About sensitivity. This reason is the result of the accumulation of the first two.

Because of low self-esteem, because of the loss of friends, you begin to doubt yourself, more and more lack of confidence in yourself, more and more feel that you are worthless, at this time you will have a feeling of anger and ruin, broken jars, and want to completely cut off relations with the other party. It's actually an escape, it's your pride that's at work. Back to the original inferiority.

So for sensitive matters, you still have to persuade yourself, others may not have so many opinions about you, all the causes are your own heart, keep adding drama to yourself, less suspicion, live your own life, everything will be solved.

In short, first make yourself confident, and a sense of security will follow!

What is security?

I went to Du Niang to check the specific meaning: a sense of security is a psychological need for stability and security. It belongs to the inner spiritual needs of the individual.

A sense of security is a premonition of possible physical or psychological danger or risk, as well as an individual's sense of powerlessness in dealing with things, mainly manifested as a sense of certainty and control, when a person is insecure, you don't have to train a body of muscles to protect him, on the contrary, you just need to give him more warmth and love. <>

As I understand it, a sense of security is the feeling that people can feel at ease in an environment.

Feeling safe can be divided into many aspects, emotional, financial, relationship, and so on. Once insecure, people will fall into anxiety and will start to become unconfident, wanting help from others but not being able to trust others. <>

Security is so important, so how can we achieve security?

Face yourself, take out a pen and paper, and write down your strengths and weaknesses, what you have and what you don't, and what you want to get. You must not feel like you are worthless.

No one can do everything, be good at everything, have everything, learn to face everything you have, record what you want, set a small goal that can be achieved, and then move towards the goal.

Don't magnify what you're missing, and don't take the loss too seriously. Just like time, everyone is fair, everyone is losing a little bit like you, but the question is are you cherishing every second of time? So don't get restless because of the loss.

Life is inherently full of unknowns, and everyone is groping their way forward. I think that only by strengthening one's heart and strengthening oneself can we get the greatest sense of security.

The problem of feeling safe is usually a problem between couples. The question is also relatively abstract. According to a wide range of couples, there is no clear limit to the question of security.

It depends on the level of liking for the lover, that is, the lover's eye is out of the eyes as the saying goes. There is no strict evaluation criterion to define this kind of problem. In my opinion, security is when a person is lonely and helpless, and you happen to be there and can help the other person out of the haze.

The feeling of relying on and trusting the other person in the heart is a broad definition of security. At the very least, you have to do this to be considered a safe person. In the big picture, you are a reliable person, have standards, have a certain social background and ability to do things, and others will think of you immediately when they ask for help, and firmly believe that you can help.

Although this is a bit utilitarian, it does not deny that this person is safe in the eyes of others.

For example, young people fall in love, at first they all start from communication, that is, borrow QQ and WeChat to communicate, even if they don't know each other before, but after many days of chatting, you will be attached to this feeling of chatting every day, and you want to share everything with each other, and the other party will worry about whether something has happened to the other party if they don't reply to messages for a day.

The root cause of this anxiety is the sense of security given to each other. It is the embryonic state of feelings, in more contact, more and more unable to let go of the other party, the other party occupies a larger and larger position in the heart, which is the essential embodiment of the sense of security. In other words, giving the other person a sense of security is a sufficient and necessary condition for the development of love.

Food, clothing, housing and transportation are indispensable, which is the most basic sense of security.

If you are not satisfied with these four words, you will not have the leisure to think about the so-called sense of security.

In addition to these things, people also need to meet many other conditions in order to achieve a sufficient sense of security.

These other things of security come from all aspects, the most important are family, love, friendship, career, health, etc.

If one of these aspects is not going well, or even missing, it will also make you feel less secure.

These feelings of security are initially given by others, and we ultimately have to strive for them ourselves.

When I was in college, I didn't have to worry about food, drink, and transportation, and my living expenses were 2,000 a month, and I could ask my family for more when I traveled from time to time. I feel that my life is very beautiful, and the so-called sense of security seems to me to be very sufficient.

But the good times didn't last long, when I was about to graduate from my senior year, something happened in my family, and I could spend a lot less money every month, but it didn't matter, I used to spend money indiscriminately to use so much, if I spent normally, more than 1000 would be enough. And at home, my parents quarrel every day because of some things, and more than once they have reached the point of divorce. And my love has not been found, although the family introduced me to a girl, but it is not a good match.

It was the time when I felt the most insecure. <>

After graduating, I went to Shanghai, although there was less and more security, but I didn't think about the so-called sense of security at that time, or that was when I was the most secure, I could support myself, I had a goal, although I lost more than 30 pounds in those days, more than I lost in four years of college.

The sense of security is given to you by the outside world, it comes from your relatives, your friends, but this sense of security is not the only one, nor is it eternal.

A sense of security refers to a sense of stability and security that people have about themselves and their surroundings. It is one of the basic emotional needs of humans and is essential for an individual's mental health and well-being. There are many aspects to the sense of security, and six of them are detailed below.

1.Social Relationships: Intimacy in relationships is important for a sense of security, as it relates to ethnicity and support networks. Building stable, trusting, and supportive relationships with loved ones, friends, and partners can provide people with a sense of security and form a social support system that they can rely on.

2.Self-worth: An individual's self-identity, self-esteem, and self-confidence are important components of a sense of security. When people have a positive sense of self-worth and confidence, they are more likely to feel secure and have a strong belief in their abilities and worth.

3.Familiar environment and stable life: Living in a stable, accessible environment can provide a sense of security. Familiar home, community, and work environments can provide a sense of stability and reduce uncertainty and anxiety.

4.Economic security and material security: Economic stability and material satisfaction are also important for a sense of security. People feel more secure and stable when they have sufficient financial resources and security to meet their basic needs and face unexpected circumstances.

5.Self-protection and coping ability: Individuals have a certain degree of self-protection and coping ability to face risks and difficulties, which will also enhance their sense of security.

Having some practical coping strategies and problem-solving skills can reduce feelings of fear and helplessness and increase a sense of security.

6.Psychological and emotional satisfaction: Meeting an individual's psychological and emotional needs can also enhance a sense of security. For example, emotional satisfaction such as love, respect, recognition, attention, and understanding can give people a sense of acceptance and support, which can lead to a sense of security.

To sum up, a sense of security is satisfied from many aspects, including good social relationships, a sense of self-worth, a familiar environment, economic security, self-protection ability, and psychological and emotional satisfaction. These factors interact with each other and together make up a person's sense of security. People can feel more secure by cultivating intimacy, increasing their sense of self-worth, creating a stable living environment, and improving their self-protection and coping skills.

The safety of life is something that needs to be given by oneself and the environment around you in the Hozakura field.

1.Alone in the dark. This is what makes me most insecure in my life. At present, there are still some relevant cases in society, especially when you are in a foreign land, you have to face such a situation after a tiring day, and you are particularly insecure.

2.Distrust between those closest to you. Trust between friends needs to be cultivated gradually. The most helpless thing is to treat someone sincerely, but in the end you can't get her trust. Too much suspicion in friendships can make me feel insecure.

These are the parts of my life that I don't feel safe about.

A sense of security is a feeling, a psychology;

It is the feeling that comes from the performance of one party to the other;

It is a kind of performance that people can rest assured, can be comfortable, can be relied on, and can be trusted.

Love is willing to pay and sacrifice unconditionally for each other, you don't need any reason to love someone, you just want the other party to be happy forever, never worry about each other, be happy because the other party is happy, and feel happy because the other party is happy because of selling the other party.

We all know that love represents a kind of responsibility, love is a kind of unconditional giving and sacrifice, love is endless and never lost, love is not not to reciprocate, and the return of love is the eternal joy and happiness of the other party.

A good relationship needs two people to work together, the sense of security is mutual, it is never a single party to give, mentally give all the love, materially do your best to give, no matter when you never hide anything from the honesty.