How did you get through the confusion? Let s talk about it!

When people are at a low ebb, they are not interested in anything, and they are always thinking about those sad things. And the best way to get rid of this emotion is to divert your attention, such as going for a walk, gossiping with people around you, etc.

Let's face it. Try to accept something that can't be changed, because all we can do is adapt to the world.

Self-regulation methods: divert attention, get rid of psychological pressure, stabilize emotions, be optimistic and calm.

Keep trying, just try when you're confused, because there's no direction now, so you try different things.

I'm confused now, I don't have anything I like, I'm looking for a way to spend it now, in the exercise **, maybe my confusion period is related to my own obesity caused by the inferiority complex, because of the fat, long-term inferiority complex made me lose interest in everything, but I am most interested in eating, so I now rely on exercise **, slimming down to get through this hurdle.

We all take some time to learn knowledge, to learn from the experiences shared by those successful people, to go outside, to appreciate the different worlds outside.

In fact, time is the best proof that people's troughs are limited! There is no one who falls and does not get up. Not a single person fell into the water and didn't know how to come out.

One day, we will definitely use what we have learned, seen, and appreciated the knowledge and experience to create a different wonderful life for ourselves.

To forgive others is to forgive oneself. Learning to be tolerant and understanding of others, forgiving others is also a kind of sublimation of one's own heart.

If you are confused, you will rest and rest, don't think about anything, and then find something you like to do, you must do it seriously, you will find that no matter what you do, as long as you are serious, you can do it well, and the reason why you are confused is that you are not focused enough on doing things!

Confused period 25 years old 30 years old Most of the young people in this age group are confused. Why? Some young people leave school and step into the real world, as the saying goes:

Ideal**, the reality is very skinny. Personally, people are used to staying in their comfort zone. From a carefree ivory tower to a society where opportunities and challenges coexist, there are still many young people who cannot adapt.

At school, at least everyone has a clear goal: to graduate successfully. And when you enter the society, your competitors instantly expand many times, and directly affect the self-interest of the individual, you have to pass the test, at this time the individual's ability increases or weakens (if you don't advance, you will retreat).

Those who have been enlightened early seize the opportunity to gain a firm foothold, those who have not been enlightened in time have begun to enter the early stage of confusion, and those who do not want to be enlightened will not be discussed here. The second stage of confusion period 3 5 years of work, the individual has a certain amount of social experience, a stable job, a solution to food and clothing, and a certain amount of savings. The responsibilities and pressures of family have led these young people who have just started a small family into a period of confusion.

According to China's economy, most of the people who have entered the confusion period in the second stage are people with a monthly household income of less than 20,000. From the pork **, inflation is inevitable, the depreciation of the RMB is also a reality, the real estate economy is also sky-high, children's education, medical care, pension and other issues are in front of us, and we have to plan for the future. Whether to continue to retire with a fixed monthly salary, many people began to hesitate and be confused!

Suggestion. 1. Try to read the diary and write it;

Because I have a habit of writing a diary, I thought that I would be bored when I got old, so I wrote some diaries to pass the time for myself in the future. Now I find that whenever I am confused, I go back and look at the previous diary, especially when I was a student, which is very touching, and it will also give a direction to the current confusion. Every time I read the diary that I worked hard to study, I can feel a surge of strength from the bottom of my heart and regain my enthusiasm for life.

Of course, if you don't keep a diary, you can choose some books or articles that interest you in an unfamiliar field, and new knowledge can always give new strength and direction. Maybe it's because there is no novelty that I am confused, but getting in touch with some new knowledge and entering some new fields can always stimulate some curiosity.

Suggestion. 2. Setting new goals should be a little challenging;

Suggestion. 3. Try to learn something new;

Suggestion. Fourth, communicate more with the elderly, experience is often summed up through practice, and communicating with the elderly can learn some experience;

All in all, don't just sink in, learn more, think more, and communicate more. In order to better find the direction of life and strive for it. I hope mine can help you.

Finally, I wish you to get out of the confusion as soon as possible, embark on the journey again, and prepare to set off to the next goal.

It takes three stages to get through the confusion period. 1. Acceptance. Aimless confusion is the greatest mental internal friction.

Instead of being so distraught that you don't want to do anything and can't do anything well, it's better to look at the number of graduates this year and think about the 10 million people, maybe 50% of them are as confused as themselves, and 30% are more confused than themselves. Accepting confusion is a necessary state when changing identities, so that you can slowly calm down and prepare patiently.

2. Action. Make career plans, research job postings, revise resumes, and prepare for interview ......Everything on the road to job hunting is more constructive than being confused. Of course, if you take action, you may face failure, and your resume will sink into the sea and the interview will not be heard, but if you have a growth mindset, you believe that your goals will become clearer and clearer, your resume will get better and better, and the interview will be smoother and smoother.

Then facing failure is not too slow. 3. Reduce horizontal comparisons. Half of people's confusion and anxiety come from horizontal comparison.

Seeing others going to graduate school, I also began to consider whether I should improve my academic qualifications again; When I saw others taking the civil service exam, I thought that my parents and relatives also advised me to be more stable. Horizontal comparison will make your job search goal particularly vague, and the action will become three days of fishing and two days of drying nets. As a result, as time goes on, graduation gets closer and closer, you don't have a job, and you become more and more confused.

1. Clean up the circle of friends with negative energy.

There are many people who fall into a period of confusion, most of them because the people around them are too negative energy, and they always pass some bad news to themselves, so cleaning up some negative energy can quickly help them get out of the confusion period.

2. Analyze the reasons for confusion.

If you want to quickly understand your confused state, you must first figure out why you are confused, whether it is dissatisfied with the future or dissatisfied with life, so that you can quickly find the answer to the problem when you find the point of the problem.

3. Enrich your spare time.

When you feel lost and confused and find no direction in life, at this time, you can enrich your spare time, constantly socialize, and study, which will give you the answers you want.

4. Find answers with actions.

If you have an uncertain attitude towards something, this is confusion, and at this time you can verify your answer through actions, so that you will not regret it in the future.

It can be long or short, and you need to adjust it yourself.

A sense of control. When you feel that you are living a messy and passive life every day, the sense of confusion will become more and more intense. How can this feeling be further dispelled?

A psychological study by Michigan State University found that when a person feels that they are capable of controlling the pace of their life, it creates a strong sense of self-confidence, which weakens negative feelings to some extent.

That's why when you feel lost and out of control, you like to make plans for the future, because in the process, we regain a sense of power to control our lives. Therefore, if you want to get rid of confusion, you might as well make a phased plan, give yourself more decision-making power, and gradually build up self-confidence. When you build up your self-confidence, you have the energy to plan for your future.

Specific phased planning.

It is important to note that when we plan for the future, we cannot just set an empty goal that is not very feasible and empty. After setting a goal, many people find that it is useless, and they are still living in a mess, feeling extremely confused about their future.

In fact, it's not because you lack ability, but because your phased planning is not specific enough. Phased planning can help us take more concrete actions to achieve the current tasks, and when these small tasks are completed, it will give us a sense of accomplishment and promote us to continue to complete the future milestones.

Through this step-by-step approach, we will not feel lost about what to do now, but will continue to move forward in a planned way, and in the process, the fear of uncertainty about the future will naturally be removed.