Do you feel tired of being the eldest in a family with many children?

Being the boss in a family with many children is still quite tiring. Because if you have many younger siblings, you will be treated as a big parent, and you will have a lot of things to manage, and of course you will be very tired.

Tired, not only to take on the housework at home, but also to take care of younger siblings, once something happens to them, the first thing parents scold is the boss.

Of course, the boss is tired, he has to take the lead in everything, and he also has to take care of his brothers and sisters, which will feel very hard.

I think it will be very stressful to be the child of an ordinary family and be the boss, because in this way, whether it is study or career in the future, I will consider my family's problems, so I am tired.

I feel that being the eldest in a family with many children is quite tiring, and I have to help my parents take care of my younger siblings.

It is often said that having more children is more blessed, and it is good to have more children, but the premise is that the children's education level, three views are correct, and they will be grateful. The first is the burden of the family, and now the social material is extremely rich, which also leads to the high cost of raising children, and it is difficult for many salaried people to afford to give birth to 2 or 3 (many people cite slippery celebrations and say that giving birth to one is also health and two are also rushing, and those who really dare to give birth are absolutely not difficult to accompany them); Secondly, the issue of education, it is difficult for most wage earners to achieve both family and career, and most of the time has to be devoted to work, the reason is simple, more and more only children have become the backbone of the family, the old, the young, and the middle have no brothers.

Although I only have one daughter and do not belong to a family with many children, I personally have reservations about the view that some people put forward that having more children is a good thing, because many times having more children may not be a thing for parents to make themselves happy and happy, and parents have to face the following problems:

First of all, if you plan to have more children, it doesn't mean that you can simply raise your children. In addition to children, they need to fulfill their responsibilities and obligations as parents, to educate, cultivate and care for children, this process is particularly energy-consuming and physical, for parents in urban families now, it is not easy to pull a child to a large extent, not to mention that they have two or more children, especially now that both parents need to work, it is obviously unrealistic to think of multiple children.

On the other hand, an important problem that families with many children have to face is the economic pressure. If you want to have more than one child, the child's monthly expenses in terms of food, clothing, housing and transportation, especially when the child is relatively young, the child's custody fee in the kindergarten stage, as well as the various cram schools that the child will attend when he grows up, and when the child gets married in the future, the parents will buy a house and buy a dowry for the child are a lot of expenses, of course, if their family conditions allow, and they have enough energy, the husband and wife agree to want more children, so that their children will not be lonely in the process of growing up. Then this is also a good option, but this option is not suitable for most families.

As the saying goes, there are many children and many blessings, and how many children are the happiest in a family, there is actually no standard answer for filial piety. So if you exclude the consideration of age, the happiness level of one-child families is undoubtedly the highest. Second, there are many intermediate variables under the number of children that affect the family happiness index.

For example, the influence of national policies and the social environment, we collectively refer to them as objective factors. In fact, for most families, having several children is not a free choice. This also needs to be considered by many external environmental factors.

However, such effects are relatively small for affluent households. People will make changes in order to be able to better adapt to society and have a better life experience. Changes in the social environment will also lead to changes in people's cognitive methods.

Therefore, the number of children in a family can also be significantly affected by socio-environmental factors. **In particular, combined with the current mainstream values of the country and the birth policy, these objective factors will affect the number of children in the family. For example, in the 90s, China implemented the one-child policy, vigorously promoting the birth policy of fewer children and better children, and more children were punished, which caused most ordinary families at that time to choose to have only one child.

Later, the opening of the two-child policy and the opening of the three-child policy will directly affect the number of children in the family. In addition, parents' values and perception of the outside world also have a significant impact on the number of children in the family. Some parents believe that it is best to have a child so that the child can enjoy all the love of the parents and all the resources of the family, and the parents do not need to be overburdened with the burden of raising their children.

However, some parents feel that it is best to have two children, so that the children can be smart enough to accompany each other, even if they are a hundred years later, the two children can take care of each other. Different values create different choices, and while objective factors affect people, subjective factors have a greater impact on people's choices. Therefore, the happiest family is to have several children, which depends on the actual environment of each family and the values of the parents.

Only when the objective reality meets their expectations will the happiness index and satisfaction level of life continue to rise.