My boyfriend can t forget the girlfriend I ve been talking to for five years, what should I do

Updated on psychology 2024-05-14
29 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    If he really can't let go of the former degree and wants to find the former degree, then your wait may only be in vain. If one day he leaves you and finds that the person he really can't do without is you, he will naturally look for you, and you can have him who really loves you again. Loving someone is not called love if you have it.

    If you have just been with him, or give him a little more time, compare your heart to heart, and the boyfriend you have been talking to for 5 years is not really something that can be completely let go, there must be such a space in your heart, but the position is different. Isn't it? If you have been together for a long time (more than 1 year), then you should also let go and tell yourself that the sea and the sky are wide.

    It's a bit of a painful struggle at first, but, trust me, you'll be more sane.

    The feelings are indescribable, there is no broken thread, how can people be sophisticated.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Then you just wait. You're looking for it here, too... If you find the right one, dump him and leave him with a regret.

    If only you haven't found the right fit, he's back, and you still love him, that's fine. If they don't come back. You just have to do what you have to do...

    The reason why he is still in love with the past is because he thinks you are not good enough, at least not as good as she used to be. Otherwise, it would have been thrown into your arms, so. Typical eating in the bowl and occupying the pot.

    Why do you say you still like him? If you are so persistent, you will only put your place at a disadvantage

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Generally, girls love to care about boys, but in fact, they still have to learn to understand him! Since he chooses to be with you, it means that he still wants to start over, you have to be more considerate of him, so that he can find the motivation for a new life! Boys are generally more dedicated in the relationship, he can't forget the past, it means that he is a single-minded person, and he will have the same feelings for you after a long time, what you need to do at this time is to help him get out of the shadow of the past!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    In love, it is always best not to get it, and first love is always the most unforgettable.

    However, in the end, it is often not the best in the heart, nor the first love that you will never forget, but the most suitable person.

    The wisest thing is not to cling to the person he once had in his heart, but to try to become the person he is now. If he easily forgets the girlfriend he's been talking to for five years, will you think he's very affectionate? If he immediately empathizes, will you think he is unreliable?

    You can't erase his past, but you can try to be his present, or in the future.

    After talking about it for five years and breaking up, then there is always something inappropriate. If you still love him, try to enter his life rationally. If he can accept you in the future, do you still need to care about that piece of jade?

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    After all, people have been together for 5 years, and they have to go through a lot of things in 5 years, so it's okay to forget it? That's a lie, you can't forget it, if you love this man very much, go to him, say that you can allow him to let go temporarily, love to be tolerant and tolerant!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    It's better to give up this 、、、 early, which shows that he loves his ex-girlfriend very much, so that even if he comes back, he may not be able to let go, and it is impossible for him to forget completely, because everyone can't do it, but he can't let go of his ex-girlfriend at all, why do you want to be a substitute, no、、、 maybe he thinks you can't replace her.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    It can't be said that he hasn't loved you, and my current girlfriend and I are just as much as you say. In the beginning, I couldn't forget my old one. But there is no comparison between the past and the present.

    Suffice it to say that he loves you now and loves him before. He himself wanted to give up his previous one, but he couldn't let go for a while. The main thing is also yourself.

    Give him a little time for yourself.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I think you should also know that if a man doesn't love that woman a little more, she won't get a happy life, you can only give him a month for such a man, and you can't forget it, I think you and him are also the ones who suffer in the end.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Donor, what's yours is yours, don't worry, you can't grab it if it's not yours, let it be.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You can't let go of him, he can't let go of her, why bother, give up while the relationship is not getting deeper and deeper.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Dump him and find someone who loves you wholeheartedly, at least psychologically, and the first thing that comes to mind is you, not your ex-girlfriend.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Put it down, he didn't love you.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If he can't let it go, you have to let it go, otherwise you won't have a good life.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    As long as you really let go, you can forget about it.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Since you mind that people have been talking for six years, why don't you just find someone to talk about for six days?

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Summary. 1。Seven years, it is possible to completely forget about a person.

    Scientists say that no matter how deep the pain is, it only takes seven years to heal, because seven years can replace all the cells in our body, not a single old cell, every day of perseverance is a kind of progress, every day passes, those cells that miss you will die, one day, it will be clean.

    Guys forget how long it takes to have a girlfriend of six years.

    What about the answer. 1。Seven years, it is possible to completely forget about a person.

    Scientists say that no matter how deep the pain is, it only takes seven years to heal, because seven years can replace all the cells in our body, not a single old cell, every day of perseverance is a kind of progress, every day passes, those cells that miss you will die, one day, it will be clean.

    How long is the fastest. 21 days at the earliest.

    In behavioral psychology, there is a saying that "21 days to change a habit", people have found that it takes 21 days to change a habit, and 21 days of repeated habits will form a stable habit within 90 days of repetition.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    First: When love is not there, please say blessings to him, after all, he once loved.

    Third: After leaving, what comes to mind must be a lonely picture, please forget him, a person must have a new beginning, don't let the past tie you to the palace of sorrow.

    Fifth: Don't make noise when you break up, after all, the two have been together for so long, and he will be sad when they are separated, but he is more sensible and doesn't want to bind you or his tomorrow.

    Sixth: Don't talk about sadness, everyone has their own story, living is not to miss yesterday, but to wait for hope, so that everyone can see your strength, and you can live well without him.

    Seventh: After leaving, tell him loudly that I love you, it has nothing to do with you, love is your right, say what you want to say, calmly recall your past, leave everything yesterday after crying, and never touch it.

    Eighth: When you break up, you can be yourself, a person's world also has the moon rising and setting, and there are beautiful moments, classify him as a memory.

    Ninth: A person's world always needs another person as a foil, and when he leaves, he can't support you, and I believe that I will have a better tomorrow.

    Tenth: People will inevitably encounter thorns and bumps on the journey, but after the wind and rain, there will be a beautiful rainbow

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    The beginning of the beginning is always sweet.

    Later, there was boredom, habit, abandonment, loneliness, despair and sneering at the longing to be with someone for a long time, and later, how glad I left the person we thought we loved deeply for a short time.

    Later, we found out.

    That's not love, that's just lying to yourself.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    In fact, this kind of man who feels guilty about his ex-girlfriend is a good man, of course not absolutely, I don't know what kind of person your boyfriend is, but I think he should be entrusted for life. But at this moment, his mentality is not correct, so he will say that he wants to marry the two of you. I guess his classmates said that his ex-girlfriend was not doing well, and he would have a sense of guilt, and you should help him get out of the guilt.

    I don't know how long they've broken up or how long they've been dating you, so I don't know if he really can't let go of his ex-girlfriend or the confusion of guilt.

    Since he is with you, it means that he still cares about you and likes you, you don't want to compare whether he loves you more or once loved her more, and loving her more is just a thing of the past. So be a good woman by his side, a good woman must have her own tolerance. He can tell you what happened between him and her, which shows that you have a lot of weight in his heart.

    The fact that you can ask for help on this shows that he has the same weight in your heart.

    You can't always ask someone what to do or how to do it, you can't ask him to forget Wei Wei, but you can learn to let go. Before you have to tolerate your boyfriend, you are a woman, you should know (I don't know what you can imagine) how pitiful and helpless an abandoned woman is, your boyfriend is not cold-blooded, so he will say sorry for her. So don't hate, hate Wei Wei.

    Comfort him more, try not to let him think about these things, find other things to do, time is the best teacher, it will make him forget her.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    He's still staying with you.

    He also said that he wanted to marry the two of you as wives.

    It shows that you still have a certain place in his heart.

    Try not to be angry when and jealous when bringing up his ex-girlfriend.

    I believe that he will forget it after a long time.

    I will also live a good life with you.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    When you just got there, did you know he had her in his heart? If you know that he can't forget it, you have been good to him, let him be moved, and then fall in love with you, then good, keep working hard, he has you in his heart now, and he can only have you in the future. If at the beginning he felt that he couldn't do it with her and took the initiative to pursue you, and he began to be very enthusiastic and attentive to you, and now he is stable with you and says that he can't forget her, then let it go, and think for yourself.

    Don't grieve yourself. Don't be afraid that he will be sad, since he can tell you that he can't forget that she doesn't care about your feelings, don't be afraid that he won't be sad without you. You deserve to jump off a building.

    Doesn't he think that regretful love is the most unforgettable, then you also make him regretful.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    The twisted melon is not sweet, if you are still young, get together as soon as possible, it's not that I deliberately break you up, it's right for men to be emotional, but it's not to drag the mud and water to break the thread, according to your meaning, your boyfriend is hesitant to do things, he can't make a big deal, he can't give you happiness, I just say what I think as a man, just for reference.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Suggest that the landlord go and kill her, if you can't do it, then it doesn't necessarily mean that you will lose your man.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Such? Maybe it's just short-lived, right? If he still misses his former girlfriend for a long time! Divide it! That's not interesting at all!

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Since the heart is not with you, it is difficult to stay, you sit down and talk about it, if he still insists on blindly thinking about his ex-girlfriend, I think you should think about it, because no one wants to sleep next to his husband after marriage, but he has someone else in his heart.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Two ways: tolerance (take back his heart with love, so that he loves you more than he loves the other person), and resolute (explicitly let him delete his ex-girlfriend's contact method).

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    What are you keeping him for? Time bomb.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    The reality is that men are amorous.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Let time dilute everything, since it's been ten years and there is nothing to let go, you should have a new love. The most important thing is that there are no more things with which he recalls. Here's what you should:

    1. Keep your distance, and if you are working together, you should use honorifics to speak to him. Leave where you used to go and stop caring for him. It's normal if you can't forget him for a while, you need time, but remember not to date or hit him again.

    Try to avoid being together with you, and if possible, move to another department or find another job. Distance and time can dilute the feelings between each other.

    2. Don't make excuses for yourself, the complexity of feelings lies in the fact that sometimes we are difficult to grasp ourselves, love for a while and hate for a while. I also understand the truth and conflicts of interest, but I can't control my feelings. Even, often make excuses for their actions and deceive themselves.

    Remember not to excuse yourself by borrowing special days like birthdays, Valentine's Day, etc.

    3. Clean up the items related to him, and it is human nature to see things and think about them. A small gift will also arouse your good memories and happy yearning. In short, every one of his objects can touch your heart and evoke your thoughts about him.

    Therefore, to forget about him, it is better to destroy or collect some items related to him.

    4. Participate in some outdoor activities and social activities, social interaction will help you get out of the current sexless marriage dilemma. The beautiful outdoor scenery can make you feel good and regulate your mood. Meeting some new people can also help you distract yourself.

    5. Don't compare others with your ex-boyfriend, "Compare your beautified ex-boyfriend with the boys around you, and regret saying, 'It's really better than him', it's a waste of time." The one who really likes me no longer exists, so say goodbye to him. "Relying on the illusion of a glorified ex-boyfriend, life cannot move forward.

    Erase the memory of him and look around with a new state of mind!

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