Confidence: Confidence is beauty, I sometimes believe it, and sometimes I don t believe it

Human potential and creativity are immeasurable, once he has a big ideal, firmly believes that he will be able to achieve the goal, he will mobilize all his subjective initiative and enthusiasm, and persevere in doing something. Then, he is enough to succeed. Even if he doesn't succeed for the time being, he will get as close as possible to the intended goal.

In this process of dismantling and disturbing the upward movement, the value of his life will continue to increase. Therefore, maintaining a positive, upward and progressive belief is an important process to approach the goal step by step.

People who are not confident often give themselves a negative psychological hint, and they are accustomed to making excuses from external and objective factors, which is actually covering up the weakness and withdrawal in the depths of their hearts. At this time, he has subconsciously given up all kinds of attempts, explorations and efforts. Therefore, in the end, he was bound to fail.

We must face the reality with a confident, positive and optimistic attitude, and usually make friends with people with this mentality. If you keep around people who complain, complain, criticize the environment, and criticize others, you will only make yourself more negative and backward.

In fact, there are no real difficulties in the world, and the so-called difficulties are either given up by oneself or success comes a little later. As long as you are not afraid of what you have to lose, you don't expect to gain anything, and you don't rush for quick success, there is no difficulty, and it doesn't matter whether you are confident or not. At this time, you will have a real self-belief in Li Shouxin, and you have also reached the realm of "people are self-exalted when they have no desires" and "no desire is rigid".

There is no difficulty for those who really do nothing. Everything he went through was a very important nourishment in life. When you face the world with this mentality, you can't talk about persistence or non-persistence, let alone perseverance.

That's your self-confidence. We must understand that faith is the mother of all success, whether it is the worldly Dharma or the worldly Dharma. The world cannot refuse anyone and will not reject anyone.

So, as long as you don't fall yourself, no one can defeat you, just move forward. You know, what I'm achieving today is nothing else, it's just the snow desert I wanted to be twenty years ago. If you can also let go of some greed and attachment and make good choices, you will definitely be able to do this.

Excerpt from Mahamudra: A Wise Life.

**Compiled and published.

Someone once asked me, are you too arrogant and empty-sighted? I told him that I wasn't arrogant, I was confident. Since I was a child, I have been optimistic and confident, and I have set goals that must be achieved.

I've always believed that whoever I want to be, I can become. For example, if I want to be a writer, I can definitely become a writer. I've never wavered from that, and I've never asked anyone.

Even if I'm very dissatisfied with what I've written, I still feel like a genius. That's who I am.

In the past, there was a literary friend who was about the same level as me. Once, he asked me: "Xue Mo, you can help me do the math to see if I can be a writer."

Without thinking, I said, "No." He asked why, and I said

You can't even figure out if you can be a writer, how can you know that you can be a writer? A person who can be a writer will never doubt himself. I want to be what I am, and I must be what I am.

Sure enough, to this day he has not become a writer. Of course, he may also succeed in another field.

I have become a professional writer step by step from a primary school teacher, and life has changed a lot for me, but what has remained the same is my self-confidence. Because it is a conclusion drawn after self-cognition, self-analysis, and self-positioning, it is not an unfounded conjecture. So, I'm not arrogant at all, I just think so in my heart and say so on my lips.

Some people are very modest in words and have a very low posture, but in fact, they always look down on others in their hearts, feel that others are inferior to themselves, and once they do things, they will be easily timid, withdrawn, and unable to make up their minds. This is not true self-confidence. Excerpt from "The Great Mudra of Light:

As long as you are not afraid of what you will lose, what you don't expect, and you don't rush for quick success, there is no difficulty, and it doesn't matter whether you are confident or not.

Self-confidenceFirst of all, you have to put yourself in perspective. Find your strengths. Then, let your strengths play to your strengths.

This is the most basic condition for gaining self-confidence. To gain self-confidence, you must first gain a sense of satisfaction and make yourself feel that you are very good. This is the most basic.

Therefore, you need to make good use of your strengths and try to play to your strengths. Do more, only in this way can you taste the satisfaction of success as much as possible, then you can build self-confidence. If you think you can't do anything, and you don't do anything, you don't dare to do anything.

The less confident you become, it's a vicious circle. As long as you get the satisfaction of success, you can further gain self-confidence. Of course, maybe take your time.

You can start with small things and gradually increase them.

Self-confidence, in fact, is just a state of mind. All you need is to discover it yourself, and you don't need too many complicated processes. As long as you have faith in yourself, then you will definitely be full of strength.

Don't be overly considerate of others, pay too much attention to what others think of you. Deal with any setbacks with a nonchalant and normal mindset.

Self-confidence, in fact, is very simple, just believe in yourself. When you have self-confidence, you will be able to do everything. The key lies in yourself, as long as you have confidence in yourself, you can solve anything.

In addition, the biggest factor of self-confidence is probably the influence of the outside world on you. To know that what others say about us is always what they think, and we don't have to live in someone else's world. Just do your own thing.

Why don't you care so much about him? It is necessary to have the momentum that the world exists only for itself. Have the courage to go your own way and let others do what they say.

No one can change themselves, no one can control themselves. When you succeed, it's your own business, but if you are influenced by others and retreat, it's your own business, so why bother to control yourself for irrelevant people.

In the last sentence, as long as you believe in yourself, you will be full of self-confidence. It's all about the mindset.

Self-confidence is the affirmation of oneself, even oneself can not be affirmed to oneself, how to do other things well. When you do everything else well, you will find that your confidence will become stronger and stronger, and at this time, a person's unique connotation and temperament will naturally be revealed.

If a man full of self-confidence stands with a man who is not confident, I believe that people's eyeballs will be more likely to attract a man with self-confidence.

If you don't have self-confidence, you can build self-confidence, believe that you can do it well, smile at yourself more, read more books, learn more about things in the world, and enrich yourself with knowledge. In addition, in addition to self-confidence, a person should also be kind, down-to-earth, and have a positive attitude.

Appearance is also more important, we can't change it, but we can decorate ourselves, and we should pay more attention to our demeanor and image. But the most important thing for a person is character.

Self-confidence is a person's recognition of their own worth. Everyone has an ideal self-image in their minds, this image can be established with others as a template, such as admiration, appreciation of a relative, friend, colleague or a celebrity, it is possible to create a "perfect" self in the heart on this basis, combined with the reality of the situation to shape the "perfect" self in your heart, when you feel that you are not far from you in your mind in real life (including personal value and social value are more satisfied with you) the feeling of self-confidence also arises, you will not think that everything you have done in the past is in vain, you will rarely regret what has passed, you have done everything you have done according to your own value standards except for the last resort, and you will not blame yourself even if you do not achieve your goal. The accumulation of self-recognition to a certain extent will make you optimistic about the future, that is, a confident state of mind, of course, not arrogantly thinking that all difficulties are not a problem, but feeling that you can take appropriate coping strategies according to your own situation, and can perform at a real level, without subjective negative thoughts affecting the results.

You get the idea.

Then it becomes conceited. Self-confidence is to have a very accurate understanding of one's good and bad, neither exaggerated nor underestimated. Self-confidence is an individual's perceptual assessment of the various preparations he or she has made.

Self-confidence is a kind of confidence in one's own strength, and the belief that one can definitely accomplish something and achieve the goal pursued. Broadly speaking, self-confidence itself is a kind of positivity, and self-confidence is a positive attitude towards self-evaluation.

No! In my understanding, self-confidence is to believe that you can do a good job within the scope of your ability, not always telling yourself that I can't do it and something like that! Instead of always believing that you can do well, that would be conceited!

Self-confidence is not conceit, it is a sense of self-satisfaction.

If you have the strength and ability, you will naturally have self-confidence, if not, then you will only be conceited or arrogant.

Many people have had this mentality. In fact, it is a sense of inferiority. The solution is:

1。Constantly enrich yourself and enrich your spirit. 2。

Keep changing yourself and get your social status up. 3。It is useless to keep telling yourself that you have a blind inferiority complex.

We don't ask for people, we don't borrow people, we don't rely on others to live, why should I underestimate myself? 4。Think about your strengths, think about your achievements.

Admit that you are not the best, but also admit that you are not the worst, so why have low self-esteem? 5。Get rid of your subconscious fear of society, you know, there are still many good people around, as long as you are appropriately cautious, you will not make too many enemies, then, in the face of a more friendly living space, just think, is it necessary for you to feel inferior?

In today's society, it is necessary to be confident, and the family is poor, so there is nothing to be embarrassed about at home, the more embarrassed you are, the more it shows that there is a problem with your personal stomach, and the home is irreplaceable.

Hehe, it's your vanity that's at work, and so did I used to, but it's wise to change it through your own wisdom, it's useless to be vain, and it's going to make you more and more sensitive.