I ve been with my mother in law for more than five years, and we re not very good, what to do

Five years is not short, and you should know that you like and dislike each other, and the crux of the not-so-good **. You ask this question to show that you still want to get along with her, and you already have a certain deep affection. So, think hard about whether this dead knot can be opened, and whether you can be humble.

You should also think about whether your mother-in-law has worked hard and whether she can accommodate it. If both of you can't do it, it's actually hard for each other to live together. Maybe she'd like to live separately too. The so-called harmony is together, and disharmony is divided. This is the law of necessity.

I stayed with my mother-in-law for a month. I'm not a good-natured person and am very picky about a lot of things. So, for more than a decade, I would rather be alone than ask my in-laws (who are retired) to help me with anything.

However, I was not in good health and had a miscarriage recently, so my husband still asked his mother to come over. We went from mutual suspicion at the beginning (she always thought that I was in a complaint with my husband, so she always whispered to my husband and ended up arguing) and still get along well. Sometimes I think that I just need to have something to eat when I get home from work.

Hygiene is not good, when you go out, say hello and let me do it. As for whether the food is to taste or not, whether it is clean or not, I really can't care about it. Anyway, personal hygiene, your own room, or your own home.

My husband also persuaded me to do the same, saying that I was so tired of working every day, and I would turn a blind eye when someone helped. I think about it, I always revolve around work and housework all day long, and I don't see myself being more decent and beautiful every day, why should I be? I'm not in good health, it's good to have someone to help, and I pay so much attention to what to do.

In fact, life doesn't need to be too serious.

You're a kind girl, I know you'll handle it. I sincerely wish you good health and harmony in your family.

Then communicate with her well, there will always be some friction between people, some contradictions, it is normal to have these, the relationship with others is actually all in our own hands, as long as you learn to be considerate, tolerant, humble, and caring for others, I think no matter who you live with will be very beautiful...

The longer you stay, the worse it is, of course, there are good ones, it is recommended to move out and live by yourself, even if it is close to the usual time to go over to see it, after all, young people and the elderly have different living habits, I have lived with my in-laws for 7 years, I just bought a house at the beginning of the year, the same community, very close, both have their own space, and it is convenient to take care of each other.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be good enough to go, it's good not to quarrel, don't expect how good it can be!

Help her do more work and touch her with true feelings.

As the saying goes: two good and one good can be good.

Summary. From the above information, it can be seen that: 1. I have lived with my mother-in-law for 15 years, and finally separated, have my own house, live my own life,—— from my mother-in-law's shared living to living alone in my own house, after 15 years in between, you can feel that you can finally be free of a sense of ease, freedom and independence, 2, how can I not be happy during this time, I am worried all day long - but I don't feel happy and happy, I am worried every day, I don't know why, I've lived with my mother-in-law for 15 years, and I'm finally separated, I have my own house, and I live my own life, so why can't I be happy during this time, and I'm worried all day long.

From the above information, it can be seen that: 1. I have lived with my mother-in-law for 15 years, and finally separated, have my own house, live my own ,——life, from my mother-in-law's shared living to living alone in my own house, and I have experienced 15 years of silence in the middle, I can feel that you can finally be free of ease, a sense of freedom and a sense of independence, 2, how can I not be happy during this time, I am worried all day long - but I can't feel happy and open my heart, I am worried every day, I don't know why, It's because I don't have my mother-in-law's care.,Everything is done by yourself.,It's a little uncomfortable.,Or feel empty in my heart.,I don't know why.,I used to be at home in the spring draft mother-in-law didn't do the meals I liked to eat.,Now I live by myself.,I should be happy.,I don't know what the reason is.,I'm annoyed and panicked.。

Maybe I just moved out, and I'm a little uncomfortable, after all, I've lived together for 15 years, and I'm a little overwhelmed by such a long habit, and I'm in a bad mood when I'm in my mother-in-law or orange's house, and I've suffered a lot of grievances, and I'm not in good health, and I often take medicine, and I don't know if I'm not going to cover myself with myself, and now I'm not happy.

Hmmm, I can especially understand your feelings, have you talked to your husband about your current emotional condition, is it that your emotions are still stuck in the unhappiness of the past, and you can't let yourself out, so you still feel unhappy and feel very depressed,

In order to take care of the children, I lived with my mother-in-law for five years, and then I found that the relationship with my husband was getting weaker and weaker, and even when he went to work in the morning, he would say hello to his mother, but neglected to say hello to me, and when he ate at night, he had to wait for his husband to come back before eating.

Hello, because the relationship is too long, resulting in two people feelings weakened, if you want to change this way, you can change the mode of getting along, such as you go out to work, or let yourself study, so that the other party feels that you are constantly changing, and to develop in a good direction, he will have a sense of mystery about you. The way you dress up your image must be different from before, so that the other party feels that you are different from before, and if you remain the same, the other party will lose interest in you.

The elderly need to be taken care of, and your husband must want to take care of the elderly more. First of all, you have to be glad for this, a filial man has a very strong sense of responsibility, just like for his own parents, and for your parents too. Don't show too much opposition to your mother-in-law and husband, think more about it from your husband's point of view.

If you want to say something, you have to find an entry point, and your husband will gladly accept it. Otherwise, it will have a bad effect and affect the relationship between you.

Just imagine, if they are all together, they will not be separated from each other. Fuck that's your mom. If you treat your mother as your own mother from the bottom of your heart, I think the problem will be much easier to get along with.

Maybe the elderly don't need to be taken care of in their lives, and in turn, they can take care of your life and the next generation. Then you can take more care of her spiritually. I believe that as long as you have a heart-to-heart relationship with each other, she will be very considerate of you.

Really immature man, but his immaturity is not your business, it is his business, if he can't recognize it, then we will talk to you about something, which can only accelerate your conflict, I think, you can talk to him often, clearly let him know your inner thoughts, and then make it clear that not being together does not mean that you are not filial, and if you don't come back, you can come back often. The old man can also go, let him think about how he wants to live with his mother, whose children want to leave their mother, if your husband lives with you in your house, don't say 8 years, 8 months, is he willing? Did he take it?

When a man is with his parents, he will be very lazy and arrogant, and if he really doesn't listen, if you already have a house, take the child to live with him first, and he is willing to live with his mother, let him live with him first, and your son will live with you!!

Stick to it, you just treat your mother-in-law well, besides, my husband likes this, if you object, it's not good to make an embarrassment.

Why? Honoring your parents is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and if you don't even love your own mother, will he really love you? You should be happy to have such a husband.

My mother-in-law and I have been in conflict since we got married, and then the teachers of Eternal Love Letter have been teaching me how to get along with my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so that the conflict between me and my mother-in-law has gradually weakened, and we now get along like a mother and daughter.

If you don't want a divorce, you have to get along with your mother-in-law.

Regardless of your mother-in-law, try to minimize confrontation with her head-on, because confrontation will only make your relationship worse and worse.

If you have a big opinion about your mother-in-law, you have to communicate more with your husband in private, these things are actually the problem of your husband's adjustment, and your husband is far more splinted in the middle than you think.

On the one hand, it is a mother, on the other hand, it is a wife, and it is difficult to be a husband.

Because we are juniors, no matter what the mother-in-law is, she will always be your husband's mother. Try to get close to her with your husband, occasionally buy her clothes, quietly cook a meal she likes, etc. After a few times like this, your mother-in-law will be very moved in her heart, and she will return your kindness to her ten times and a hundred times more, so that in this virtuous circle, all your problems will be solved!

Remember, never quarrel with the elderly, because no matter whether the old man is right or wrong, if you quarrel and the fault is still our juniors, sometimes it is better to say more than to do more, and to say too much, it is better to be silent!

Hope it helps.

This kind of thing should be done slowly, not in a hurry, you have to talk calmly with your family, especially your mother-in-law, anyway, they are all a family, there is no need to talk from the heart, you use the mentality of understanding your mother-in-law to communicate with her, in order to solve things well, you know your mother-in-law's inner thoughts and her requirements for you, or what she expects from you, so that you can better communicate with her Pay more attention to the things that your mother-in-law likes Chen Chen will definitely be happy when she buys something she likes on her birthday or important day The old people also have to be coaxed, they are old babies, don't embarrass your husband, learn to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law correctly, so that your husband will also think that you are a well-informed person, and you should care about them with your heart, and they will feel it.

Repay the grievances with virtue. After all, it's not unpleasant for a family. Don't take it to heart if she treats you badly, you can be doubly good to her to move her.

But when you are good to her, don't be afraid of making a big move, so that the neighbors know how you treat her. Because of this, she just has an opinion about you, and it's not easy to talk about it, everyone sees that you are so good to her, and she is saying that others are going to poke him in the back.

For example, if you spend a small amount of money to buy her a dress today, you can pretend to call a neighbor as a counselor. Call your mother a few more times for dessert outside and say something considerate. This will definitely be better, if you pretend to be like this, others will look at it in their eyes, and they will say to see how good other people's daughters-in-law are.

If she says something about you outside, outsiders will scold her. Hee-hee: Learn to be a smart woman.

This problem should ask your husband to come forward, talk to his parents, tell his parents what you think and how you feel through your husband, if your husband can't solve it, then the only thing left is for the child to take it himself, so that his parents don't live with you.

Of course, there is a premise for all this: you don't disrespect your in-laws, and you sincerely want to accept them.

Most of them: mother-in-law and son-in-law are compatible, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not very good, mutual respect is the premise.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to get along with, and it is your husband who is always annoyed and embarrassed, and it is really impossible to move out to live, even if the conditions of renting a house are almost clean, and small frictions are easy to cause big conflicts.

I can see that you have a good temper, at least you haven't quarreled with her yet. It's easy to do, don't fight with her head-on for some small things in life. But remember.

Let's talk about it in front of everyone after a certain extent. You can't say that she's not doing this kind of thing, but you have to find a way to get your father-in-law or your husband to say it. This works better.

If you really can't move out to live, this kind of thing is not easy for outsiders to say, and it can't help you come up with any ideas, don't be angry, it's not necessary to be angry, you have to learn to be happy, no matter what they do to you, you have to take good care of yourself,

Moved out and brought your own children.

I understand you.

But I understand your mother-in-law better.

The old man hasn't had a good life for most of his life, so it's hard to be free, and the environment here is better.

Everyone has parents, and no matter how many shortcomings they have, they want to tolerate and even indulge them.

I suggest that you try to buy a house nearby for your mother-in-law to live in, so that it will be good to keep a little distance and take care of your parents sometimes.

When your husband was a child, did his parents think that he was very ignorant and wanted to abandon him, or let him live independently?

I'll admit that some people get tired of being together for a long time, and eventually they hate it so much that they wish they didn't have to see each other. Human nature is not a question of right or wrong.

However, I really want you to take a step back and open the sky. Do you imagine that your husband would be where he is today without his parents?

No matter how bad a child is, he is also biological, and in the same way, no matter how bad his parents are, he is the best and dearest to himself in the world.

Today, even if your husband wants his parents to move back, what you have to do is persuade him.

Landlord, you are a good daughter-in-law, but you can do better. Adjust your mentality, empathize, and accept your mother-in-law again. It's best to buy another house, and if it's expensive nearby, try to find it!

I'm sure you can figure it out.