Tell me how to be a gentle person in life?

It's quite simple to say: smile more, not the kind of hahaha or smiling tiger, or the eyebrows and eyes are crooked and slightly smiling; Be alone and keep your heart, instead of being led by the nose by desire; Not to judge others easily, to know the minimum of respect, this is more important than formal gentleness; has a bottom line, knowing the difference between rotten good people, soft persimmon buns and gentleness; When you encounter other people's problems, bring yourself into it, and your words will be gentler in this way, because it is easier to understand the other person's feelings from the other person's point of view; Even when you are excited, control the tone of your speech and calm down the speed of speech, and the effect will be very good, that is, you can speak well; Sometimes not intrusion is also a form of tenderness. But none of the above is easy, especially the last point.

Strong inside. This is the most fundamental guarantee of true gentleness. If you are extremely uneasy in your heart, you will always maintain a posture of confrontation with the world, how can you be gentle?

In love too. If a man complains that his wife is too strong and not gentle enough, there is a possibility that he does not give her enough security, otherwise why should she arm herself, always ready to erect thorns in her heart In addition to having a sense of security, she must also be confident: when encountering setbacks, she firmly believes that she can break through if she works hard, so that she can maintain a gentle posture and negotiate with the world without losing her reserve; After being misunderstood and questioned, he still does not doubt himself, so that he can be "unaware and not ashamed" and become a gentle gentleman.

Without a strong heart as the foundation, the so-called gentleness is just a polite shell, which will one day be crushed by reality.

Cleaning up the circle does not mean that you are locked in a safe shell to construct your own small world, pretending that the years are quiet and the present world is stable, but when you meet people with negative energy, people who have different ways and have to conspire with you, people who do not cherish your gentleness and even waste it for granted, do not care about him in words, do not have a deep friendship with him in life, and just get by on face. Over time, even if he still appears in your life, he will not interfere with your circle, just nodding his head. This is to avoid unnecessary quarrels and ruin one's own gentleness; The second is to let the people around you cherish your gentleness, let your gentleness be reciprocated, and let yourself be treated gently.

There is such a saying, when people are treated gently, they want to be gentle.

The gentleness that withholds one's temper out of politeness and upbringing is not really gentleness, it is treating others with the suppression of oneself. True gentleness is inner self-confidence, so it is tolerant enough, because I have seen through a lot of things, have a broad enough perspective, and don't care from the bottom of my heart, so it's really hard to get angry. But having these is not enough to be called a gentle person, because it may bring indifference, so add one more point, the heart is full of love and kindness, but does not ask others to do the same.

Osamu Dazai has a saying: There is a word called "oblivion", which seems to describe the poor worm, the loser, or the unscrupulous person in the world. However, I feel that I have been lost to the world since I was born, so whenever I meet people of the same kind who are criticized by everyone, I will be gentle with them.

My gentle heart is so intoxicating that even I am intoxicated. This is probably the best interpretation of the word "gentleness" that I have ever read. The best gentleness in this world is to always have compassion.

Because he knows what he has endured, death will not cause his loved one to suffer the same pain or be affected by it in the slightest. Others think you don't know what to do, but every time you see your loved ones, your eyes are full of distress. But if you can keep this in mind in your life, you should be considered a very special and gentle person.

Deeply love the world, or always keep a sense of distance from it. Those who are truly gentle are either seriously happy or seriously lonely. It is painful to force yourself to be happy, and it is regrettable to get used to being lonely for a long time.

So in fact, if you can't be completely gentle, it's good to be the purest self naturally.

Empathy, think from someone else's point of view, you will understand many things, and you will understand many things. Everyone has their own reasons, everyone sees that they have hardships, and the others they experience will naturally be gentle.

Gentle people are always likable and very easy to get along withEspecially for women, gentleness is a very beautiful description. So how can we become a gentle and measured person?

1. How to be a gentle and moderate person?

- Don't be in a hurry or impatient.

A person who is often impatient, who would have thought that she was a gentle person? When we encounter problems, the first thing we need to do is to calm down and use our ingenuity to solve problems, and developing such good habits can lay the foundation for us to become a gentle person. If you want to be a gentle person, you must first learn to be tolerant and understanding, and only when we understand the other person's situation well enough can we convince ourselves not to be angry.

- Helpful

People who like to help others are definitely not badand certainly comes across as friendly and gentle. So, to be a gentle person is to be oneCaring people。To learnBe empathetic, a person who knows how to put himself in the shoes of others will often be liked, but also because he understands the other person's heartThe heart will also become clear, and you will know how to deal with various types of people, and remember that gentleness is not the same as cowardice, and gentleness is worthy of people.

- Focus on yourself

Good people are always luckyWhile constantly improving yourself, you can also give people a bright eye. Aren't you the gentlest person there? A gentle person who is not only good-tempered, but also empathetic.

Therefore we have to suppress our temperEven if you are angry again, you will not use foul language to scold people, let alone use your hands, which is not only not gentle, but also very barbaric and disliked.

2. Why should we be a gentle and moderate person?

- The benefits of gentleness

Gentleness with just the right amount of gentleness always gives a very comfortable feeling and makes people feel safe. For social, weAlways willing to make friends with a gentle person；For work,Gentleness is more conducive to pulling in customer relationships and increasing trust

- There are benefits of degree

The meaning of having a degree is to have a principle bottom line, which is a constraint on oneself and a responsibility for oneself. It doesn't matter if you do things or behave as a person, whether you speak or socializeWithin the limits of principle, do not indulge yourself and do not accept the indulgences of others. In this way, you will not offend others, but you will not be despised by othersMaintain social distancing.

AnywayGentleness and moderation is a long-term habit, which is good for yourself and the people around you. Gentleness is not cowardice, gentleness is not heart, meekness is tenacity and kindness.

In social life, you often deal with other people, if you can be a gentle and moderate person, then you will always be liked, and many people will voluntarily get along with you and make friends, especially young people. I think the following needs to be done:

First, don't panic in case of trouble, but be steady. As the saying goes, a person with an impatient temper will have a little temper, and it is difficult to be a gentle and moderate person, so you must change your temper. When you encounter anything in social life, you must be calm, control your emotions, and think that something has happened, how to optimize this problem in the next step, instead of losing your temper, because in anger, anger and complaining, it will not help, but delay the processing, which will make things worse, it is better to calm down and think about how to deal with it.

Therefore, learn to be self-disciplined, not to do what you want, and to remain rational, calm, and not impulsive in difficult situations.

Calm character.

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Second, we must be generous and have a long-term vision. The ancients said well, the prime minister can hold the boat in his belly, which means that we should be lenient in social life, and we should not be careless when we encounter things, let alone ignore and forgive people. Because it is difficult to ensure that you will make a small mistake by accidentally touching others in your life, you must understand others more and be more considerate of others, so that you will win the respect and love of others.

When we deal with things, we should also take a long-term view, not only consider the unfavorable aspects of things, but also have a sense of the overall situation and a long-term awareness, which is a wise way of doing things in life, and it is also the embodiment of personal noble charm.

Lofty goals.

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3. Be helpful and caring for others. It is precisely because of being helpful and caring for others in social life that mutual respect and kindness in social interactions are conducive to the formation of a good interpersonal atmosphere and the promotion of social civilization and progress. When helping and caring for others, you can often receive the help and care of those around you, and you will also receive the appreciation and recognition of others.

Therefore, it is important to care more not only for your family, friends, and loved ones, but also for other people around you, so that a person with a temperament can be called a gentle person.

A caring heart.

Don't be exaggerated and extravagant, it's better to say it than to say it completely. — Leo Tolstoy

The world is very impetuous and the society is complex. So how do you integrate yourself with the world, that isWeakness but also strengthIt is to be gentle with the world and refuse to touch the world deeply. So how do you do it?

Develop patience

As mentioned above, the world is very impetuous, and we are in it, and if we are as impetuous as this world, then we will become an empty shell without a soul. Be a little more patient and gentle with this impetuous worldDo everything seriously. With patience, we can not only become gentle, but also have a greater sense of proportion, have our own principles, and be both gentle and moderate.

Respect privacy

In my opinion, gentleness and moderation means having a sense of privacy and boundaries. Respecting the privacy of others means respecting their private space. The private space consists of two aspectsOne is emotional, and the other is personal.

Emotional aspects. Everyone has their secrets, it may be related to family, it may be related to friends, it may be related to their partner. Whatever the secret, it's not something we should be looking into.

People who gossip at will are very annoying, and other people's secrets have become a topic of conversation after dinnerNot only gossip spreads everywhere, but such people will be rejected by people.

In terms of personal belongings. Without the consent of othersFeel free to use someone else's stuffThis kind of behavior is also inappropriate. We can buy it ourselves, or we can get it ourselves through hard work, and if we really want to use someone else's, we must ask for their permission.

Improve experience

The extent to which a person can go has a great deal to do with the height of his thinking.

If we have seen the efforts made by the people at the bottom for the sake of food and clothing for their families, and we have seen the wandering people nibbling on bread for their livelihoodsI have seen the luxurious life of high society,If we look at the young and promising, then we can better understand the world. By understanding the extremes and stubbornness of this world, we can be gentle with the poor and indulgent with luxury.

Self-independence

Human beings are, by their very nature, independent individualsSeparating society from the self can naturally achieve gentleness, and gentleness is also indifference on the one hand. But the separation here is by no means to derail oneself from society, to be incompatible with society, to be gentle, and to be completely indifferent if you can't do it in moderation. Therefore, independence here is to let us insist on ourselves, and on the way to self-realization, we should not be easily influenced by external objects.

Conclusion:

Gentleness is the realm pursued by many people, and the cultivation of any kind of character must be heartfelt, and the heart is uncertain, and how to achieve gentleness and moderation.

<>In life, when you are not picky, do not complain about anything, all things, as long as it is a bad concept, whether it is right or wrong, do not say, as long as you slowly and slowly do not complain about the things around you. And then you'll really find out these bad things. Even if everything you look at is beautiful, you won't see it, and you won't be able to see it.

Sometimes I want to complain, but I just won't say it, and I won't reveal it. You just remember, don't express any kind of negation, just say good, only good。Slowly you will become a super gentle person, and your belly will also be large, and the pattern will be high.

The first point: the speed of speech

Don't speak too fast, as it's easy for people to hear inaudibly, and it will give others a strong impression. There are also many people who are in a hurry, he will raise the volume, which will appear impolite, you can slow down a little bit, and you also know that the same sentence, as long as your tone changes, his meaning is completely different.

Number two: learn to listen

We must also learn to listen, as much as possible when others are speaking, or when we want to speak, we must be a kind and serious listener, do not interrupt, do not steal words, and must patiently listen to what others have to say.

The third point: tolerance

I think that true gentleness is actually to learn to control your emotions, instead of thinking about it every day, and then love to lose your temper, which is not only not good for your health, but also easy to grow wrinkles and become ugly over time. Think more from the perspective of others, tolerate others, understand others, and maintain a good attitude to be good at discovering beauty, so that you will become more and more beautiful.

。You must appreciate others, you must find them, appreciate them, even if they are a little bit to be infinitely magnified, just gentle once, will make you a lot happier.

When the feminine energy is weak, it is not gentleness that is shown, but hardness, and when the feminine energy is high, it will be very gentle. Gentleness is actually a manifestation of sufficient energy, in fact, gentleness does not need to be learned, it is the natural overflow of our vitality, it is natural.

Gentleness is a very beautiful thing for everyone. Even if it's hard at first, if you really do it, you will really feel how other people feel different about you.