What is it like for parents to save a penny?

Parents have no savings, which means that the family is not wealthy, and they are always in a state of scarcity. This has a very big impact on a child, and even affects his self-confidence, he knows that the family is not able to give him the support he wants, and there will be a certain inferiority complex in the interaction with his peers.

I was in such a very poor family, and the biggest feeling I had was that I was insecure since I was a child.

I often hear that my parents quarrel over money, and sometimes they will go out to borrow money to spend, which makes me feel very anxious, I never dare to hope for things that others have, because I don't know that the family is very difficult, and I like the shoes that my classmates are wearing, but I don't dare to ask for a pair of shoes with my family.

Because of this kind of poverty, I have a special love for vanity, always afraid that others will dislike my family conditions are not good, and feel that others are looking at me with strange eyes, so when I grow up, I will try to hide the fact that my family conditions are not good, what clothes my classmates wear I try to buy similar to them, what kind of mobile phone my classmates use, I will also slap my swollen face and become fat, and save money to buy the same mobile phone.

Of course I know it's not right, but there's no way I can change it, it's the family I grew up in.

A character that slowly develops.

When I was about to get married, I suddenly felt that my parents were pitiful, they did not accumulate wealth when they were young, and when the children got married, they naturally could not come up with the money, I remember when my partner and I were about to get married, the parents of both sides sat together at the table and talked about the marriage of the two children.

Because I'm a boy, we have to come up with a lot of money here, and we don't have any money at home, so we still have to go out and borrow money, at the dinner table for my mother.

I was already crying, I couldn't bear it at that time, and I even secretly made up my mind that if my girlfriend's parents insisted on asking me to come up with too much money, then I would not get married.

This is the experience of poor family conditions, and it is very real.

I think it's a very insecure experience, because when our parents reach their age, if they don't have savings, it's actually very dangerous, in case there is something big in the family that they can't handle.

I will feel very helpless, feeling that other parents are planning for their children, but my own parents are not.

I think it will be extremely insecure, after all, there is no confidence without deposit. If you get sick, the cost is very high. I guess that feeling is quite devastating.

It will make children feel insecure and form an inferiority complex from an early age.

Netizens' personal experience:

When I was a child, my family had money, and my dad came back from abroad and began to sit on empty food, saying that he would look for a job when he had no money; My mom takes that money, and invites this to dinner today and that tomorrow until the deposit is 0.

When I was in elementary school, my family was poor, and I even ate dry noodles for a semester, and I still want to vomit when I smell it.

When I was in high school, my family had a deposit of tens of thousands, and then my dad took a **, and the deposit was cheated out of nothing.

Ma Ma always has to buy good clothes, I have a T-shirt **, my mother bought thousands of dollars as soon as she got up, and then bought it and was reluctant to wear it, and she was in the closet for two years.

I talked to them, there are two ways to deposit, open source and throttling, since you have no way to open source, then throttle, unnecessary things do not buy, do not spend or throw away, the two of them immediately jumped on their feet like stepping on the tail and scolded me for disobedience (I was born in May, and I have been scolded for disobedience since I was a child).

The two bosses took advantage of each other's absence, and said bad things about each other in front of me, what a waste, all blame you x ah balabala, it's always the other party's fault that I'm not at all wrong, since I was a child, I have heard these clichés talk about big, full of negative energy, more than once I wanted to commit suicide, but fortunately I was persuaded by my roommates and friends.

When they were young, they were greedy for comfort and pleasure, and they were about to retire and had no pension, and their future depended on me alone.

Now that I have graduated from college and just started working, I don't have a single passbook at home, and I ask my relatives to borrow 30,000 yuan when I am sick (my relatives have been borrowed, and I owe more than 100,000 yuan for nearly 20 years).

All kinds of urging marriage, saying that I will pay all my future wages and save a dowry for me.

Whenever a boy expresses his affection for me, I immediately refuse on the grounds that my career is important, in fact, I can't afford to fall in love and get married.

The impact on children is great :

At the same time, low self-esteem always follows me, coupled with pessimism and budding depression, laughing in front of people and crying after others, and crying alone in the middle of the night.

I know that there is no worst, only worse, but I don't want to compare it to the worse to highlight that I'm not that bad. In my world, in my family, I can't breathe freely.