Why do some people become adults but don t have the ability to stand on their own?

To put it mildly, this is the habit, parents and their generation of brothers and sisters, suffered a lot, suffered a lot, whether it is ** children are very self-reliant, this is mainly because they don't do it, not self-reliant, no one to help you, and now that, every household is a child, the most is two children, now the self-reliance ability is very poor, far away, just take the laundry, cooking these little things, really do very little, the main reason is that the parents are too doting on their children, reluctant to let the children work, Washing clothes for fear of hurting your hands, and stir-frying for fear of oil splashing on your body, this is the result of parents getting used to their children and stifling their children's ability to stand on their own feet.

Today's children are increasingly losing their autonomy, which is inseparable from their home education. Nowadays, there are few children in the family, and parents regard them as the pearl in the palm of their hands, holding them in their hands for fear of falling, holding them in their mouths for fear of melting, excessive spoiling, and developing the habit of stretching out their hands for clothes and opening their mouths for food, and the habit becomes natural, and over time, they have developed the character of relying on their parents for everything, and they have lost their autonomy. Then the learning task is really big, and the child's learning burden is too heavy, not to mention various tutorial classes, even the teacher's homework is overwhelmed, so there is time to do other work!

Besides, how eager parents are to hope that their son will become a dragon and their daughter will become a phoenix, and they are willing to let their children waste time and energy to do useless work. This also makes the child lose his or her autonomy. Wise parents will cultivate their children's autonomy from an early age and let them do what they can, and I really hope that there will be more and more such parents.

They were overly spoiled by their parents when they were young, and they did not develop the habit of thinking independently and living independently.

It may be that parents have given too much love, and now parents are over-spoiling their children, causing children to lose their ability to stand on their own, in fact, it is not that parents want to do this, but they just want to give him the best love, and they also hope that parents can try to change, real love, not excessive care, but let him be independent.

Family education, self-awareness, children should cultivate their own ability from an early age, and when they become adults, they must face this society alone, and they cannot always rely on their parents, because everyone has the day to grow up and grow old.

This is a very real question, why do people have to send their clothes home to wash when they are adults and go to college? Why can't you do anything when you enter society? It's because what they get is too easy, parents spoil their children too much, children don't want to change, parents continue to protect their children, the endless cycle, you have to let the children know how difficult it is to survive in this society, the child still has to be poor, when he realizes how uncomfortable it is to be poor, he will work harder to cherish his wealth in the future.

The family is too spoiled, everything is thought out for them, they accept it naturally, and they never have to think about what they need to do.

This has something to do with the fact that parents have not given too much exercise in self-care and independence since childhood, and now parents are too accustomed to their children, and many children are now just clothes to reach out and eat to open their mouths.

Parents' excessive weak love and meticulous care. Accustomed the child to the clothes to reach out. Rice to open the mouth. Never have the ability to live independently. lived a life of gnawing old people all his life.

I can only say that my parents took care of me too well, and when I was in college, my roommate couldn't even wash his clothes and shoes, and his self-reliance was surprisingly poor.