What it s like to be in a relationship with an insecure girl

First of all, an insecure girl will have a fragile heart, and you will be very careful when you fall in love with her. Because insecure girls are like children who need to be protected, sometimes some of your unintentional actions can hurt them.

In the face of such a girl, you will be very careful when you speak, and you will show that you care about her very much, because only when they feel that you care, they will feel safe. With her, you will always be very worried, worried about when she will be unhappy, because there are many small things she will care about, she will often ask you if you don't love her anymore, in the face of this kind of her, occasionally you will be a little tired.

Secondly, when falling in love with an insecure girl, she will be very suspicious. Because of her lack of security, her personality is both sensitive and suspicious, and she will secretly analyze everything you say, not because she doesn't believe it, but because she is really afraid of getting hurt. When you reply to her messages late, she will wonder if you don't want to pay attention to her.

When you have dinner with a friend and don't have time to pick up her **, she will think that you deliberately didn't pick up.

She will capture all your expressions and then judge your attitude towards her based on your expressions, so you must look at her with very focused and sincere eyes. She will also accurately distinguish your lies, so in front of such a girl, you can't lie, you lie to her once, and she will never believe you again.

Some people may think that it will be hard to be with an insecure girl, but in fact, she is just too afraid of losing you, and she wants you to be with her all the time, that's all. I know this because I'm also an insecure girl.

I'm a seriously insecure girl, in the relationship I value the most is a sense of security and belonging, if I feel that we are together, you can't give me the sense of security I want, then I don't think there is any need to continue this relationship, for insecure girls and boyfriends are very painful every day, because the heart has to bear a lot of their own crankiness, so it's really tired and tired, tired that you can only let go.

I'm very insecure when I'm in love, it's not that distrust is the innate lack of that feeling, I'm afraid of marriage, I feel the most unreliable is men, the man who loves me in the world will be my father, so I think if a guy and his girlfriend are very insecure, if you love her, please give her a sense of belonging.

The reason why I broke up with my boyfriend who I had been talking about for three years was because I was insecure, and I don't know how many times I quarreled because of this lack of security in the three years I was with him, and it was impossible to say that I didn't understand it after three years of being together, but it didn't feel enough to say how much I knew, I always thought cranky with him, I always felt that he would leave me one day, and even I felt that as long as he didn't pick up my ** and didn't reply to my messages, it was all a way to leave me.

Sometimes I feel like I'm really driving myself crazy, the more I think about it when I'm cranky, the more I don't understand, I really lose my mind at that time, I'm afraid of gaining and losing, I'm afraid that suddenly one day he will leave me, because he never gave me the security I wanted, he never mentioned marriage to me in the three years we were together, and I realized this in the fourth year, I felt that the reason why I was insecure was because she never wanted to marry me so I chose to propose to break up.

If the guy really loves the girl, then please come in, you may have to go and give her a home.

<>1. Learn to express yourself and let the other party know.

You can express it to the other person, let them know that you have insecurities in your heart, and let them know that some of your manifestations are actually just the result of these insecurities. On the one hand, the other person can understand your emotions and behaviors better, and on the other hand, the other person can also help you face and deal with these feelings together.

2. Practice more effective communication.

Sometimes this feeling of uneasiness can make you a little anxious and suspicious, and you need to distinguish and try to recognize these feelings. When you are blindly jealous or keep chasing text messages, you can realize that this is your inner feelings. After realizing it, what you need to learn is to communicate and express in a more effective way instead of complaining or asking for trouble.

3. Learn to give yourself space.

Try to set aside some time and space for yourself, do what you love, enjoy being alone, if you don't have anything you like, then go for it, find it, and you will always find it.

The sense of security of a girl in a relationship mainly comes from a boy. Here are a few things a guy can do for a girl:

1.Give the girl enough patience.

Carefully understand the person's experience and understand that the root of the problem is **. It may be because of the indifference of parent-child relationship in childhood, it may be because of the bullying experienced in school, or it may be the shadow left by the previous relationship. There must often be an experience that is particularly unforgettable, and the seeds of "disapproval of oneself" can be planted in this person's experience.

2.Make the other person aware that they are different.

Many couples are very sweet when they first fall in love, but they gradually lose patience in the later stage, and the two people don't communicate with each other in their daily lives, and they don't want to praise each other. Even if it is an ordinary couple, girls may feel speechless and sad because of this nervous way, not to mention that you need to face a person who has a relatively low self-worth recognition.

3.Care and praise the girls a lot.

In the relationship, you must praise each other more, affirm the value of the other party, fully affirm the contribution made by this person, and clearly send a message to the other party: you are different from others, you have changed me, and you are very important to me.

4.Affection requires two people to work together.

Girls should also be strong and brave to face reality and learn to grow. At the same time, men and women should support each other, encourage each other, and understand each other. Only in this way can the relationship between two people last for a long time.

What should I do if a girl is insecure in love? Cherish emotions and build long-term relationships that are safe and stable.

At a certain point in your reshaping relationship, you can begin to build a framework for your emotional future. Many times, a relationship is irretrievable, in fact, it is just missing a few breakthroughs, and the breakthrough in your relationship is to give a sense of security, so your framework should also be created from this.

A woman has already been disappointed in you once, and you can only achieve her second expectation of you by doing better, giving her enough security can reduce her psychological pressure and burden, better make her trust you, and even willing to take off her own defenses and let you be her armor.

Insecure women don't like to live with ups and downs on and off, so establishing a safe and stable long-term relationship can keep her heart.

From a girl's point of view, if you don't have a sense of security, you should consider whether it's your own problem, don't always think about it, and from the boy's point of view, it's whether you're not doing well enough to make your girlfriend not have enough security. Two people must understand each other, run in with each other, and reflect on their own problems, so that they will last longer and longer, and the problems in love are between two people, never one party's problems, open their hearts, and everything can be solved.

Love solves all problems, <>

I'm a particularly insecure person, for this reason, my boyfriend got angry and quarreled, and got angry, and then we made a rule, no matter what you have to talk to, you have to tell each other what you do, you can see each other on your mobile phone, we don't have the so-called privacy, after all the transparency of the two people know each other too well, I thought it was boring to talk like this, but I didn't expect it to be more like glue.

Telling each other about love all the time is not numb.

There is also mutual tolerance, mutual trust, love that proves by action, the most real, everything comes first to my baby, love makes people irrational, but good love will guide you in the right direction.

Recognize the essence of life. There are many other things to do in life besides love, so don't get too involved in a relationship and can't extricate yourself. It's okay to love someone deeply, but don't see him as the whole of life, you will be tired of the person who loves you if you are bitter.

Position each other objectively. Objectively locate the person you love, don't deify him, over-perfect. Therefore, he may also have times when he is not thoughtful, and there will be times when he ignores you, and he must learn to self-regulate.

Increase self-confidence. Study more, work hard to earn money, dress yourself, and improve your self-confidence. It is necessary to believe that no one must be unworthy of anyone, and only those who give up progress will be more likely to lose.

Communicate more and express your needs more. Communicate more with men, don't avoid questions, express your thoughts more, let men understand you, understand you, and thus understand you more and love you more.

More together. Being together as much as possible is the best way to alleviate insecurity. The person you love is always by your side, you can see and touch it, and you love each other, which is the best**.

Insecurity about love requires us to make some effort to overcome these anxieties.

The need for security, that is, a sense of security, is the most basic spiritual need of human beings, which refers to the security and peace that they feel in their hearts. In psychology, a sense of security is classified as a kind of psychology, and people who lack a sense of security are impetuous, unconfident, suspicious, sensitive and vulnerable. All these thoughts and emotions produce a state of fear and anxiety, and a stronger desire to control others, leaving those around them breathless.

First, the sense of security is given to oneself, and others play more of a role in thrust. When you lack a sense of security in your heart, you can make yourself your friend, warm yourself, care for yourself, accept yourself, unify your imaginary self with your real self, and let your current self do your best.

2. Re-understand and evaluate oneself. Tell yourself that you can't make mistakes, give yourself a chance to correct your mistakes, accept your own shortcomings, and try to accept the evaluation and criticism of yourself from external sources, but you must have your own ideas in your heart, don't affect yourself too much because of external factors, and make your evaluation system more perfect.

3. Get in touch with more sunny things in life. Watch more joyful movies, books, listen to more cheerful **, and less about the places where negative energy gathers in life, the environment can change a person, and get in touch with more sunny things to make yourself happy.

Some people often say that they lack a sense of security, and hope to bring themselves a sense of security through money, power, absolute control over others, etc., but the most down-to-earth sense of security is not obtained from others, and the most down-to-earth sense of security comes from your affirmation of yourself. Only when you can truly affirm and love yourself, can you be less anxious in your relationship and no longer pursue absolute control.

1.People who usually behave very cautiously are generally insecure in their hearts, they are very sensitive, and they are afraid of being disgusted by others because they have done something wrong2What you can do is definitely not to trouble others, what you can't do is hard to do, you still can't give up and don't want to ask for help, this is caused by a lack of security, and your heart is very independent.

3.Because don't show a little bit of kindness, you can't wait to take out your whole heart to others, their hearts are very lonely, and they are also eager to get attention 4People who are insecure are less confident and will not take the initiative to talk to others, but they will find that they are still very enthusiastic after getting along for a long time.

In general, for insecure girls, the performance in love is that they mainly distrust each other more often, and are always full of doubts about each other's feelings, such as often asking each other about some behaviors, or questioning the purpose of the other party's interactions with others, and even sometimes often being jealous, or spying on others, it is possible, or always repeating a question, which represents the girl's insecurity.

Hello, girls who are insecure in love will be more sensitive, vigilant, and no one can fully believe anything, but whenever someone says something that makes you feel uncomfortable, she will be particularly vigilant, no matter how much others say that she will still feel shortcomings. I hope mine can help you out.

For example, always ask you to post on Moments to show affection, such as not answering ** and feeling that you are with other women, such as constantly asking you if you love her.

Hitting ** will be more frequent, you will feel that you don't love him enough, you will have no sense of security, and you will think about why you keep calling ** to ask her what you are doing in ** and who you are with. He doesn't bother you on purpose, it's because he cares too much, is upset, or misses you too much. I also care about the eyes of others, and I have to accompany me when I go to **.