With rich Su Mingyu and no rich Fan Shengmei, can the injuries given by the original family really b

I think the family of origin has a really big impact on a person, and it can even affect a person's life. However, I think this kind of damage can also be **.

I think it's very difficult, such an injury is difficult to erase with anything, and there will be a psychological shadow for a lifetime, especially in the original family, such an injury is really difficult**.

The harm that the original family gave themselves is actually very difficult, this pain is from the heart, I have had such pain since I was a child, and I will feel very inferior in my heart.

If you want to escape the pain of your original family, you must first be strong, don't rely on anyone, make money by yourself, buy a house by yourself, live your own life, so that you will not be disappointed, make new friends in a new circle of friends, get rid of the psychology brought to them by your parents since childhood, and do something you like to divert your attention.

If you meet such a family, you should make yourself very beautiful in life, and you should also let yourself have a very good financial ability, so that you can escape. There should be something loving to be touched.

You should continue to work hard, and you should let yourself have your own status in society, so that you can escape well and have ways and means to support yourself.

Because the two have different hearts, in the face of the blows of life and family, she still chooses a positive life, but Fan Shengmei is a bit of a money worshipper.

Because the personalities of the two people are not the same, and their parents' temperaments and personalities are also different, the environment in which they grew up is different.

Everyone's family education is different, and the personality of the children who are educated is also different, so everyone has a life of self-sensitivity. And it has its own practice.

I don't agree with that.

Su Mingyu is excellent in learning, and he has a stubborn personality and wants to be strong. Since she was separated from her parents, she has demanded a lot of independence. The best thing about her than Fan Sheng is that she met a noble person like "Lao Meng", but I think that even if she doesn't meet Lao Meng, she won't mix badly, as can be seen from her character.

And she is very hard-working and willing to endure hardships, even if she makes money, she will not be arrogant. Instead, she spends her money in more important places, so she has a good investment eye.

What about Fan Shengmei, how can you say it......She has a failed family of origin, her parents don't love her, and she is dragged back by her brother. But she is also greedy for vanity and is bent on marrying a rich man to change her current predicament. She didn't realize that if she wanted to succeed, she had to rely on her own continuous efforts, not by marrying someone to change her predicament.

So I think the view of "rich Su Mingyu has no money Fan Shengmei" is incorrect, you can also Su Mingyu if you don't have money, you have to work hard and not admit defeat. You can't be defeated by the difficulties in front of you, grit your teeth and persevere. And girls must know that real rich people can look up to you, first of all, you must have the ability to attract rich people.

First of all, Su Mingyu and Fan Shengmei's family nature is the same, they have both lived in their original families since childhood, and their parents have patriarchal ideologies, and they have seriously affected their lives.

Su Mingyu and Fan Shengmei are the same, their mothers are both partial brothers, regardless of them, and always think of them when there is something at home, spoiling their son as a gnawing old man, spending money lavishly all day long, and even inconsiderate of the family. Both of them are the kind of people who are oppressed by their families, but their families have never done anything for them. But Su Mingyu and Fan Shengmei are a little different, Su Mingyu has lived the life she wants with her own efforts, but Fan Shengmei still wants to marry a good family to take care of her family, this is the biggest difference between them.

Su Mingyu is the boss of the company, but Fan Shengmei is just an ordinary small employee, there is a difference in their income in the first place, and Fan Shengmei is not like Su Mingyu who can give the family a lot of money with a big wave, she has no ability to solve the family's money-related matters.

This is why having money is the reason why Su Mingyu became Fan Shengmei without money.

This is a very real problem.

We often say that "every family has a scripture that is difficult to read", and many families have some contradictions to a greater or lesser extent, and the contradictions of these original families will bring people indelible scars for a lifetime.

Su Mingyu dared to act, after knowing the current situation of her family, she dared to contend with it, and with her own continuous efforts, she broke away from the Su family, in order to escape, she paid a lot more effort and sweat than others, and endured a lot of loneliness, so as to become a successful person and have enough money.

And Fan Shengmei, more like us who have been tortured by our original family in our lives, wants to escape, but she can't escape after working hard all her life, she wants to make a lot of money, but her ability is insufficient and she can't escape.

In life, money is really important, if you have money, you can have a minimum chic life like Su Mingyu, and you can also generously take out money for your family. If you don't have money, you can only be like Fan Shengmei, even your lover is cautious.

If Su Mingyu didn't have so much money, then it would be impossible for her to give 400,000 yuan to buy land for her deceased mother, it would be impossible for Su Daqiang to make up for this hole after Su Daqiang was defrauded of 60,000 yuan, and it would be impossible for her to buy the old house with 1.5 million, and there would be no way to lend 200,000 yuan when her eldest brother was short of money to buy a house. Not to mention quitting his job to take care of his father at home. The reason why Su Mingyu can get out of the control of the original family is mostly because he has enough ability to support the family, can support the original family, and can also say no to the original family!

In the TV series, Su Mingcheng would say every time he quarreled with Mingyu: "Don't you just have two stinky money?" He didn't see Mingyu's hard work, even when he came home from work, he still worked in front of the computer most of the time, in fact, these were all through his own efforts.

And I think of Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy", pinning all her hopes on finding a rich man to be her boyfriend, and never thought of making money through her own efforts. And she has been unable to talk about a wishful object because of the drag of her original family. I still remember that there was a scene in it, it was also my father who was sick, Fan Shengmei went around to borrow money, but no one could lend her money, and finally asked Andy to borrow some money, for a girl who is incapable, a patriarchal family is always a hole that cannot be filled.

There are many unsatisfactory things in life, but if there is money, these unsatisfactory will be reduced by half, and the unhappiness of the rich is at most to shed tears and drink a little wine. And the unhappiness of the poor is despair. Because it's really scary to have no money.

So don't think about marrying yourself off at any time, and you will have no worries about food and clothing in the future, which is really not the case. No matter what level you reach, don't stop working hard, just like Shi Tiandong was asking Su Mingyu what she was going to do if she didn't work in the future, she said: "I want to continue to study and go abroad for further study."

Because learning never ends, self-disciplined people are the most attractive.

There was a passage that was very popular on Weibo before:

A child who has always felt that he has a good family atmosphere is very lucky, he has seen what a good relationship is like, has a keen sense of love for health, and it is easy to run in the right direction. ”

And what about the children who grew up in a make-do, cold-war, quarrelsome relationship between husband and wife?

I don't know what's good, and it takes a lot of effort to kick the bad ones away. It takes many years to know which path is right. ”

They were not lucky enough to enjoy more protection and love, but they endured indifferent violence that they did not deserve. As a result, he became independent and insecure, carefree on the surface, but full of holes in his heart.

The influence of the family of origin on the outlook on life is completely two extremes.

One that will bring calm and abundant love, looking for mom when you're hungry, going home when you're tired, never being afraid, because of your dad.

On the one hand, it is grateful to its parents for allowing them to have an independent and free personality in advance, and on the other hand, they really feel sorry for themselves and miss out on the very important thing between people - the ability to express and accept love.

03 Influence the concept of marriage and love.

Children who grow up in happy families often believe in love unswervingly.

Even if you are single, you will not lose your expectations for love, let alone settle for anything;

Even if you break up, you will not lose the ability to love someone, and you will always have the best imagination and hope for marriage.

If a child grows up in quarrels and domestic violence, he or she often lacks confidence in love and marriage.

Just like a netizen said:

My parents have been arguing for more than 20 years, and every time they quarrel, they drop things, and the tableware in my house is stainless steel. At that time, I thought that I must not have children in the future, and I must not let my children live the same life as me. ”

They shut out all intimate relationships, even if they meet someone they like, when they think of family and parents, they will silently tell themselves, "Forget it";

If you fail in love, you feel that you can't trust anyone anymore, and you will lose the ability to love others when you are not old next year.

The biggest influence of the original family on a person's view of love is that only those who have experienced love will have the courage to believe in love.

In short, let yourself be rich, don't become Fan Shengmei.

I think that although the two have something in common, it is only their mother's patriarchal thinking that is inferior to women, but what causes the difference in the ending of the two is their personalities.

Su Ming is so strong and ruthless enough to herself, but she relies on her own efforts to get everything she has, because she feels that she can't rely on anyone, and she is focused on her career, and she values love and righteousness, and she can see it if she doesn't betray her master, including being able to take it and put it down, and finally seeing that the master doesn't allow her to give up what she has in a chic way, which is all the face of the master. This shows that in my bones, I feel that family affection and master-apprentice love are more important than money.

And Fan Shengmei wants to rely on others, and feels that she should enjoy the care and pampering of men when she is beautiful, and she has not been able to get rid of the oppression of her family because she lacks courage and ruthlessness, has no principles, and her mind is all about trivial things, and she just gets by with her work, and she wants to marry into a wealthy family, and she feels that finding a man is the best way out for her, and she does not put all her thoughts on her career at all.

So Su Mingyu and Fan Shengmei's matter was determined because of her character, not because of her "money".

No matter what level you reach, whether you have money or not, don't stop working hard, just like Shi Tiandong was asking Su Mingyu what she was going to do if she didn't work in the future, she said: "I want to continue to study and go abroad for further study." "Because learning never ends, people who are self-disciplined are the most attractive.

Although Su Mingyu is rich, she is not happy. Her success may have been forced out by her parents. She didn't get love from her parents, and she didn't even feel grounded.

So she worked hard to earn money for herself, life, and psychological security. Sometimes I think she's quite pitiful.

Su Mingyu has a very strong personality since he was a child, and his independent personality is also very light and strong, even his father Su Daqiang is a little afraid of Su Mingyu, only Su Mingyu can stop his father's behavior and do things.

Whoever said this, of course, is incorrect.

Nowadays, there are many rich people, and there are many tens of billions of people, Su Mingyu is a white-collar worker, who works for the boss. There are also many people who have no money, and there are still many areas where the problem of hunger and satiety cannot be solved, and Fan Shengmei is not worried about food and clothing, how can it be called no money.

Don't be proud if you have money, don't be discouraged and don't seek progress if you don't have money, you have money to live a good life with or without money, and you have to live every day with money or not.

Su Mingyu is successful in her studies and career, independent since she was a child, although she has money, she spends money in a measured way, and her money is earned by her own hard work. From her, I can see that most people work hard, in short, they are very tough and don't show off.

I think there are very few people who can become Su Mingyu, but there are many who become Fan Shengmei, most of them know that their original family is not good, but very few can jump out.

The family is similar, but the personality is different. Su Mingyu is decisive and independent, and Fan Shengmei loves vanity.

It's the values of life that matter. It doesn't matter if you have money or not. As long as you have a normal mindset. Have a noble character. He was just a rich man.

Su Mingyu's luck is better than Fan Sheng's, and Su Mingyu is a little more ruthless than Fan Shengmei.

The old saying that wealth is generous is still reasonable, money is the last word, money is temper, money is confidence, this is rich Su Mingyu has no money Fan Shengmei.

If you have money, you will be Su Mingyu, and if you don't have money, you will become Fan Shengmei, but to be honest, Fan Shengmei is much worse than Su Mingyu!

Su Daqiang didn't cheat his daughter or anything, and Fan Shengmei's parents have always cheated Fan Shengmei.

Fan Shengmei's brother is not domestic violence, Su Mingyu's brother is domestic violence.

Fan Shengmei and Su Mingyu were not in conflict, Fan Shengmei was also working very hard to make money, Su Mingyu just followed the right one, and people struggled earlier. Fan Shengmei and Su Mingyu were not in conflict, Fan Shengmei was also working very hard to make money, Su Mingyu just followed the right one, and people struggled earlier.