What should I do about my boyfriend s past?

Updated on psychology 2024-05-18
12 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    You are not involved in his past, what you should be calling is his present and future!

    Everyone has a past, don't take his past seriously, the more you take it seriously, it's really the same thing.

    Who hasn't been young! Mature people don't care about these things when they fall in love.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Since you've decided to be together, why care about each other's past?!After all, your life is about looking forward, isn't it?! Besides, such a man also has an advantage:

    I've played and played, I've been crazy, and my heart is more stable, unlike the little hairy man who just came out and doesn't know anything but knows how to play. It's all important to be good to you right now, isn't it? Who hasn't pointed out the past, and people who don't understand anything probably won't be able to look at you.

    If you don't want to break up, don't pursue so many meaningless pasts, no one can change the past, boys, these are all normal, the main thing is that there is no problem with the character!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Don't, don't, don't, some things you don't mind, some things must be minded, some things are moral problems, some things are occasional mistakes, you have to live a lifetime, not to be annoyed or sad for a lifetime.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Distance yourself between you, get to know more, get to know more. The road knows the horsepower, and the people will see it for a long time. His past is not representative of his present, but it is important to see what kind of person he really is.

    If he can control himself, you can also rest assured of him, just continue to date, if not, then resolutely leave, otherwise the bitter fruit will only be swallowed by yourself.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Good horses don't eat back grass! Do you know, how difficult it is to find someone who truly loves you in the vast sea of people! Your current boyfriend loves you so much, you don't want to cherish it.

    The past is long gone, happiness or pain no longer matters, let them become your eternal memories! Your ex-boyfriend once left you ruthlessly, and no one can say if he will hurt you like this in the future. Don't bet on your own happiness, what you have is the most precious!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    He loves you enough and will change for you.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Let's see if he really changes his old bad habits. If that's just his past and not his present. Then you can take a look.

    And it depends on how he treats you. If it's really good for you. And it's for the purpose of getting married.

    Then you can still start over with him. Be careful to see if he is sincere to you.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    If it's all changed, it doesn't matter. If it's still the same as before, forget it.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Do you love him? The past doesn't represent the future, if he can change it...

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    The key is now and in the future.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Won't care about TA's past. If you mind, you can't love him with all your heart. Mind refers to taking things that make people unhappy to heart.

    When you mind a person's past, state that person's past is something that makes you unhappy. Whether these things are his fault or not, they will leave a gap in your heart, even a shadow.

    If you care a lot about the people or things he has met in the past, your heart will not be able to love him 100% anymore. In the future, when you face him, you will be very entangled and painful, and while you enjoy his kindness to you, you will also think from time to time, did he also treat others so well before? Did he treat me like the one he used to be?

    In the matter of love, I am most afraid of suspicion and crankiness.

    And there is a characteristic of human psychology, there are some things, when you don't care about it, it slowly disappears; But if there is one thing that has left a deep mark on your heart, the more you let yourself not care, the clearer it will be in your memory. So in response to this question, from the point of view of love, it is like this: if you love him, then you certainly don't mind his past; If you mind his past, you won't be able to love him anymore.

    If you mind his past, it will make him very painful to mind this, not only will it cause you a certain amount of pain, but it will also make him very painful. You don't mind his past, there will be some manifestations to a greater or lesser extent, sometimes it is an attitude of wanting to be detached, sometimes it will be asked often, and he will be sensitive to the fact that you are very concerned about those things.

    His original intention of telling you about the past is to let you see the real him, and he is not willing to hide anything from his loved ones, and he hopes that after hearing these things, you can rationally consider whether you accept his past. If you don't accept it, then don't get along anymore, the deeper and longer you love, the more painful it will be when you leave; If you can accept it, then he hopes that the past will not affect your future happiness!

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    The first is to trust when you are in love, you can't always doubt the other party, even if you have doubts in your heart, you have to say it directly, you can't lose your temper by yourself, calmly ask the other party what's going on, and tell him your doubts, but you can get his affirmation of yourself. In this way, he can think of his responsibility to you, strengthen your position in his heart, and strengthen your relationship in case the mistress appears. But don't sulk yourself, or you'll become transparent and don't care.

    A bad mood can directly lead to a breakup. So you have to trust, even if you don't get the answer you want, you can give him a wake-up call.

    Second, there is privacy between the two, privacy does not mean distrust, but a person's premarital performance, this kind of performance only shows some of his insecurities, there is no way to show you, so we need to give our lover some free space, so don't get to the bottom of everything, leave him some space, free space for mind and body, so if he wants, let him do it himself.

    Thirdly, if you want to marry him, you must forgive him in some ways, don't always get along with him, and rely on him, especially those who have a particularly stubborn temper. But depending on the fact that he doesn't watch him make mistakes, there must be some reason why you have to explain it to him, and if he trusts you, you will definitely listen. If he really makes a mistake, you have to forgive him from the heart, because there is no estrangement before you can get married.

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