Why do people stay away from what they love?

Human nature is multifaceted and contradictory: curious, liking the new and hating the old; Passionate, apathetic; Diligent, lazy ......

If you like a person, the initial liking and admiration is because there is a distance, and you see more of his (her) merits and brilliance; When the distance is close, his (her) shortcomings begin to appear in front of your eyes, and the human nature of "far fragrant and smelly" will be normalized, and the shortcomings will be magnified, at this time you will naturally want to stay away and find another place.

There is no such thing as a perfect person, there is no need to be confused by such troubles, cherish what you have now!

If you don't get it, it's the best, when you really get it, and you find that they're not as perfect as you think in your heart, you want to stay away, you already like that feeling of liking it, sometimes you feel like he's the best, because you like it, you like it, there's no reason!

For example, I love to watch a series, such as CSI, and then I say to myself that I will definitely find time to watch it next time, and I will never watch it again, and if you ask me if I want to watch it, I still want to watch it, but I don't want to do it now.

That's because you don't want to lose it [if you're gone after watching it] like someone, but if you really get closer, you want to stay away. Is there a limit to human love, or do they all like to leave some leeway?

This is the long-term must be divided, and the long-term must be united.

How to say it ... It's like liking a person, you will be afraid that after it really blossoms and bears fruit in the future, you will quarrel and separate because of these reasons, and you will stay away from the person you like because you are afraid of these future ifs... This is a manifestation of our psychological fragility, which has nothing to do with our personality.

Obsession, obsession, and the process of forgetting.

Maybe it's because of love, afraid that one day it will be lost, and don't dare to get close to it, because getting close will only hurt 、、、 yourself

Don't know, ask someone in psychology.

Worrying that the other person dislikes you and doesn't like you enough, worrying that you put too much hope into the person you like and the relationship, and you will only be disappointed in the end.

Let's imagine that if someone you like comes to you and confesses, will you say yes? Probably except for a very few, most people will fall into happiness and be happy for this kind of mutual affection. Is it at this time that your heart will not think about how to stay away from the other person?

In fact, the reason why you want to choose to stay away deliberately is because you can't control the other party's thoughts, you don't know if the other party likes you or not, you are pessimistic when you think about it alone, and the emotional ending predicted is not very goodSo you are scared and can only choose to stay away before you get hurt more, so as to protect yourself.

In fact, your own "inner demons" are the crux of the whole problemYou are worried that the other person does not like you enough, that you are not good enough to disappoint the other person, and that you are worried that your normal life has been affected. After all, it is a person who likes it so much, and seeing that he can't get it, his heart is bound to be as sad as being pierced with a dagger, so in order not to experience this feeling, in order not to lose, and to protect himself, most people will choose not to have it, because then even if it is uncomfortable, it will not hurt.

So, the starting point of all actions is because they care too much. But shouldn't young people have a vigorous love? Timidity will only have no chance, be bold once, even if the ending is unsatisfactory, just work hard and not regret it.

Let me answer.,I'm the type that will subconsciously stay away every time I meet a girl I like.,And the more you like it, the more away you are.,Even if the other party shows me favor or has the same good feelings.,I once thought it was my own psychological problem or low self-esteem.,Later, I gradually realized that it's actually too strong to control myself.,I don't like the feeling of uncontrolled emotions.。

If you can avoid violent joy, you will naturally not suffer a great sense of loss.

You may feel inferior and feel unworthy.

You may feel that you have no chance and have to give up.

Does distance produce beauty? Why stay away from it.

In fact, to tell the truth, it is not painful to give up a person who loves you very much, it is painful to give up a person you love very much, it is even more painful to fall in love with someone who does not love you, it is destined to be a tragedy, some losses are doomed, some fate will never have results, you don't have to have someone to love, but you must cherish someone if you have one. What to do, let go in a word, there is a kind of love called letting go, only letting go is a kind of relief, but also a new beginning and possession, let go of the burden and move forward lightly, get out of the sea of bitterness out of the liquid danger, turn around and leave at the moment when the tears fall, don't let yourself be hurt, why hang on a tree without sweetness, no happiness, no happiness, people don't love you, then, how to tie up with others, the twisted melon is not sweet, why embarrass yourself? Why let yourself lose your self-esteem, self-love, lose your personality, and indulge in pain, why bother?

It's not interesting, love is two-sided, it's not wishful thinking that there will be results, meeting is the destined fate of life, you can't force it, you will get it only if you lose, and those who refuse to lose your luggage will never swim to the other side. Be strong, have confidence and courage, look for someone who really loves you and what you love, which will comfort the wounds of your soul, make up for the shortcomings of your soul, and let you have and cherish it. In fact, life is like this, when you lose a beloved thing, there will inevitably be another item for you to like, and when you break up with your lover, there will be a better relationship waiting for you.

At the very least, you will not live in sorrow, and you will find your own paradise, your own sweet, happy and happy life.

Time is the best medicine, with the passage of time, everything is no longer as unforgettable as the beginning, adjust the mentality, life is short, youth is limited, you will not have too much time to wait to reminisce to pain, face everything with a normal heart, you will have more energy to face the future! Forgetting is a much deeper memory. Therefore, don't deliberately bury your relatives to forget, everyone has their own journey, there will be all kinds of passers-by in the journey, every relationship and every experience everyone is the mark left by life, whether the memories are beautiful or painful, they have already happened, learn to thank everyone in life who has met or parted.