How can you keep a thirteen year old from rebellious?

The child's rebellious period is a special stage of the child's growth and development, how can it stop him from rebellious? Facing a child in the rebellious period. The correct way to educate is:

First of all, as a parent, you should understand and tolerate them, be their bosom friend, rest assured that the parents' shelf, and let them open their hearts to you. Secondly, as a parent, we should always take care of them, find out their changes in time, communicate with the child in time, if the opinions are not consistent, allow the child to keep his own opinion, let time confirm who is right and who is wrong, and do not completely deny it with the dignity of parents. Finally, allow the child to make mistakes, be patient and induce, not scold, or even scold, and respect the child's self-esteem.

It is also important to have time to travel with children to cultivate children's sentiments and let children enjoy nature. Let them have a good attitude, which can reduce the onset of the rebellious period, so that they can smoothly pass this rebellious period and grow up healthily.

Of course, consider the problem from the child's point of view! Think about what they do for me! Be empathetic! Don't always blindly criticize your children and blame them. Communicate with them more!

Communication is the best bridge, children grow up, have their own ideas, as parents must first respect the child, put down the parent's shelf, listen carefully to the child's inner thoughts, to understand him; Don't reprimand or beat the child in front of everyone, you must know how to save face for him, and if the child is wrong, ask him to come to the bedroom to help him correct it; The child is rebellious and fragile, and we as parents have a responsibility to protect him!

You can grab a handful of sand in your hand, and then you push harder, and you find that the sand is getting less and less. If you don't exert yourself, you may have more sand left. "You can let go of the child now, but not overdo it.

From time to time, you have to collect it. What is said is not to be too strict every day, but to be strict from time to time. You can try.

Always educating the child will be very disgusting, and it will provoke his rebellion.

1. Parents should lead by example and set an example, parents want their children not to be rebellious and not to lose their temper, so they must first learn to control their temper. Don't get angry with your family members casually because you're in a bad mood, or use violence to deal with things, this will be absorbed by your child's heart.

2. Parents should not force their children to do things, and children's rebellious psychology is often a manifestation of dissatisfaction with their parents' control behavior. If parents blindly implement high-pressure measures against their children, then even if the children do not resist for a while, they will bury their anger in their hearts. After a long time, it will explode one day.

And the coercive behavior of parents will only make the child's rebellious feelings expressed in a more intense way, such as running away from home, not returning home at night, etc.

3. Parents should try to be friends with their children, children in the rebellious period are generally reluctant to talk too much with their parents, because they feel that their parents are always on top of them, and they have nothing to say to their parents. Therefore, parents should really put down their own shelves and get along with their children on an equal footing. When parents and children become friends, children will be willing to tell their parents about their joys, sorrows, and sorrows, and seek their parents' opinions before doing things, and will be willing to accept their parents' good opinions.

4. Parents should give their children appropriate freedom, and parents should avoid excessively restricting their children's freedom of reform, which is a sign of disrespect for children. 13-year-olds are no longer young and will have their own ideas, and parents should respect their opinions and give them appropriate freedom.

5. Don't compare your children with your own self back then, because the times are different, so the way to look at and solve problems is also different. Parents should not compare their children to anyone, including themselves as children. Don't be sarcastic about children either.

Children in the rebellious period are very sensitive inside, and when their self-esteem is hurt, they will easily balance themselves psychologically by hurting and retaliating against others.

1. Learn more about children While they are busy with their livelihoods, parents must take time to learn more about their children, communicate more with their children, nannies, and children's teachers, and try to have a comprehensive grasp of their children's performance in kindergarten and family. The more you know, the less you misunderstand. In this way, once the child is really disobedient, he can better understand how to guide the child.

2. The society of absorbing educational knowledge is changing, and the growth environment of children is also changing, so the parenting style must naturally continue to improve. As a parent, it is our duty to take the initiative to absorb new educational knowledge. In the traditional parent-child education method, most parents use authority to educate their children, and beating and scolding punishment is an important method of authoritative education.

Absorbing new knowledge can help parents jump out of their own growth experience and adjust their educational concepts in time.

3. Listen patiently to your child If you are an angry parent, when facing a child who does not listen to discipline, the most direct reaction is usually to scold. At this time, it is recommended that parents calm down first, try to be more patient, and ask their children what is the reason for doing this. When parents have focused on understanding their children's thoughts and finding ways to help them solve problems, they may find that their children's behaviors are actually excusable, and they have released a lot of negative emotions.

4. Let him bear the consequences of his own behaviorDuring the child's rebellious period, it is inevitable that he will drop things or some sabotage behaviors, so he must be allowed to bear the consequences, such as dropping things, letting him repair them by himself, tearing up the book and letting him stick it by himself. Be sure to let him know that if you make a mistake, you have to bear the consequences, and this consequence is not the scolding of your parents, but the compensation for the harm it has done to other objects or people.

5. Play the game of letting him be a father or mother every day, so that the child can be a father and mother, and a mother and a child, when playing this game, parents can show the child the behavior of the previous child's rebellious period, so that the child can see how big the parents are after their behavior at that time. Actually, this game is very interesting, and the way children deal with the unreasonable needs of their parents is super funny. Children's various problems, scolding and corporal punishment can not solve the problem, the essence of the child is kind, are pure, as long as they are psychological, use the right way, in order to quickly help her through the period of anxiety and rebellion.

Take control of yourself. Yelling, slamming doors, and rough ......Few parents can boast that they have never lost control when disciplining their children? It's just that most of us regret our actions afterwards.

Uncontrolled anger can affect the results of your efforts to discipline your child. Once he gets used to your way of education, he will take your words as wind in his ears, and slowly it will turn into your criticism or praise that he will not listen to.

Discipline your child with a cool head will make him feel that your teaching is objective and fair, and he will be willing to take great interest in doing what you ask of him.

2. Correctly guide children's values.

Parents discipline their children in order to raise a good child to become a good person. Although we all agree on the qualities of a good person: honesty, respect, tolerance, and generosity, in reality every family focuses on it differently.

The most important thing is to consider what values you want your child to learn, which is part of educating your child.

Arrange your parenting style by your values, and if you are trying to convey to your child that there should be a sense of responsibility among family members to take care of each other, think deeply about whether the reward is material or spiritual before rewarding your child for small things, and express it in your words. Finally, when children gradually evolve their parents' values into their own values, this completes our ultimate goal of disciplining children - turning children's education into children's self-discipline.

Only with the help of parents can children successfully pass the rebellious period: 1. Emotionally stressed children are more likely to resist When children are tired and hungry, they should be allowed to rest or eat some snacks that they usually like, which help relieve tension, rather than teaching him to learn new things or do things. Changes in the surrounding environment can also make children nervous and rebellious.

For example, when a child is sick, usually they are very depressed and easy to deal with their parents, so parents should understand the child and may wish to be more tolerant of them when he is sick. 2. Protect the safety of children Children are not aware of danger, therefore, they will do some behaviors that may have dangerous consequences, after they are discovered, parents should stop them immediately, and then you have to communicate with your child well so that he understands the consequences of his actions. For example, a child may be running happily on the street but may be hit by a car.

You have to tell him, "Mom can't let you run on the street because there are a lot of cars here, and if you get hit by a car, you will get hurt and it hurts a lot."

The education methods for 13-year-old children in the anti-Hail period are more encouragement and respect, taking children to do more sports, and educating children with psychological resilience, as follows:

1. More encouragement and respect.

Encourage children to be good at expressing their inner thoughts, actively communicate and communicate with their parents, and not be able to suppress their negative emotions in their hearts, or shout loudly and quarrel. If you say hurtful words because you are in a hurry, it may make your parents very sad.

2. Take your child to do more exercise.

For example, playing badminton with your child, or swimming with your child. These methods can help children combine work and rest, regain energy, and have more motivation to learn. More company can also improve the child's mood, and at the same time, the relationship between Changwei and his parents is more harmonious, and finally alleviate the emotional problems caused by anxiety, irritability, and rebellion.

3. Educate children with psychological resilience.

Many times, parents pass on their anxiety and helplessness to their children, so that their children can bear pressure that they should not bear. Parents should be resilient enough to deal with the increasing pressure on education, and then interact with their children after the stress is reduced.

Tips for parents and children to get along

1. See the child's unique personality traits.

Every child is unique and always has their own unique personality traits, and parents should accept their children's personality traits. Based on your actual situation, find out the most appropriate and suitable parenting method for yourself.

2. See the emotional needs behind the child.

To fully accept the child's emotions, parents should understand that negative emotions are also a kind of legitimate emotions, and when they encounter their children crying, they should not think of stopping them at the first time, and should be treated differently. Guide children to express their emotions correctly, for example, some children like to drop things when they are angry, and this situation should be stopped.

3. Ways to deal with anger.

If you can run to the bathroom and squat on the toilet before you scream and rage, you can take a deep breath in the mirror, or run out of the window to look at the scenery. If you regret it after yelling, then you need to calm your emotions first and stabilize yourself.