Is a thirteen year old child rebellious and how to deal with a child s thirteen year old rebellion

To rebel is to destroy oneself. It's best to think clearly, relax yourself, go with the flow, and forgive your parents' nagging and incomprehension, that's all love.

Yes, when it comes to the rebellious period, you have to guide it well.

1. Parents should lead by example and set an example, parents want their children not to be rebellious and not to lose their temper, so they must first learn to control their temper. Don't get angry with your family members casually because you're in a bad mood, or use violence to deal with things, this will be absorbed by your child's heart.

2. Parents should not force their children to do things, and children's rebellious psychology is often a manifestation of dissatisfaction with their parents' control behavior. If parents blindly implement high-pressure measures against their children, then even if the children do not resist for a while, they will bury their anger in their hearts. After a long time, it will explode one day.

And the coercive behavior of parents will only make the child's rebellious feelings expressed in a more intense way, such as running away from home, not returning home at night, etc.

3. Parents should try to be friends with their children, children in the rebellious period are generally reluctant to talk too much with their parents, because they feel that their parents are always on top of them, and they have nothing to say to their parents. Therefore, parents should really put down their own shelves and get along with their children on an equal footing. When parents and children become friends, children will be willing to tell their parents about their joys, sorrows, and sorrows, and seek their parents' opinions before doing things, and will be willing to accept their parents' good opinions.

4. Parents should give their children appropriate freedom, and parents should avoid excessively restricting their children's freedom of reform, which is a sign of disrespect for children. 13-year-olds are no longer young and will have their own ideas, and parents should respect their opinions and give them appropriate freedom.

5. Don't compare your children with your own self back then, because the times are different, so the way to look at and solve problems is also different. Parents should not compare their children to anyone, including themselves as children. Don't be sarcastic about children either.

Children in the rebellious period are very sensitive inside, and when their self-esteem is hurt, they will easily balance themselves psychologically by hurting and retaliating against others.

What to do if the child is 13 years old during the rebellious period, in many families, the child is put first, every problem is showing the lack of children's growth, the education received in early childhood may affect the future, so that children learn to be independent, the following is how to do children at the age of 13 rebellious period.

1. Face up to your child's rebellious psychology and don't have prejudices

If you encounter a child with a particularly strong rebellious mentality, you must be clear that this is a normal phenomenon. In fact, rebellious psychology also contains many positive qualities, such as strong self-awareness, strong competitiveness, and the ability to innovate. Parents should be good at discovering the creative qualities and pioneering consciousness in the rebellious mentality, and guide them reasonably.

As long as it is properly guided, rebellious psychology can play a positive role in modern society.

2. Master the correct communication methods and guide children out of the wrong range

Rebellious children often behave cynically, feel that this environment and this society do not belong to them, they always behave so that their parents and family members can not understand, such as dyeing their hair of various colors, saying that their peers can only understand words, etc., this is parents should not always use the tone of complaining and criticism to talk to them, to learn to communicate and explain correctly with children.

Help the child to reduce the burden of the rebellious child

Parents have the idea: "hope that the son will become a dragon, hope that the daughter will become a phoenix", and even some parents impose their unfulfilled wishes on their children, and the children will come back from school to carry out training that they are unwilling to do, so that the children do not get a good mental relaxation, which brings a lot of mental pressure to the children, causing them to hate life, the rebellious period has arrived in advance, and I hope that parents will let their children learn when they also give them appropriate time to play!

OneTypical presentation of the rebellious phase

1. Destructive:Everywhere I went, it was like a strong wind passing through, smashing things, dismantling toys, tearing books, and scribbling.

2. Emotional excess:You must get what you want, otherwise you will cry and make a fuss, sit on the floor in public and even beat people.

3. Singing the opposite:The more parents are forbidden to do things, the more they have to do it, and the more they let it be done, the more they will turn a deaf ear.

4. Challenge the bottom lineConstantly make demands and conditions with parents, and challenge parental authority.

5. Repeated conflicts:Playing with other children's toys prefers to win people's favors, and if you don't get it, you will start beating people, but you don't want to share your own things.

2. What parents do when their children are rebellious

1. Parents calm down their emotions, stay calm, and never educate their children about abuse and violence.

2. Find out the source of the child's abnormality and actively communicate. If it is because of the parents' own mistakes, apologize and comfort them in time, and don't give up communication for the sake of face.

3. Properly meet the needs of children, but never give in if it involves issues of principle.

4. Respect children's choices, give them a little freedom, and encourage them to learn to deal with problems independently.

5. Parents must communicate well with the elderly, reach a united front in education, and try not to let the older generation of parents spoil and indulge their children.

1. Learn more about children While they are busy with their livelihoods, parents must take time to learn more about their children, communicate more with their children, nannies, and children's teachers, and try to have a comprehensive grasp of their children's performance in kindergarten and family. The more you know, the less you misunderstand. In this way, once the child is really disobedient, he can better understand how to guide the child.

2. The society of absorbing educational knowledge is changing, and the growth environment of children is also changing, so the parenting style must naturally continue to improve. As a parent, it is our duty to take the initiative to absorb new educational knowledge. In the traditional parent-child education method, most parents use authority to educate their children, and beating and scolding punishment is an important method of authoritative education.

Absorbing new knowledge can help parents jump out of their own growth experience and adjust their educational concepts in time.

3. Listen patiently to your child If you are an angry parent, when facing a child who does not listen to discipline, the most direct reaction is usually to scold. At this time, it is recommended that parents calm down first, try to be more patient, and ask their children what is the reason for doing this. When parents have focused on understanding their children's thoughts and finding ways to help them solve problems, they may find that their children's behaviors are actually excusable, and they have released a lot of negative emotions.

4. Let him bear the consequences of his own behaviorDuring the child's rebellious period, it is inevitable that he will drop things or some sabotage behaviors, so he must be allowed to bear the consequences, such as dropping things, letting him repair them by himself, tearing up the book and letting him stick it by himself. Be sure to let him know that if you make a mistake, you have to bear the consequences, and this consequence is not the scolding of your parents, but the compensation for the harm it has done to other objects or people.

5. Play the game of letting him be a father or mother every day, so that the child can be a father and mother, and a mother and a child, when playing this game, parents can show the child the behavior of the previous child's rebellious period, so that the child can see how big the parents are after their behavior at that time. Actually, this game is very interesting, and the way children deal with the unreasonable needs of their parents is super funny. Children's various problems, scolding and corporal punishment can not solve the problem, the essence of the child is kind, are pure, as long as they are psychological, use the right way, in order to quickly help her through the period of anxiety and rebellion.

Take control of yourself. Yelling, slamming doors, and rough ......Few parents can boast that they have never lost control when disciplining their children? It's just that most of us regret our actions afterwards.

Uncontrolled anger can affect the results of your efforts to discipline your child. Once he gets used to your way of education, he will take your words as wind in his ears, and slowly it will turn into your criticism or praise that he will not listen to.

Discipline your child with a cool head will make him feel that your teaching is objective and fair, and he will be willing to take great interest in doing what you ask of him.

2. Correctly guide children's values.

Parents discipline their children in order to raise a good child to become a good person. Although we all agree on the qualities of a good person: honesty, respect, tolerance, and generosity, in reality every family focuses on it differently.

The most important thing is to consider what values you want your child to learn, which is part of educating your child.

Arrange your parenting style by your values, and if you are trying to convey to your child that there should be a sense of responsibility among family members to take care of each other, think deeply about whether the reward is material or spiritual before rewarding your child for small things, and express it in your words. Finally, when children gradually evolve their parents' values into their own values, this completes our ultimate goal of disciplining children - turning children's education into children's self-discipline.

Only with the help of parents can children successfully pass the rebellious period: 1. Emotionally stressed children are more likely to resist When children are tired and hungry, they should be allowed to rest or eat some snacks that they usually like, which help relieve tension, rather than teaching him to learn new things or do things. Changes in the surrounding environment can also make children nervous and rebellious.

For example, when a child is sick, usually they are very depressed and easy to deal with their parents, so parents should understand the child and may wish to be more tolerant of them when he is sick. 2. Protect the safety of children Children are not aware of danger, therefore, they will do some behaviors that may have dangerous consequences, after they are discovered, parents should stop them immediately, and then you have to communicate with your child well so that he understands the consequences of his actions. For example, a child may be running happily on the street but may be hit by a car.

You have to tell him, "Mom can't let you run on the street because there are a lot of cars here, and if you get hit by a car, you will get hurt and it hurts a lot."

1. The rebellious period of children mainly refers to the children's adolescence of 12-16 years old, in a state of semi-independence, semi-maturity and semi-dependence.

2. Some children are bored with their parents' words and even run away from home. Some children are rebellious, often quarreling with classmates, beating others, and even self-harm, which is a common rebellious manifestation of adolescent children. There are also some children in early childhood or preschool age, such as 2-year-old children who occasionally hit others.

3. The actual child does not understand what rebellion is, but has a self-rebellious behavior. At the age of 5-7, individual children also have rebellious behavior, such as crying, scolding, beating, rolling on slag, and talking back.