There are some questions about psychology, and I don t even know which part it belongs to. 10

I'm not a professional, just a boy about your age! I've been in a similar situation to you before! However, it is much better now!

First of all, I think, boys love face, this is the most normal! This factor should affect you more obviously than others! Secondly, of course, there are our emotions!

When others look at you, you'll be nervous! It's still a psychological problem! If you want to solve this problem, the most correct way is to see a psychiatrist!

I have no ill will). Of course, I can also give you some advice! Like, we're all so old!

It's time to reach out to the outside world like crazy! You must have more contact with the outside world! Perhaps, you are highly educated and knowledgeable!

The mind is sufficient! However, we should still have a deeper contact with the world, no, because it should be society! This society is bigger and deeper than the world!

It's summer vacation, you might as well go to a small restaurant as a temporary worker and go to exercise, it's not for the money, so you don't have to care what the salary is! You're going to a small restaurant! Because only in a small restaurant, you can see the real society!

In the company, you just need to treat the boss as a [master]! But in a small restaurant, everyone who comes is [master]. [Master] has seen too much, and he is not [Master]!

You are in a small restaurant, there is no private room, when you are working, everyone is watching, and some of them will point fingers! You'll have to get used to it! If you can do it like a fish in water in a small restaurant, then no, go back to the company, that is, all the staff will look at you, and it will be better!

I'm just thinking about it! Be sure to see a doctor if you have the chance! If I'm right, you remember, if it's not, you should be walking down the street and someone you don't know farting!

I sincerely wish you can do your job as soon as possible! Become the pride of the sky!

Typical love of face and low self-esteem.

When there is a conflict between the two, you get nervous, as if you're a different person.

When you are alone, you are very self-conscious, you don't care what others think of you, the level is normal, when others look at you, you will have hair in your heart, you will fantasize that he is laughing at you, or saying that you are talking about you!! This is shyness and inferiority complex (prosecution is attributed to inferiority).

Say that you have low self-esteem, you will definitely not be convinced!! But it's a fact, how can you improve it!!

With colleagues, especially the opposite sex, you're a man, right, then communicate with women, you have to be funny, girls, they all like boys to tell jokes and tease!! (Don't tell bad jokes) you love Jay too! Then he often sings!!

As for the boss, who will be nervous and care. But you have to understand that the more you treat him as a boss, the more nervous you are!! Teach you a good way (self-hypnosis) to treat the boss as a stupid person, he is not as capable as you (slowly your self-confidence will come back, and a confident man will be capable).

I won't talk about the rest, you can think about it slowly.

I'm also 90's, so let me tell you about my personal experience. When I was in junior high school, I was so nervous that my legs trembled when I spoke in class, I was so nervous that I couldn't sing in chorus, I was nervous when I was talking to girls, I was nervous when I was talking to teachers, and I was nervous about shopping.

I think my junior high school homeroom teacher is very good, it's a very good kind, I think he's my best homeroom teacher, but again, he actually cheated on me, I went to reason with him, he actually turned out my old things in the first and second years of junior high school and insulted me, I was in front of the whole office, and the principal was also there at the time, I scolded him directly, what is it? How can China be such a teacher?

Later, I went out into society. I've seen through all those people, most of them are hypocrites and villains, it's been two years since that incident, I've completely changed, I won't be nervous anymore, if I'm afraid of a group of dog-like colleagues and bear-like bosses, it's easy to be eaten, it's better to be brave and hack them to death.

In fact, you just need to watch more inspirational movies and TV series, and that's fine! It's normal to be nervous, but you don't have to be too nervous, think of the worst and don't be nervous! Because you'll know that no matter what, I'm going to be much better than I thought!

People who don't have confidence in themselves are nervous and find ways to increase their self-confidence.

What are the exams nervous, and being watched by girls is also nervous- -You joke with her, the atmosphere is good, it's okay after a long time, and it's still 19 - -I used to have a little problem in class, but now I can't feel it, but my face will be red- -But it's not as serious as you--Just let it go, you have to think about forcing yourself to exercise!

That's how I am! It's true!

Typical nervous stress syndrome.

This is actually one of the biggest misunderstandings about "psychological problems"!

When it comes to psychological problems, many people may think of more "low-energy" states such as depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem - it seems that people with psychological problems often show a particularly sensitive and fragile state, or a state of resignation.

However, people often ignore a more obvious manifestation: they are often extremely cold, difficult to empathize, extremely irritable, extremely aggressive, arrogant, etc. These manifestations are also very psychologically problematic.

In fact, it is often such people who can cause more destructive power and hurt others: because depression, low self-esteem, and anxiety are more like an "internal consumption", and the person concerned is often just silently facing and digesting negative emotions by himself; But another kind of person with psychological problems, they are more often "external aggression", their own psychological problems, will pull others to pay for themselves.

Moreover, this kind of psychological problem of "external aggression", compared with the psychological problem of "internal consumption", because the consumption of oneself is relatively small, so it often has less impact on [one's] life and work than the latter—so in that environment where the cognition of psychological problems is relatively backward, it is naturally not taken seriously.

A person who is "intrinsically consumed" may not be motivated to study, work, or even live; But a person who is "externally aggressive" may be able to go to work and live, but he will have a lot of conflicts with his colleagues, and he will be violent when he returns home. However, at that time, people's understanding of psychological problems was not comprehensive, and they would think that this person was just short-tempered, but there was nothing wrong with psychology.

So, is it really because these elders don't have psychological problems?

No, in fact, quite a few of them have some degree of psychological problems, but because the manifestations of such psychological problems are all aggressive, coupled with the blessing of their elders, it may be difficult to detect.

This also involves another particularly serious misconception: "forgetting that you have a mental problem" and "not having a mental problem" are two very different concepts.

It may be that many elders did have particularly serious psychological problems at the beginning, but they did not receive enough attention at that time, and they could only rely on themselves to resist it. Then over time, they have forgotten that they have ever had psychological problems.

Note that I don't mean "forgot" here, I don't mean "reconciled", or "**".

There is a clear difference: people who forget can't remember what happened to them, so such tragedies will be repeated in their own children; But a person who has truly reconciled and reconciled can realize how bad this way of getting along is, and will try to avoid this situation as much as possible.

Therefore, when they have children themselves, they will still continue the kind of oppressive education and high-pressure way of getting along with each other, and they will firmly believe that there is nothing wrong with this way of education, because they have come over like this.