How much do you think parental fights affect children s mental health?

Not. Often. Big.

When I was a child, I still remember the picture of my parents arguing, which led to today's lack of trust and security, and even thought about ending up in suicide during the immature period. Too sensitive and suspicious, habitually guessing people's hearts, and putting their personality habits close to the other party's hopes, very afraid of being hated and ignored, easy to have a sense of loneliness, often suppress themselves, and even distort.

When I was a child, my parents often quarreled, and I felt that it had a big impact, for example, no matter which relative's house I go to now, it is no different from going to a stranger's house. I don't dare and can't get angry, I'm shaking all over my body, I want to cry, my mouth is not good, I play with my dad to add living expenses, I'm super nervous, it's all shadows.

The impact is huge. The greater impact is to hold back and not make noise, parents do not talk to each other in the same family, let children pass the word among parents, and maintain a "complete" family on the surface, in fact, only parents and children know that the atmosphere at home is like freezing.

Just say yourself. I feel that there will be no one to help me, only I can help myself, so I went to study psychology, and when I met a client with a bad relationship with my parents during psychological counseling, I was easy to empathize, and slowly learned to heal myself and forgive my parents in the midst of many sorrows. Feel that you don't deserve to be loved, be grateful to the person who loves you, treat her with better good, be honest and afraid when you are loved, keep your distance from it, and if you are too close, you are afraid of hurting the other party.

When I was in a bad mood, I ate vigorously, as if I could solve all my problems after eating, thinking that the feeling of stomach discomfort could cover up the fear and pain, but in fact nothing changed, except for weight and appearance.

Mom and Dad both have a big temper and often quarrel, do you know what it feels like to be scared and always afraid that they will quarrel the next minute? Do you know what it's like for a little kid to try all sorts of things to stop them from arguing, but nothing can be done, and then you don't want to intervene? Watching loved ones hurt each other and crying heartbreakingly again and again.

Some scars don't heal for a lifetime, really. I hated my dad all the way to high school, and hated him for yelling at me and being unreasonable to my mom over and over again. Although I am far away from college now, and we can live in peace, the wound he has cut in my heart still aches faintly from time to time.

Great, my parents have been divorced for many years, and now I am 26, and I am still single. Unsociable, habitually lonely, hates the feeling. Low self-esteem, often unable to see the future, and having the urge to give up on oneself.

There is a disease called impotence in love, and I am afraid that I will not get it and I am afraid of losing, so I will not love anymore. Afraid of arguing with people, theory, because some fragments are circulating in memory** I will always find a lot of excuses to forgive the harm they have caused me to be very cautious in the face of marriage, and I don't want my children to repeat my discordant family, so that he firmly believes that the love of his parents is selfless. It seems to be off-topic, the writing is not good, so let's take it as catharsis!

I won't get angry with anyone, I'll always smile at people, I'll start crying when I'm scared when others are fierce, my mind will be blank when I quarrel with me, I'm a little withdrawn, and it doesn't matter if I don't have friends. Now I have depression, and although my parents' quarrels are not the main reason, I think it is still related. I don't know if that counts.

Quarrels don't matter. My dad was drunk during the New Year, and my mother worked hard for the New Year and thought about the coming New Year, which is the beauty and sorrow of Chinese women.

When you and your friends argue in front of your child, you will have the biggest impact on your child, and here are the few things that will affect your child.

First, the child is insecure.

Parents are the closest people to their children, and children do not allow anyone to insult their parents and speak ill of them. In a child's mind, parents are all they have. However, if the parents quarrel for a long time, it will make the child insecure, and the only thing the child relies on is the parents, but they always judge the quarrel and fight.

Quarrels will inevitably lead to some radical words. These words may have no effect on the child on the surface, but in fact they have a great impact on the child. A child who has lived in a quarrelsome family for a long time will grow up insecure.

So for the sake of the children, please don't quarrel.

Second, the child's character flaws.

Long-term arguments between parents can cause children to become introverted and withdrawn. Children who often live in this family atmosphere are prone to low self-esteem, sensitivity, and timidity in character, and are often influenced by their parents to become very irritable and even violent. If the parents often quarrel, it is easy for the child to grow up and get married and quarrel with the other half over trivial matters.

So for the sake of the children, please don't quarrel.

Third, reluctance to communicate with others.

Parents are their children's first teachers and role models. In the process of children's growth, long-term quarrels between parents will lead to children lacking a sense of security, distrusting of social people, and unwilling to communicate with others. At work, I don't want to cooperate and share with others.

Digging slow liquid in life, I don't know how to communicate with people. When I grow up, I will only find fault with my partner, quarrel, and even violence.

1. Parents are not uniform in all aspects of life, especially in their attitudes towards their children and education methods, and sometimes they are even opposed. Leaving the child overwhelmed and at a loss. Parents quarrel endlessly, each with their own reasoning, for children, they do not know how to distinguish between right and wrong, good and bad, which will inevitably cause children's cognitive distortion and disharmony, will form many wrong concepts, and their behavior will inevitably deviate from normal.

It can further lead to behavioral disturbances that adversely affect the child's mental health development.

2. Adverse effects on emotions and emotions.

Constant quarrels and accusations from parents can undermine a child's experience of their parents' true feelings. There is a strong inner conflict, which makes them feel fear and annoyance all the time. Parents' own emotional unhappiness, parents' emotional instability, and their children's coldness, coldness, strictness, and leniency will also cause children's emotional instability and insecurity.

Children like to ask all kinds of questions, and parents are in a bad mood and lack of patience to answer, and even have a blunt attitude, very impatient, so that children's active exploration is a disappointing experience, over time, not only will their creativity be bruised, will lose confidence in life, lose interest in anything, and even become inferior and autistic, rebellious, irritable, indifferent to family affection. Some children develop parental hatred.

Adverse effects on behavioural habits. Children growing up in discordant family environments. Because of cognitive disharmony, without noble motives and a positive and enterprising spirit, they tend to behave very lazily and live irregularly.

Some children do not get along with other children at school because they do not receive enough love and care from their parents, and they often get into fights and violate discipline.

3. Adverse effects on character development.

Maternal love is a necessary condition for the normal development of a child's personality. Lack of maternal love, children will have bad character traits such as withdrawn personality and willfulness. The way of family education plays a decisive role in the development of a child's character.

Children in a discordant family environment are prone to develop characteristics such as jealousy, poor creativity, distrust of others, emotional instability, and poor interpersonal skills. Not only that, children who live in a lack of family affection will have more psychological and behavioral disorders and personality weaknesses in adulthood, and it will be difficult to adapt to society. It is not easy to cooperate with others, and some people cannot handle interpersonal relationships well in love and family life, which brings a lot of troubles and pain to their lives.

Fourth, in short, family harmony has a great impact on the psychological development of young people, therefore, parents should strive to improve their own quality and self-cultivation, establish a correct outlook on family education, and strive to create a good atmosphere for family education. It is necessary to combine family education with school and social education, and use scientific and effective methods to promote the healthy development of young people's mental health, so that young people can achieve all-round physical and mental development, so that young people can grow up healthily.

Frequent arguments between parents usually have the following effects on children:

1. Insecurity. Parents often quarrel, and children lose their sense of security. Then it becomes a source of gain and loss, increasing the psychological burden and causing a short temper.

2. Decline in academic performance. Parents quarrel like Zen, children because they are worried and have no way to study with peace of mind, and there will be restlessness in class, and they can't listen to the teacher's lectures, resulting in a decline in children's academic performance and a sense of disgust for learning.

3. Extreme low self-esteem. Parents often quarrel with each other, which can lead to a lack of self-confidence, a feeling of extreme inferiority, and a feeling that they are inferior to others in every way. In addition, interpersonal relationships will also be hindered by low self-esteem, which will affect future life and work.

4. Let the child's brain be damaged, and it is difficult for the scum to manage his emotions. Children often see their parents arguing, and their brains secrete cortisol, a hormone that can damage the child's brain, causing them to react slowly and inattentively. It is also difficult to manage their emotions, and they are not good at expressing their emotions, and they have been troubled by physical and mental emotions for a long time.

5. Affect the child's personality. Parents often quarrel and have negative emotions for their children, becoming pessimistic, depressed, and depressed. Witnessing a parental quarrel for a long time may also lead to violent tendencies, more anxious handling of things, and easy to quarrel with parents and classmates.

It is very common for parents to quarrel in front of their children, whether in film and television dramas or in real life. Parents often quarrel in front of their children, which will indeed cause a lot of psychological effects on children, some of which are directly visible to the naked eye, some of which are gradually revealed after the child becomes an adult, and some of the influences may be with the child for a lifetime, becoming a shadow that the child cannot get rid of for a lifetime.

1. The child's sense of well-being is missing.

Often witnessing parents quarrelling, there will be a feeling of family unhappiness in the child's psychology, feeling that his parents are not loving enough, and he will feel that his family is broken, and his parents will often quarrel and quarrel because of trivial things, and even fight, the child will be afraid of the separation of father and mother, and the heart will be very afraid of insecurity, and the sense of happiness will naturally be missing.

2. Character flaws are unavoidable.

Parents in front of the child two of them fight, sometimes the more noisy the talk, the more fierce they are, they can't control themselves for a while, and they may even fight, showing the ugly side of human nature directly in front of the child, so it is easy to make the child anxious, affected by the original family environment, the child's temper and character will also be greatly affected, and the child will also become explosive and irritable, will not be considerate of others, and even has a certain tendency to violence.

3. The heart is full of fear of marriage.

Often faced with parents quarreling and even throwing things, tearing each other apart, children in the eyes, will slowly be full of fear of their future marriage, will be afraid that their other half will be like this in the future, the story of parents will be repeated in themselves again, the heart will be full of fear of marriage, will be reluctant to find a partner, and even unwilling to turn out, which is also a major reason for some fear of marriage.

Fourth, it will affect the future of work and parenting.

Children who grow up in this environment will be covered with thorns, they will use thorns to protect themselves, it will be difficult to get along with them and not be united, it is easy to distrust others in work and life, and it will be very detrimental to work. Especially if you have children in the future, it will have a great impact on educating your children, and even affect the next generation.

Parents as the first teacher of children, in all aspects of the child will have a subtle influence, whether it is good or bad, words and deeds will affect their children, therefore, in front of the child parents must pay attention to their words and deeds, control their emotions, to create a warm and beautiful growth environment for children, not every day is shocking!

Children's sensitivity is far beyond our adult imagination, don't think that children don't understand anything, in fact, children understand everything through observation, and the ability to imitate is also very strong. In short, as parents, we must manage our emotions, control our words and deeds, and not cause bad influence to our children.

The impact of parental quarrels on children is relatively large, which will not only lead to the psychological impact of children, but also is likely to have a greater negative impact on children's emotions and even lead to distortion of children's psychology, which is not conducive to the healthy development of children.

The child is in the period of physical growth and development, and at the same time the heart is also relatively fragile at this time, coupled with the emotional aspect of more dependent on the parents, if the parents often quarrel, it may cause the child's mental health to be affected, and may even lead to the child's timidity, inferiority complex, in addition, it may also cause the child to close himself, which will lead to the child's psychological distortion, will also affect the child's normal socialization, and will also affect the child's growth and development.

In order to avoid this situation, and in order to ensure the healthy development and growth of children, parents must pay attention to adjusting their emotions during this period, and avoid bringing some bad emotions or negative energy emotions to the home, so as not to cause trauma to the child's thinking and mental health.

In daily life, we should also pay attention to taking the baby outdoors to participate in some group activities, and at the same time, we should accompany the child as a friend, so that we can fully understand the child's psychological state and be more conducive to the growth and development of the child.