My boyfriend asked me to marry him, he s 24 years old, I m 20, what should I do? Please give me advi

The two choices are either to get married or not to get married.

is not a child, of course, the matter of marriage is based on one's own judgment, plus discussion with family.

You know that he can't do this or that, which means that you are not stupid. You were stupid and you would have registered with him.

Life is all about making multiple choice questions, and you have to decide for yourself what to do.

Let go of your determination to leave him, since everything about him, you don't like it, is it interesting to be together.

If you really like him, then you should like everything about him, marriage is a lifelong thing, so it's better not to say yes until you think it through; If you really like him, you should change for him, you can share ups and downs together, and if you don't like his job, you can discuss with him to change jobs!

I see that you don't really love him, if you love him, you will love everything about him, but you look at what you said, you said that you loved him and at the same time said that you didn't love him (family, work, are the two most important parts of his life, you don't love anymore, can you still call it love?? Let go of him and let him find someone who loves everything about him.

I don't like anything, forget it

Marriage is a lifelong affair and you have to consider a lot of factors. The economic base determines the superstructure, you love him now, but after getting married, you are facing a lot of problems, and if you have children in the future, you still have to think about your children There are so many dislikes now, so why be together.

Break it early, that's not the life you want, he can't accommodate you for the rest of your life.

For the sake of your future happiness, you can find another goal, or go to live in a foreign place together!

Your boyfriend is so young, he urges you to get married, maybe he doesn't know why he wants to get married, the main pressure is the pressure from his family from the outside world, it may be that his family has such an experience, and he can consider marriage in his 20s, this idea is still too young.

The elders of the family urged.

Part of the situation that exists now is that the man himself is not in a hurry to get married, but the family is in a hurry. Especially when it comes to the New Year's holiday, the pressure is even greater, and after a long time, it will cause a man to want to get married early and end his single life.

2.I really like you.

If your boyfriend keeps urging you to get married, there is still a situation where he really likes you in his heart, and your every move will attract him, and the only way he wants to have you is to legitimize your relationship, and this way is to get married.

3.There are too many rivals.

You may have been in love for many years but have no intention of getting married, but a strong rival will make the other party feel competitive, although there is an emotional foundation between you, but if the opponent has not retreated, it is a good way to tie you up with marriage, and at this time he will choose to keep urging marriage.

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4.People around me have got married.

Good buddies are free and chic together, and they don't want to lose their freedom after marriage, but if good buddies get married and start a family, they will naturally slowly yearn for married life and begin to know the benefits of marriage, so at this time, there will be many people who are in a hurry to get married, resulting in a situation of urging marriage.

Based on the above, I believe that whether you are urged to marry by your boyfriend or not, you must start from your own actual thoughts, and if you think that your boyfriend is reliable and a suitable candidate for marriage, then you can choose to get married. If you are still being urged to marry someone who doesn't know what your boyfriend really is, you can also calm down and give yourself time to think about it.

Urging marriage, sometimes it is influenced by parents, or by rural customs, get married early, have children early, take advantage of the fact that your parents are young and can take care of your children, of course, it is not excluded that there are other situations, you have to see the personality characteristics of boys.

Because he may want to be with you, and maybe the family is also urging him, although he is only 20 years old, he thinks that when he meets you in this life, he wants to marry you, so he will urge you to get married.

There is no reason for this, everyone grows up in a different environment, some people are not in a hurry to get married even if they are 30 years old, but some people may be 20 years old, and they are in a hurry to get married, which is completely caused by the parents' educational concept to lead to his attitude towards marriage.

Because he wants to be sure of your relationship early, so that there will be no greater changes in the future. Even if there is a big problem after getting married, there will be no day when you are separated, if you don't get married, there will be problems in the future, and you may part ways. So he wants to live with you sooner so that the two of you will go further.

The boy urges him to get married, which means that he recognizes you and your relationship and wants to start a family with you.

However, according to the provisions of China's Civil Code, men are 22 and women are 20 before they can get married, and their boyfriends have not yet reached the age of marriage.

It may be that his family has been urging him to get married, so he will be in a hurry to get married, I think you are still relatively young, you can get along for two more years before getting married.

If you want to get married, start your life for both of you.

It is more free to be separated from your parents, in fact, it is also possible to start a business after starting a family.

When urging marriage, it is influenced by parents or rural customs. Get married early, have children early, and take care of your children while your young parents are doing their best. Of course, its case is not excluded. Personality traits.

It may be that your boyfriend just wants to marry you, because no matter what, your boyfriend must have his own expectations for marriage.

You are a girl with courage and daring to love. Falling in love with a boy who is 28 years older than you, there will definitely be people around you who don't understand, and it's really not easy. Now it's time to get married, bless you.

The boy says that there is pressure, that's for sure, you have to understand the other person, because it's in China, you can get married in a way that doesn't have to go to China, such as traveling to get married, etc., to reduce his pressure.

If you feel that the relationship between you and your boyfriend is too stressful, then you should first trace back to the source, see if this pressure is from**, as the so-called water has a source tree has roots, there must be a reason why two people are uncomfortable getting along, as long as the reason is found out and eliminated, your relationship can be improved, so here we have to pay attention to a right medicine, syndrome differentiation treatment, there has never been a medicine that can cure all diseases, and the same is true for feelings, only know that your problem lies in** It's easy to solve.

For example, the pressure between two people comes from the gap between each other, and you feel that the gap between you and the other party is very large, so it will be very stressful in front of him, so you can only adjust your mentality, or continue to learn and improve yourself, be a hard-working person, narrow the gap between you, so that your pressure will gradually decrease.

If your boyfriend is a particularly clingy person, and he is too controlling over you, always controlling you, and getting along with you all the time, so that you feel pressured, then you can have a deep level of communication with him, telling him that you should have mutual trust and have your own space, so that this distance can produce beauty and make each other comfortable. The kind of relationship that ties the other person to the waistband of the pants is really unacceptable, and when he realizes that there should be a certain distance between you, your pressure will be reduced.

There is also a kind of pressure from urging marriage, for example, you don't want to get married, and the other party always wants you to marry him quickly, in this state you may have a certain amount of pressure, so you should give the other party a deadline, tell him that you have no intention of getting married before this, if he can accept it, then continue the relationship.

To sum up, stress must have a source, find the source of your stress and solve it.

His pressure may be ** social views. If I did, I would be stressed, my dad was only 27 years older than me, which is equivalent to the concept of two generations. Can he be stress-free?

But as long as you are legitimate, you truly love each other. Why do you care so much? Go your own way and let someone else take a taxi.

I wish you happiness.

This is just a prevarication, do you still think that he will really marry you, normal men want their women to be as young as possible, this is well known, but a mature, rational and upright man will not marry someone who is too different, maybe you don't understand it now, it's uncomfortable, you have to be responsible for your own life, responsible for your relatives at home, you have watched too many TV series, those are all lies, you will understand later.

Let's speculate based on what you said:

You want to marry him, prove that you have reached the age of marriage, about 20, so older than you are 28 years old, that is, 48 years old, you think that when you are 30 years old and enjoying life, and your husband is 58 years old, his hair is gray, and he acts carefully, what is your mood? Are you sure you can accept it?

Think about it, and don't believe what you say on TV

What did he find pressured on? Is it an economic problem? Age issues? Or is it his family's problem? This requires further communication to understand the specific things and root causes of his troubles in order to effectively solve them.

Friend, you're too powerful, aren't you? Admire you! It's a bit big! It's a bit difficult to live a good life! Think for yourself, friend! I wish you happiness.

You are trying to create a factor of disharmony in the family.

I want to ask you if you regret it, I'm facing the same problem as you right now and I don't know what to do.

Obviously, your boyfriend's family conditions are not enough to buy a wedding house for you from here, but your boyfriend is embarrassed to tell you and doesn't want to lose you, so he can only delay you again and again. If you don't believe him, you can tentatively tell him that if you marry him and settle down in his family, he will definitely propose to you immediately. Hehe!

But then again, do you have to buy a house before you get married? Do you have to have everything in place to marry him? It also depends on the conditions of the man's family! If you give your boyfriend too many conditions and too much pressure, will you be able to guarantee happiness after marriage?

The house you are referring to is to buy a house, the city you are staying in now or a city in another province, girl, there may be three reasons why they don't mention it: 1If you let him buy a house here, how will his parents choose?

My boyfriend should be embarrassed too. They don't want to. Therefore, I don't mention marriage, and I can drag it on for as long as I can.

2.I feel that the matter between you and him is settled, so they are not in a hurry.

3.Or is it a matter of your ** life in the future, after all, you can only choose to be considerate of one of your parents. If your boyfriend chooses to live in your current city, his parents will probably not be happy about your marriage. After all, the traditional idea is that girls should follow men.

You find a good time to talk to your boyfriend, don't hold it in your heart, don't guess. Communicate well, the sooner you solve it, the better.

In this case, then you say that you want to get married now, and see how he reacts, I think the key question is whether you will live in the city where his parents live in the future.

I'll go, you really dare to believe it, please ask, how did your boyfriend say to buy, such as when to buy, how to buy, where to buy, how big to buy, how hard he worked to prepare, how to carry out his own plans, do you know, you are a woman, don't believe in the equality of men and women, it's hard to find a woman after a long time, if your boyfriend didn't lie to you and asked him to tell him how to buy what plan, see if he can do it, a man said he can't do it, you say he is ** can, say he is incapable and don't admit it, Do you like people like that? Do you feel safe with him? Such a person who doesn't know what he's talking about, or even if he has a house, do you feel safe with him?

It doesn't matter if a man looks good or bad, whether he has money or not, the important thing is a sense of security, what is a sense of security, that is, you won't worry about when he says I love you and when he runs away, how to ensure that, see if he has a sense of responsibility, when it comes to not doing it and not being able to do it, but not saying that I think you can tell what is not responsible and what is called limited ability.

She's not in a hurry, what are you anxious about, the conditions are good, there are all, don't hang a tree, give her a little nervousness.

Tell him directly, what is the reason, but be calm, because he also has his difficulties.

Communicate well, so that you won't be noisy often in the future.

To accommodate each other, unilateral payment is not possible.

Take him to see the house. See what he reflects.

There is no money to borrow. You can buy smaller ones. You can buy a little bit.

Mushroom Liang, anyway, I have been in love for 4 years, and there must be a reason why the man's family does not mention the black and the white does not mention marriage. The crux of the matter is: whether or not to get entangled in the house problem!

The man said: If you want to get married, you can't ask for a house. I'm weird about that.

I agree with the upstairs opinion to test it: Honey, I don't want anything, can we just spend a few dollars to get a license? Look at the man's reaction...

After being together for so long, what do you think of him?

If you can, you should wait, if not, then I think it will definitely not be good for you to wait for this man to be really rich, and he is not young.