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If your wife helps you, then you have a good chance of being happy, and if your wife helps your parents-in-law, then it is estimated that you don't have to marry your wife. Husband and wife are concentric, their profits are broken, the wife is yours, don't worry about your parents-in-law! It is his business that he loves money, and he has to pay living expenses every month if it has not changed!

Let's see what kind of person your girlfriend is, if he doesn't care about that, likes you, treats you well, it's nothing, she will coordinate all this, if your girlfriend is obedient to her parents, then you have to think about it.

Definitely, absolutely not happy. Getting married is a big deal. Think about it carefully, it doesn't mean that you can get married if you love each otherA lot of things are not careful. I can't live ,.! married lifeAnd the divorce rate is also very high.

If the two of you really love each other, you might as well take this as a test, marry the daughter who has worked hard to raise you, and the heart of the family is definitely not a taste, and when you become a parent, you will experience it, hehe, I hope you will strengthen your confidence and come together happily. The views and opinions of your father-in-law and your mother-in-law's temper don't affect you much, because you live independently, don't you? When the time comes, the filial piety that should be fulfilled will be fulfilled, and it will be enough for them to say nothing.

No, with such parents, will daughters be worse than them.

This matter mainly depends on you, if you really love him, then you don't want any bride price, it's all for others to see, think about it, if his family borrows money to meet your family's conditions, the money will not be repaid by the two of you in the future. If there is really a relationship, two people who truly love each other should not be embarrassed for him because of money. I didn't ask for a penny when I got married to my husband, so I just registered with two people and then invited relatives and friends to have a meal.

This matter is mainly up to you, I advise you, if you really love each other, you just want to save face and be beautiful. The future life of two people is the most important thing. Like us, we didn't have anything at the beginning, but now we have everything, and we are very happy.

How much the bride price is given to outsiders will not really look at it. Do your parents' work, feelings are more important than money!

Khan, which city in Guangdong is the landlord from? Has the custom reached the price of seventy or eighty thousand?

Although the customs are different from place to place, as a commoner, it is difficult to accept 70,000 or 80,000 yuan at once, after all, marriage still costs money in many other places.

If your boyfriend is really a good person, why should you compare the real number? What the custom wants is a formality, and the quantity can be discussed between the two families, does the bride price have to be compared with others to see who receives more?

I'm from Guangzhou, so it's a bigger city, right? The girlfriend is also a family in the city, and our parents are considerate, which is a gift of 10,000 yuan, so what do you say? Is your local consumption level twice as high as Guangzhou's?

Then again, if your boyfriend is not so good that it is not worth your price reduction, and you need to ensure that the bride price is enough, then you have to separate.

Now it's also because his parents don't agree that he can't get married, but not because of the bride price, but because he wants to find a powerful father-in-law for his son in Beijing. Hehe, but I see your emotional encounter, or I feel the same as the end of the world, hehe, but I think, if you really have feelings, and the emotional foundation is also very good, you will not easily say that you break up, of course, people sometimes have fragile times, but it depends on whether he is in that period of mental fragility when he says the breakup, if so, then you can forgive, you can also wait, if it is very rational to say the breakup, then it is still broken, long pain is better than short pain. You are already very wronged, why bother to receive the grievances from him again, after all, if you marry him in the future, you will get along with his family, why make yourself unhappy for the rest of your life.

So if you want to find a man, you have to find money.

If you don't have a gift money, you don't have to get married.

This chronology of marriage is measured in terms of money!

Why do you want money, we have to accompany the custom woman here for 10 tens of thousands, do you have it, is the relationship important or the money is important,

Because of money, sorrow! Does money dictate your marriage

From the beginning of stepping into society, everything will not be as pure as love on campus, talking about marriage will inevitably involve issues such as bride price, and girls nowadays are so realistic, they won't follow if they don't have a house, and breaking up because of bride price seems to be commonplace.

I have such a friend next to me, his girlfriend opened her mouth to ask for a bride price of 130,000 yuan, the man's family conditions are average, and his parents really borrowed money from everywhere for the 130,000 bride price, just because their son wants to marry this girl alive or dead. In fact, parents want their children to be happy, so as long as the children are willing, most parents will do their best to satisfy their children. ButIn the face of material and emotional, we should distinguish clearly what two people are trying to do together.

As I said above, if my parents are asked to borrow money to raise a bride price, and the amount is so large, I feel that the motive is not pure, so why should I blindly agree. But if the family has money and is unwilling to show sincerity to the woman, then the woman will have to propose to break up, and whoever marries the daughter can't marry for nothing, and the woman's parents can't be cold. So if you have a really deep relationship, this kind of thing like a bride price,The customs are different in each place, and everyone is at a stalemate at first, but you can reconcile in the middleAh, these things are negotiable.

But if you bury each other's feelings for a bride price of tens of thousands of yuan, it means that the feelings between you may not be so deep, or rather, the current girl is indeed very realistic, because she also wants to live after marriage. There is nothing wrong with real girls, but the social environment does not bring them much security.

So don't be too sorry if you break up for the bride priceA relationship can only go long and see more truly only if it has experienced many things together.

If a man feels that it is unfair to marry a wife and give a bride price because of the equality of men and women, then the man can be a son-in-law without the bride price. The law does not stipulate that the woman must marry the man, and if the woman does not want to marry without a bride price, the man can show equality to marry into the woman's family.

The reality is so cruel, love in this society must be financially secure, and your girlfriend's parents definitely don't want her to suffer with you.

Wait until you have a daughter yourself, and you will think about it again as a father!

Reality is definitely crueler than you think, so don't get caught up in the fantasy.

The reality is so cruel, a marriage without an economic foundation will not be so smooth.

Because the bride price broke up, it means that you don't necessarily love each other very much, in fact, as long as you can change the position of the bride price and think about each other, you can understand each other, the woman can think of the man is not very easy, and the man can also think more about the woman, including the woman's parents, should be able to understand.

First of all, give an example of the woman, why would the woman's parents ask for a bride price, after all, in the future, they must live with others rather than money. Let's think about it in a different position, other parents have worked hard for more than 20 years to raise a daughter, and they are afraid that it will melt in their mouths, and they are afraid that it will fall off in their hands, so they will give it to you for nothing? It's impossible to think about it yourself!

There is also a problem of trust, the daughter is married, and the parents can no longer protect their little princess, and they want the last guarantee for their daughter, after all, the man is divorced, and it is easy to find. Women are not necessarily, maybe after the divorce will lose everything, when she encounters all this, there is still some money in her hand so that she will not end up on the street, and some people will say that I will definitely treat her well for a lifetime if I marry her, but the parents have already taken into account the worst situation that their baby will encounter in the future! Because most of the parents I have met will save part or all of the bride price for their daughter after she gets married, in case of emergency.

And it's not that reality is so cruel, but that cruelty is only a part of reality. Reality will never be like a fairy tale, reality always puts the most practical and urgent things to solve in front of you, when you can't solve it, you will say that the reality is cruel, in fact, to put it bluntly, your ability is not enough! In fact, when you talk about marriage, it means that you are an adult and no longer a child, and the bride price of your father-in-law and mother-in-law just makes you get out of the world of fairy tales as soon as possible!

After all, after getting married, real things will come one after another. Instead of complaining about the cruelty of society, reality. It's better to work harder!

In fact, on the issue of bride price, there is another way to compromise is to let your father-in-law and mother-in-law have enough trust in your ability and character, so that the bride price is more or less just a formality!

Don't care, just get used to it, you don't have money these days, you play with it, remember that men can't be poor As long as you have money, love is something, maybe money can't buy love, but it can buy you a beautiful wife, and it doesn't matter if you do anything else. As long as you have money, even if you are missing arms and legs or polio or a fool, you will not lack a wife, and you have seen a lot of things and have long been used to it. So work hard to earn money, boy!

Fortunately, I got married 16 years ago, and I was sad to watch. The wife who didn't spend the money at the time has not seen the salary card for so many years, so it should be paid in installments, hehe......Now the two sons are very happy!

The reality is indeed so cruel, and we middle-aged people are dying of old fire, both old and young, and we all want to die.

The reality is that sometimes money really solves all problems, and no one wants to suffer as soon as they get married.

People are selling, you have to talk about feelings, the three views are inconsistent, what do you do?

Brother, you were born more than ten years early, and now the children are obviously more women than men, and at that time, the mother-in-law will not be so arrogant, and the bride price phenomenon will disappear, and the mother-in-law will be replaced by a dowry compared with others.

A lot of beautiful love will be hit by reality.

Marriage is very realistic, it not only has ups and downs, but also has an economic foundation to support.

The bride price is a hurdle that cannot be bypassed in marriage, if the requirements of the two families are not very different, it is better to find a middleman to discuss it, you two don't talk about this issue, a talk will definitely break down the relationship.

Break up, break up, women are not dead, the poorer they are, the more they want a bride price, what are you marrying this poor woman

I always see a group of people who are unwilling to pay a bride price, and those who are more or less are not happy, in fact, they can really get into the money, save a lot of trouble, and don't have to struggle, and don't go out of the RV.

Because the bride price is given by the man, the more the woman wants, the less the man feels that she loves him and the less affection she has, while the woman receives it, so they feel that the less they give, the less they love her.

There are many such things in life, and there are many cruel things than this kind of thing, and there is no need to be rare and strange at all. Work hard, it's the only way.

If you feel cruel, then let her go.

There are many choices in life, so why bother with it.

When it comes to marriage, you should believe that "if you are not a family, you will not enter a family".

Follow the fate, cherish the fate, and do not seek the fate.

Don't pay too much attention to this, you can only do what you want in the eyes of others if you try your best.

My friends have also asked me about this question. Psychologically, this has a lot to do with a person's growth environment and experience, and some small factors will also affect... For example, the color of the walls of the room you live in, and the colors you see often, the richer and brighter ones will have a positive effect.

Now you will have such thoughts, because the character has been.

Look for a goal. Make yourself live better.

1. If you can't afford it, you can discuss it with your girlfriend's parents.

Everything is discussed, I believe that my girlfriend's parents will not be so ruthless, Guan Jian depends on how you communicate with their second elder, you have to persuade them with your incorruptible tongue, you have to be emotional, you have to show your determination, I believe they will definitely agree to you.

2. Set goals and strive to earn enough money for the bride price.

As mentioned earlier, according to the current economic income, saving 3,000 yuan a month (saving money) is nearly more than 30,000 yuan a year, and more than three years will definitely earn enough bride price money for your girlfriend, for your girlfriend, for your happiness, isn't it easy for you to do it in the past three years?

And you and your girlfriend are about to get married, then you must like her very much, since you love each other, why be stumped by the bride price, and as long as you really love each other, don't be afraid of the bride price.

3. If the family has the conditions, you can advance a part of it with the family first.

If you have a little savings at home, you can ask your parents to help, I believe that parents will think about their children, if they have some savings in their hands, they will definitely help you, and you will slowly pay them back after you earn money.

4. Don't feel that the bride price money is pressure and give up marrying your girlfriend.

Don't have this kind of thought, the bride price money is really not much in today's society, and people need more than 100,000 or 200,000 yuan to buy a car, so don't feel pressure, and don't give up easily. As long as you can work hard, I'm sure the two of you will tie the knot.

It is not easy for a pair of parents to raise a child, how can you easily marry her, it must cost money or effort, if your father-in-law and mother-in-law don't marry their daughter to you for a penny, you should mumble in your heart.

5. There is no problem that cannot be solved, we must discuss and communicate with our family, one person can't think of a way, there is a lot of power, we must be able to come up with a plan, don't use extreme ways to deal with things, so that the gains outweigh the losses. As the saying goes: all roads lead to Rome, don't be defeated by the difficulties in front of you, as long as you have true feelings, you will definitely be able to overcome them.