I want to get married and have children, but my boyfriend doesn t mean that, and I don t know what t

It's very comfortable, you don't have to have children so early. Generally old to have children. Blessing!!!

You can seriously think about how to go in the future.

If you don't know the bottom of your heart, let's talk about marriage first. It is indeed more expensive to raise children, especially men feel more pressure, after all, they are the pillars of the family. You can still travel twice a year, the income is still good, if you want to have a child, you have to save a little, that's how the savings come out.

If you don't have a stable career and no savings, you can't afford to raise it, and if you have children, you still have to let your parents take them.

Let both parents come forward and ask you to get married.

Personally, I think that girls are looking for peers to fall in love, it's not very fair, you are three years old, it's the same age, boys are a few years later than girls are mature, and girls' mate selection period is earlier than boys, peer love will only be, girls use the most gorgeous period of youth to accompany boys at the lowest point of their careers, and when boys reach the **mate selection period, the age of girls of the same age is not within the range of his mate selection, men are always looking for a mate, and young and beautiful girls have sprung up, batch after batch, That's it, when your boyfriend is eager for marriage, he will definitely not look for it at your age, they like to fight with them when they work hard for their careers, and after they succeed, they dream of a young and beautiful victory wife, no one has a front and back eye, even they themselves can't imagine that they will change their minds in the future, but the achievements are different, and people with different positions will still change, and the current post-60s fathers, who were also vows for a lifetime, are not money worshippers, But now this group of post-60s developed after a lot of young and beautiful, not very developed, no rich people's capital, but there are rich people's style, if you really want to be fair, just take the woman's mate selection period with the man's mate selection period, I sighed for a while to say a little too much, I hope the landlord thinks about it himself, everyone's suggestion is just for the landlord to reference, the decision is made by the landlord himself.

It's not good to be unmarried and have children.

Then you have to figure out what happened to his child, did he give birth before marriage, where is the child's mother, is he still in touch with the child's mother, and when will he get married? You can ask him on the side, or ask his friends or something. It is important to determine whether the child is a boy or a girl, how old he is, and who is taking care of the child.

After these are determined, you have to see what your boyfriend's parents do, whether they have financial income, and what your boyfriend's financial income is, these must also be clarified, because when you have children, the expenses will increase a lot compared to when two people do not have children, double or even double or more.

Once you have this figured out, you have to give your parents a reaction to these questions so that they can also give you some reference or guidance.

Finally, you also have to think about whether you can accept marrying a man with children, and you will be a mother when you enter the door. If they accept, your parents can discuss your marriage directly with their parents. If you can't accept it, then break up!

Understand the reasons before making a decision, what is going on with his child? Adoption, having sex with an ex-girlfriend, what is the reason for the unmarried husband, etc., understand these clearly, and you think that you can still accept his past, then continue to get along. If you really care about his history and his children, it's better to separate as soon as possible, in the interest of both parties.

Truly loving someone is actually making the right judgment. I wish you happiness!

Don't think about it, this situation is definitely going to break up, unless you think about it and are ready to be a stepmother. But it is still recommended that you do not do this, it doesn't matter now, if you have your own children in the future, a little biased, or even if you are not partial, there will be many people who say that you are not good to the previous child, but you will definitely not treat others equally for your own biological leave, so unless you are fully mentally prepared, it is better to break up.

It's troublesome, you have children, it doesn't matter if you're married or not, the key is whether you can accept the fact that he has children with other women. Marriage is too complicated, and it is indeed difficult to manage a lifelong marriage.

Break up, because you also suddenly knew, it wasn't what he told you at the beginning, it's a little irresponsible, and you will be a stepmother when you are together in the future, so you have to be mentally prepared.

This matter must be handled carefully. Didn't understand it beforehand. But the main thing is your attitude now. If you feel like you're okay with it, you might as well talk to him. I try to get things out of the way. This will be better for you in the future.

Think carefully about whether you can accept this or not.

If you can accept it, you can continue to talk. Also look at the way this man gets along with his own child, and see if he can get along well with this child.

If you can't accept it, end the relationship.

I'm struggling with this too, I'm just like you. He confessed everything to me. He said that he had a daughter who had a daughter with an ex-girlfriend but was not married, and had been separated from his ex-girlfriend for three or five years.

He also said that he would never forgive the woman for the rest of his life. If you don't believe him, it's no problem with him to get a marriage certificate right away. But I don't think he has much financial means right now.

I don't know what I think. My brain is so messy, I'm 19, he's 29

There are two choices for this: either forgive him and continue to be nice to him, or choose to break up, depending on whether he is straight enough for you to love. If he is sincere to you, I see that I will let go of everything in the past and continue to love him.

My ex-boyfriend too, he is 25 years old today, the child is eight years old, he had a child with his ex-girlfriend at a young age, and he told me that he had a child after two months with me, and I told him to get out, and he will never get along with each other in the future.

Let's see if you can accept it.

But why didn't he tell you before.

This is important.

I think there's something.

It should be made clear at the beginning of the relationship.

Otherwise, there is a suspicion of deliberate concealment.

I seem to be in this situation now.,As for the origin of the child, I also told me.,I personally think I can accept it.,But my family can't accept it.,So it's not easy now.,The two of them are nothing.,It's my family's fierce opposition.。。

It seems that your boyfriend is an amorous, standard scumbag, do you still love him now.

Except for the child, it doesn't matter if you want to get back together with him, it's okay to accept it.

1.My boyfriend wants to marry me but forces me to have a baby.

I want to say how old is your boyfriend, if you are about 30, to be honest, men of this age do want to have children, and the old people in the family are also very tight. If you are still under 26, I think you should have children early, after all, it is not easy to raise children, and it takes a lot of money. If the managerial ability of two people is not very good, it will be very hard.

Since you are still young, wait another year or two, at that time you also have a little savings, and it will not be very difficult to raise a child after birth. The diapers and milk powder that children need to use every month cost a lot, and my cousin's son costs almost 1,000 a month. The child's problem is still negotiable.

But I want to say that he really loves you? I read what you said, and I don't really feel that he loves you. My first impression was that he seemed to be tying you up with a child and wanted to be an established fact.

I feel that he is cheating on you, and you think about your relationship. Didn't you say he played his rack up pretty well? The results are fake.

And you go to the street alone, and the people there say that they don't like your daughter-in-law! Don't you feel like a problem? No matter how feudal the countryside is now, conservative thinking will not say that it is not okay for a woman to go shopping for something and go shopping, and there is no woman in their village who goes out to buy things and go shopping alone?

If so, it is true that if you go out on the street alone, others will say that it is a custom relationship, but if other people's women in their village will also go out on the street alone, then it is not a matter of customs. I boldly thought that they should guard against you, prevent you from escaping. Because they think that you were deceived by him, and if you don't like it, it will be gone.

Didn't you say that they love face very much, and if they marry a daughter-in-law, they will have money? He broke up with that woman, could it be that he found that the woman's family conditions were not as good as yours? And he said that you must have children if you marry him.

I feel that I want to marry a wife just to have children, and it is not easy for him to let you have children, just work more overtime. A woman's greatest weakness is her children. Suppose you are now his child and born to him, and at this time you find something, can you say that you can leave?

If you don't think about anything else, you have to think about the child, don't you? You said you've known each other for a year, but you're online. How much do you know about him in real life.

Come to think of it, I don't want to say what you like so badly, but these things do happen and are reported all the time. If you say that you have reason, then use your reason to analyze your feelings, the process of communication, getting along with each other and understanding and giving to each other. Feelings are not something that you just want to get without paying.

If he is a person who does not know how to give and only wants to get, then I am even more suspicious. Once you've figured it out, you'll know what to do.

1.My boyfriend wants me to give birth to the baby, what should I do?

I posted before that I didn't know if I wanted to or not, but after thinking about it for so many days, I thought about it very clearly.

I can't have this child. First, my boyfriend treats me badly, he still has a burden after giving birth, he has no ability to support himself, he will be more humble in front of him, he can't raise his head, he has to think of his children in everything, and this life is probably ruined.

Second, my boyfriend is an irresponsible and rather selfish person, and he may abandon his wife and children at any time after marrying him, or spend his own time drinking and not caring whether we live or die.

Third, we didn't have the conditions to have children at all, and before the two of us lived, he often played cards and lost so much that I was responsible for the family's expenses. I can't imagine what it would be like for us to have a child and be on our own.

I don't want to ruin my life, and I don't want my child to be so pitiful.

So I discussed with him and said that I didn't want children, but he didn't agree, and he quarreled with me, saying that I didn't count if I said it alone.

I really don't know what to do now, I was helpless to cry last night, I only have a thousand yuan now, and I started to make an appointment online to go to the hospital tomorrow and the day after tomorrow, and he didn't agree and wouldn't give me money.

How can I marry such a selfish person and have children! Before, when I hadn't decided that Xintong was going to fight, once I said that I would go to a certain hospital for an examination (the name of the hospital will not be said, lest everyone say that I am advertising, anyway, it is a better hospital in Chongqing) He said that it was expensive, and asked me to go to a newly opened hospital in Changsheng, saying that his friend's wife went there, and it was only more than 200 yuan to go to the fetal protection injection every day after the examination. Look at what kind of person this is, this kind of thing is not willing to spend money, and we live in Nanping, obviously there is a good hospital in Nanping, he is too expensive, in order to save money, let me run Changsheng every day to get injections.

Or is it a newly opened hospital, can you rest assured? Doing a pregnancy test is only a few hundred dollars.

I really huh.

Summary. You can talk to him about the economy, timing.

You can talk to him about the economy, timing.

Did he try to tell me to give up?

Economy, what is the timing.

The economy is now very expensive to get married and have children, and the cost and experience are very expensive.

Timing = The careers of the two of us are not particularly stable.

Not in a hurry, I think my income is income, but not stable enough I think of myself, I feel that he is in a hurry, and I don't know what he is anxious about, I have been to his house, his parents gave me a red envelope of hail, I gave it back to him, asked him to bring it over, today Zen Litian rode a battery car to see me, and then the mobile phone was placed there to charge and did not bring, I thought there was something on the phone, and then went back to ride, the key was at home again, and I used my mobile phone to call ** to his mother, asked his mother to give him the key, and then he went to get the key, I was walking around, waiting for him, he came in a blink of an eye, and then I was chatting with him and then his dad said he didn't have the key, he said he thought his dad had the key, and he went back to deliver the key, and after delivering the key, I asked him to go to the previous place to chat, and he went, and kept playing with his phone, and said that if I had been living in the past, then forget it, and said that I wouldn't get married this year, and I wouldn't have children.

Do you have any previous stories? Why do you say you've been living in the past?

I've talked a lot about it, and he's been through a lot, and he should care about that.

Yes. Give him some care and security.

I cared about him, and he still didn't think about me.

Sit down and talk and open each other's hearts.

What should I do if he still can't say what is in his heart, I have told the truth, and he still wants to destroy me, so I will consume him and not consider him.

There is no need. It's better to sit down and talk than internal friction.

If you can put it down, that's no problem, if you can't put it down, don't have internal friction.