Who can help me with the chaos in my heart right now?

Did you know that grades are the only way your parents know your grades, and if they don't look at your grades, how do they know how your grades are?

The reason why they scold you is because you are all your parents, in fact, you are not only owned by your parents, you are also their pride, your achievements are their capital to show off to others, and they will be proud when talking about you with other people. Isn't it a success for a daughter to make his parents proud?

Sometimes, you can peek at your parents, look at the corners of their eyes, look at their hair, those traces that have been painstakingly boiled out by the years, I am sure, a daughter who is proud of her parents will feel something.

Actually, I say so much just to tell you that although your living environment is really sad at first glance, in fact, you live in love, and you have to understand this.

Be understanding, be considerate, and when you have your own children one day, you will understand that kind of painstaking work, although the methods your parents have done are inappropriate, but they also love you heartily!

Put your mind at ease, study hard and give yourself a goal, such as 20th this time, 18th next time, take your time!

What's wrong with you being a woman, Queen Elizabeth, and Marie Curie are also women.

We are all very proud of them.

Your mom loves you after all.

Parents hate iron but not steel.

Your mom blames you for your test results because of expectations of you.

If your mother thinks that women are inferior to men, she won't blame you.

I think she wants you to be as good as the boys.

So keep trying, don't be discouraged.

I'm sure you'll one day be your mother's proud daughter.

My relationship with my mom wasn't good when I was in junior high school.

But it's always going to be okay.

I hope you reconcile with your mother soon.

I also have to spend more time with my mother.

First of all, you have to understand that every parent has the expectation that their son will become a dragon and their daughter will become a phoenix. It's human nature.

In fact, in today's society, the phenomenon of preference for sons is not so prominent. It's the same for both men and women. You don't have to think about it at all.

You have to know that learning is your own business, and don't care too much about what others think. Just do your best, as long as you do the right thing. When you are in trouble, you should also communicate more with your parents and talk about your thoughts and regrets.

I'm sure they'll understand you. Also, you should think about whether your study method is inappropriate. This requires more consultation with classmates and teachers, and ......Finally, I wish you good results and live in harmony with your mother!

Today's parents should not have the old idea of preference for sons, don't put too much burden on your heart, in fact, the opponent who threatens us from childhood to adulthood is "someone else's child", but in fact, the biggest opponent is ourselves.

Then cry! After crying, you should continue to set off, every parent hopes that their children will become talents, and do what they are good at! Everyone has their own strengths, and showing their strengths will impress one day.

Every parent hopes that their daughter will become a phoenix and their son will become a dragon, maybe your mother is just a little more urgent. In any case, her intentions are always good, and she just hopes that you will be successful in the future. Maybe in terms of methods, your mother doesn't handle it very well, thinks you are a child, and doesn't seriously consider your feelings.

I'm also a girl......If you don't do well in the exam, your mother will scold you, this is her fault, maybe she just didn't express her emotions correctly, she pays you to study, just wants you to live in the upper class society in the future, and doesn't want you to suffer, you didn't do well in the exam this time, she is just anxious, worried about your future, and will scold you if she doesn't choose her words. Anything you want to do is fine.

There are many, many voices in your mind that make you feel very confused, and you can't calm your mind down, and that's a really bad feeling. Since your description is a bit vague, I guess you should first determine if there are indeed some conditions that are affecting you. It is best to go to the psychiatric department of the hospital for a check-up.

Then let's look at why we have so many different voices in our hearts.

Some voices may come from parents, who have learned some life lessons from their own experiences and tell us what to do. Some of the voices of the clan may come from our elders or peers, who also have their own feelings and opinions on some issues. Some of the voices may come from some of the media we are exposed to, such as television, books, the Internet, and so on.

These voices come from different people, these different people, they have their own different auspicious calendars, and they also have different understandings of the world, and some voices are just opposite and contradictory to each other. You may be troubled because every voice has been taken seriously by you, and you have not established a solid and clear self-understanding, and you feel as if every voice has merit. When there is a conflict between them, you feel like you don't know what to do.

Let me share my thoughts and suggestions.

One, these voices made by others are based on their knowledge of the world. We can't say which of these voices is right and which is wrong, because they are all produced by the different experiences of these different people, and they may be right at a certain stage or in a certain situation, and they may not be appropriate at another time or in another scene. You can listen to every voice, but you don't have to believe every voice.

Second, establish a clear sense of self-awareness and self-worth. In the face of all kinds of voices in your head, don't rush to make a choice, don't have any evaluation or judgment about them, just let them stay there. Then calm down and take a closer look at your feelings:

Under what circumstances, in what environment, and when you do something, you are the most relaxed, the happiest, and the most satisfied.

Third, meditation can be used to relieve anxiety and deepen the experience of yourself. Meditation has a guiding effect on us, allowing us to temporarily let go of various distractions and emotions, and allowing us to better connect with our body and mind. The most important thing is not to rush.

It may be that the pressure of self-fragmentation is too great, and these bad thoughts will appear in the closed line, I personally suggest that you go out for a walk and make more friends.

At such times, we should maintain a positive and optimistic attitude, do not think cranky, relax our minds, and relieve stress.

I think at this kind of moment, you should go to a psychiatrist in time, you may have suffered some blows before, so you can't think about it, I suggest that you find a psychologist in time to consult and enlighten you.

I'll give you advice, can you see it?

1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day".

2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ......

3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down.

4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax.

5.Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale.

6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it.

7.Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water.

8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc.

9.Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy. Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life is, I believe it is wonderful.

Listen to soothing songs to calm yourself down.

Your confusion can be summed up as, no goal?

In fact, it's really that simple, there are actually a lot of children like you, maybe in China, almost every child has a little time like this.

Think back to your childhood, do you remember a child who wanted to be a scientist and an astronaut? It's a little outrageous that I want to be Ultraman.,I want to be Kesai.,When I grew up, I started to change.,I want to be the first in the class.,Later.。

III. Before. 10. Do a good job in student ......Some people always say that it is good to study medicine, to make money by studying industry, to learn teacher training, and to study science and engineering......The child began to become unthinkable in the most imaginative decade.

The meaning of life, to put it simply, is that the values of life are not clear enough, I don't know how to work hard, what I like, I forget, for a long time, I am doing too much is that people say that it is good to learn this, and then go to learn and do it.

Do you understand yourself a little? If what I write works for you, ask for it.

It is fundamental to eliminate impatience and depression, relieve psychological pressure, establish a life path, and establish good living habits and attitudes.

1. Life is only a hundred years, it is still easier to be a man--- don't be in a hurry, don't be burdened by trivial things, take a step back and open the sky.

2. Maintain inner peace to feel relaxed--- content, indifferent to fame and fortune, tolerant of others, and learn to be calm.

3. Be kind to yourself, you will feel more relaxed--- accept yourself, applaud yourself more, learn to rest, and vent the troubles in life.

4. To be a relaxed person, you need to learn to enjoy life.

In life, it is inevitable to encounter some unpleasant things, but sometimes you just need to look at the problem from a different angle and face it optimistically, and there will be a scene of "another village in front of you", which requires discovering and creating the beauty of life and learning to enjoy life.

Think more about the benefits of everything, help others, make friends, don't take things too seriously, think about everything, don't be burdened by perfection, enjoy the fun that life brings you, discover the beauty of life, and enjoy the current happy life.

Let go of everything you have in your hands now.

Let yourself relax.

Otherwise, the pressure will be too much.

Talk to a close friend.

I feel that living meaninglessly is mostly because the gap between the ideal and the reality is too big, think about Maslow's 5 needs theory, put the requirements for yourself at the bottom, and wait to meet the bottom requirements are slowly rising, see if this will be better.

Catch up with friends, hang out, or travel.

There is a lot of meaning in living, at least you haven't repaid the parents who raised you, if you are gone, they must be very sad, and your good friends will definitely be very sorry, people are always easy to lose themselves in a period of time, but don't be discouraged, don't know how to find yourself and let yourself empty for a while, and when you are rested, you will think about what will happen to you in the future.

Set yourself a long-term goal and a short-term plan!Practice step by step, I believe that life will be wonderful!If you want to see something, you can find it according to your favorite genre!

To be alive is to gasp and eat!

At this point, you'll need to pack your backpack and go on a trip so you can relax and think about what to do next. If you read books, you can also read some, but it is better to travel thousands of miles than to read thousands of books.

Well. Let's get out and walk more. Look at different people, different worlds, you will always find your own place, the people who need you.