I have social phobia, am I having social phobia?

Hello. Your blush is painful to you, have you ever wondered why you are in such pain? Why is it that other people are going to school and others are on the street, and they are happy, but you are miserable?

The reason for your pain is not whether your face is red or not, you have to be clear, there are many people who are very red, but they are very happy. The reason is that when you feel that when you blush and are seen, others will judge you in a way that you think is bad or unacceptable. Knowing this, then, it is necessary to solve this problem.

You are too concerned about what others say about you, and you are afraid that your face will turn red. If you blush and others praise you, then blushing is not terrible, but a good thing.

First of all, blushing is a natural reaction of the body that you can't control. Anyone who encounters a change in mood, anger, shyness, nervousness, etc., has a physiological reaction of rapid heartbeat and a red face, right? If others don't say that you blush, then you will still be very stable, right, it is precisely because others see you blushing, evaluate you, maybe guess your mind, you are very uncomfortable, very concerned about blushing, but you are not paying attention to the blush itself, but you are paying attention to what others think of your blushing.

Secondly, there are always thousands of other people's evaluations, other people's evaluations of you, right? It's impossible for everything to be good or bad, don't you also have various evaluations of others? Right?

Other people's evaluation is to look at the other person from the subjective point of view, and it is the subjective view of the other person on the situation at that time in his environment and psychological state at that time. How do you deal with other people's evaluations? Don't live in other people's words, don't live in other people's evaluations and opinions about you.

You are you, what you do, who you love or like, even whether you blush or not, it's all your doing, it's all your business, why do you have to win someone else's evaluation that makes you happy and do something, right? Other people are just the external environment, you have to understand, the exterior itself is a world with all kinds of changes, all kinds of seeming right and wrong, the environment is changing all the time, you are always in the unexpected world or how others see you and evaluate you, do you think this life is very painful? Why is it painful?

You're too concerned about changes in the unexpected world, and you're too concerned about what others say about you. A thousand people have 1,000 things to say about you, which one is right and which is wrong? In fact, there is no right or wrong, the key is your psychological stability, you can have a clean heart, don't care what others say, the most important thing is how your own heart looks at the evaluation around you, and the richness and meaning of your life is the most important thing.

Happy to you!

Don't put your hat on yourself, if only when you're with your parents, and you see your peers (especially the opposite sex) nervous and embarrassed. It could be because your parents have given you some kind of hint, for example, they have been pressuring you to get married, to find a partner, of course, this is just a hypothesis on my part, or to make you connect something with the opposite sex, such as you think about sex or whatever, and these can trigger the primitive fear in your heart, because there are primitive basic emotions in a person's heart, joy, anger, sorrow, fear. This is the ingredient that triggers that fear in your heart, whether this is social phobia or not, we will not judge, because social phobia is afraid to face everyone, and you are a certain group of people, and you feel this way when you are with your parents, which is very different from the symptoms of social phobia.

So, I suggest that you make this situation clearer, for example, when you are with your parents, why do you feel nervous and embarrassed when you see your peers (especially the opposite sex)? What came to your mind? Or what kind of experience have you had before, and after you understand these clearly, I will help you analyze and answer, okay?

Step 1: List the various scenes that can cause you to blush in order from light to heavy, and copy them on different cards, put the scene that makes you blush the least at the front, and put the scene that makes you blush the most at the end, and arrange the cards in order.

Step 2: Perform relaxation training. This is done by sitting in a comfortable seat and taking regular deep breaths to relax your whole body. Once you're in a relaxed state, take out the first card in the series and imagine the scene above, the more realistic and vivid the better.

Step 3: If you feel a little uneasy and blushing, stop and take a deep breath to relax again. After completely relaxing, reimagine the scene of the failure just now.

If the restlessness and blush recur, stop and relax, and so on until the scene on the card no longer makes you feel uneasy and blushing.

Step 4: Continue in the same way to the next scene that makes you feel more upset and blushing (the next card). Note that every time you enter the imagination of the next card, it must be based on the fact that you no longer feel upset and blush when imagining the previous card, otherwise, you must not move on to the next stage.

Step 5: When you imagine the scene that makes you feel the most uneasy and blushing, you can do the live exercise in order from light to severe, if you feel uneasy and blush at the scene, you can also let yourself take deep breaths to relax and fight, until you no longer blush, and then move on to the next exercise.

There should be counseling at the school, and you can ask the teachers there to help you.

It's not very serious, the point is to care too much about what others think of you.

Actually, I love to blush too (all 30 people.。。 It's still a man), sometimes it's inexplicably red (like now... At this time you should take a deep breath (which can quickly calm the nervous mind and lower the blood temperature) and tell yourself:

It's okay to pull, everyone will blush, I'm more tender than them.

Personality is more cheerful (I sometimes blush when I think about what I did wrong before.。。 Alas, it's all in the past.,What do you think about.。。 Don't pay attention to other people's strange eyes (is there really a strange eye?).

What does it look like to be different? I've never seen one! Give yourself self-confidence, always tell yourself:

I can do it! 1 is definitely possible.

I'm nervous in my third year of high school, and it's not just you, and it's not just girls, and I've actually had a time when I'm blushing whenever people talk about me and girls.

But after a month, it will be fine.

Actually, I didn't know how to deal with the opposite sex before, so my friends were all men, and I never had an accident, and I didn't even talk to girls.

Now that I've figured it out, the third year of high school is not the time when I can fall in love, let's talk about it in college as long as I fall in love and completely abandon it, I can talk to friends with the opposite sex and make jokes.

Don't fall in love in the third year of high school!!

P.S. When I blush, I forced myself to calm down, take a deep breath, and it was all right in no time.

I've had a situation like yours before, because my parents are divorced. It's pretty much the same as you, and it's embarrassing. Later, I realized that I was too withdrawn, so I interacted with more people. It's not the same as before.

Let it go! There's something terrible. You should communicate with others more. Over time you will become.

There will be such a reflection at this age, mainly due to the yearning for the opposite sex in adolescence, usually deal with boys more, exercise more, if you like boys, face it boldly, and deal with his relationship well!

This phenomenon is normal, don't be nervous, just deal with it as usual.

The more you think about it, the more nervous you get. It's better to let go of your hand and get used to it the next time you encounter such a situation!

Do you have social phobia?

Forehead. In fact, sometimes I look at other people awkwardly, so you should look straight ahead with your eyes to avoid eye contact with them.

People with social phobia are afraid of being seen in front of others and are afraid of being observed. Interacting with people, even being present in public places, is an extremely frightening task for them.

If you suffer from general social phobia, you will be afraid that you will be the center of attention everywhere, in any situation. You will find that everyone around you is watching you and observing your every little movement. You are afraid of being introduced to strangers, and even afraid of eating and drinking in public places.

You will avoid going to malls and restaurants as much as possible. You never dare to argue with your boss, co-workers, or anyone else to defend your rights.

You should be suffering from fear of sight.

Patients complain of not being able to look at others when they meet them, and they feel so embarrassed that they don't know where to look. Patients are obsessed with what they are looking at and are anxious to force themselves to stabilize, but often backfire, and finally they are unable to concentrate on the conversation, and the conversation does not match the beginning and the end, and often loses its normalcy. Some people with visual phobia complain of not being able to pay attention to the person opposite them, or feeling that their gaze is toward the person next to them, when they share a room with many people, complains that they are unable to pay attention to the person next to them, or that they feel unpleasant that their gaze is towards the person next to them.

As a result, the patient's energy is not able to concentrate on the person opposite. Some students and patients always can't pay attention to the classmates next to them during class, or always feel that the classmates next to them are paying attention to them, which affects the class and brings great pain to themselves.

First of all, this is not a disease, you look at others, others look at you, do you think others shouldn't look at you, or do you think people look at you, and you don't take it normally?

Has it ever caused conflict?

Recite more Buddha, release more life, read more Buddhist scriptures, self-resolve, ten thousand laws are born from the heart, ten thousand laws are destroyed by the heart, read more Buddhist scriptures, you will be enlightened, I wish you a speedy recovery.