Does parental indulgence affect children, and what are the implications?

Smart children tend to be more likeable because they always bring joy to their loved ones and elders. And in the hearts of the elders, those smart and lovely children are often more likely to have great prospects in the future. Nowadays, many parents are worried about how to educate their children, and they are afraid of causing a burden on their children's psychology if they manage too much, and they are afraid that their children will be too indulgent.

Many parents pamper their children too much when they are young, and when they grow up, they find that their children have many shortcomings, but at this time, they educate their children themselves, and they don't listen, so parents feel very headaches and feel that their children are too difficult to discipline.

The professor of Peking University pointed out: No matter what kind of child you are, how high your IQ is, as long as you are on these three points"Indulgence", then the child will definitely have no interest in the future.

1. There is no sense of giving.

Children don't know how to work hard to fight for what they want, and only pay will be rewarded, which requires parents to instill this kind of thinking in their children from an early age. Children need to be pampered when they are young, but at each age, they must master the corresponding skills, and receive the corresponding feelings and inspirations. If you grow up in a honeypot for a long time, then your child will lack exercise.

After a long time, I can't even endure a little bitterness. Now parents are very doting on their children, pampered since childhood, what the child wants, parents will buy what, after a long time the child thinks that I want will have, I don't know how hard to obtain.

2. Make excuses after making mistakes and like to shirk responsibility.

Some children are very smart, but their brains don't have to be in the right place, they always like to focus on getting more benefits for themselves. When children are young, they do not have such awareness, and parents are the first enlightenment teachers of children, and the influence on children is very great. Children need to be cultivated from an early age to be independent, responsible, and brave to bear mistakes.

When children are young, they do not have such awareness, and parents are the first enlightenment teachers of children, and the influence on children is very great. Children need to be cultivated from an early age to be independent, responsible, and brave to bear mistakes.

3. Words and deeds are inconsistent.

A child's teaching is inseparable from parents, and what kind of character a child has has a lot to do with parents. In life, some parents are more casual, easy to forget, and do not know how to record and plan, such a state and behavior will be unconsciously affected by the eyes of children. Usually, parents must do what they say when educating their children, and they must implement what they have promised.

Children live with their parents all day long, and they will definitely learn how their parents behave, and our words and deeds have a great impact on children.

Generally, parents are more indulgent to their children, which will have a great impact on the formation of their children's three views, and even some parents dote on their children and meet all their unreasonable requirements. This will cause great problems for him to enter the society and interact with people in the future, and even they will not be able to adapt well to this society, and can only rely on the way of gnawing the old to live.

Parents indulging their children will have a certain impact on their children's future, children who do not understand the rules will make mistakes in the future, only by teaching children some rules from an early age, so that children can learn self-discipline, children can thrive.

Yes. Parents' overindulgence of their children will lead to children being rebellious and doing things more extremely, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of children.

Of course, the child may become very selfish, self-centered, and has no correct view of right and wrong, and no one may want to be friends with him in the future.

As the saying goes, there are no rules, indulging children can only make them not understand the rules of society, it is not easy to adapt to society and the workplace when they grow up, and they are self-centered, do not know how to empathize, and in the end they will not be filial, because they don't know how to be grateful at all.

Some parents are really wrong to spoil their children too much, because the children raised in this way are easy to become selfish, impolite, and even rebellious.

It is easy to make children's personality change, make children self-centered, ignore the feelings of others, and make children chase fame and fortune excessively. The influence of the family environment is very easy to change the child's personality, when the child first came to this world, full of curiosity about the world, do not know how to face anything, they habitually rely on the parents' practices, learn from the parents, if they do something wrong, parents can not guide correctly, indulge the child's behavior is easy to make the child's eyes no one, personality change.

1. It is easy to make children's personality change.

When the child does something wrong, we should solve it in time, understand the child's thoughts in time, give the child the right guidance, give the child a certain reward, and punishment, so that the child can be responsible for his own behavior.

2. Let children be self-centered and ignore the feelings of others.

When parents indulge their children too much, it is easy for children to have no one in their eyes, so that they are not good at communicating with other children, can not respect other children, are not good at empathy, and are easy to have an impact on their children's lives, so that children can not make true friends, so that children will not experience the feelings of others, be self-centered, do things without considering the consequences, and always think that with parents as backers, they can do whatever they want, which is what parents do not want to see.

Third, it will make children chase fame and fortune excessively.

When we indulge children, it is easy for children to not see the existence of others, excessive pursuit of fame and fortune, which has a serious impact on the development of children's lives and personalities, children need the correct guidance of parents, rather than blindly indulging children's wrong behaviors, we should have a correct attitude towards children, good at teaching children more knowledge, so that children know how to get along with others.

Overindulging a child will have a very big impact on the child, which will prevent the child from developing good habits at the right time, and will make the child suffer in the future competition.

Answer: This will develop the child's arrogant personality, and then his interpersonal relationships will become chaotic and inappropriate, and eventually, it will lead to the child's loneliness.

It's super big, like a kite that can't be pulled, so you can only let it fly everywhere.

First of all, willfulness is a not very good performance, if parents let their children's willfulness go for a long time, without restraint and discipline.

It is very detrimental to the child's growth.

First, the child will become very self-conscious and simple-tempered. For example, if the child wants an item, if the parents do not buy it for the child, the child will cry and make trouble, and even say some particularly hurtful words, the child will feel that everything must depend on me, no matter who has to revolve around me, must be centered on me, very self-oriented, which is not conducive to the growth of the child.

Second: There is no tutor. For example, when you go out to socialize with your parents, you will be more arrogant, have a disdainful attitude towards everything, and do not know how to respect your elders; When you see something you like at someone else's house, you want to take it away without the consent of the other person, and when you don't let it be taken, you will say:

It's your honor that I can take a fancy to your things, don't forget it", it's really annoying. If you let your child develop like this, it will be disgusting.

Third: relationships.

Discord. If the child is very willful, he will be very self-willed, do his own thing, never take care of other people's feelings, only care about his own happiness, will force others to do things according to his own wishes, do not listen to others' suggestions, and act domineering and arrogant, which will lead to the child not making friends or not having long-term friends, so that there is no good interpersonal environment.

Fourth: poor adaptability. Wayward children, everything is from their own standpoint, and the behavior is stubborn, so they often touch nails, frustrated, hit and other troubles, which will make children feel isolated, painful, and tormented, and at the same time, they feel resentful, thinking that others are against themselves, and they want to get along with themselves, they are very resistant, and they will not self-regulate, and it will be difficult to adapt to a new environment.

In short, it is recommended that parents should have a degree of willfulness to their children, and must not be despised for their children's willfulness habits, and should find the reasons in time, properly discipline and restrain their children's willfulness, change their children's willful concepts and behaviors, and let their children grow up physically and mentally healthy and happily, so that children can develop better in the future.

The child will not listen to his parents, and the child will not study hard, and it will also cause the child's rebellious psychology, the child will be very unkind, and will not be considerate of the parents, etc., the impact on the child is very large.

Parents let their children be willful, which has a bad impact on his growth, which will make him more and more willful, disobedient, difficult to discipline, and his temper is getting worse and worse, these 4 points are all affecting the growth of children.

It will make the child become more and more willful, such a character is not very good, in the future after the birth of the society or the fight will also be easy to suffer, the child will become a very domineering person, emotions will also be very impulsive, the child will lack the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, will always be self-centered, will not care about the feelings of others, and is not good at communicating, physical and mental development is not very sound.

It will make the child not listen to the words of the father and the scumbag, will make the child unwilling to listen to the persuasion of others, will make the child insist on going his own way, will make the child blind and arbitrary, will make the child very rebellious, and so on.

There are too many parents in life who like to "control" their children, they always think that this is for the good of their children, but in fact, the "control" of parents will not only not be good for their children, but will make children continue to have problems.

Parents who are too "controlling" will cause problems in their children.

1. The child has a cowardly personality.

Parents have too much "control" over their children, and if the child's personality is introverted, the child is likely to become a cowardly child. Cowardly children have no ability to resist when they encounter difficulties, and they are submissive all day long, if a boy is such a character, there will be a headache for parents. Such children dare not take the initiative to fight for what they like when they encounter something, and many opportunities are lost in vain.

2. Children are more rebellious.

Parents have too strong "desire to control" their children, and if they encounter children with strong personalities, the more parents "control" their children, the more resistant and resistant the children will be. If parents always treat their children in this way, the children will be more rebellious and like to do everything against their parents. Moreover, children and parents are always opposites, and the parent-child relationship is more tense.

Article**43, the child's independence is too poor.

Parents have too strong "control" over their children, and children will slowly form dependence, waiting for parents to arrange everything for themselves, waiting for parents to "command" themselves. The child's independence will be particularly poor, such a child has basically zero ability, and it is extremely difficult to send it to kindergarten.

If parents are too controlling, children will be timid and withdrawn. In terms of opinions and behaviors, he does not dare to go beyond the thunder pool outside the jurisdiction of his mother. In the future, in the face of new communication, I don't dare to express myself, and if I have been suppressed for a long time, I am prone to extreme personality.

And can't control their emotions. Suddenly being emotionally irritable, suddenly crying and fussing over trivial things, is bound to be criticized. Because of poor emotional control, it is easy to act aggressively.

This is very dangerous, or at least very harmful to one's free development. The child becomes more dependent and does not have his own opinions. Because the parents have done everything, and no one cares about their own ideas, and no one respects them.

This way you don't have to think and act on your own. When encountering things, they will become more and more unable to deal with them on their own, and they will become less assertive and have no ability to solve problems. In life, everyone has a desire to dominate themselves and the ability to decide for themselves, and this autonomy makes a person unwilling to accept the control of others.

When parents educate their children, they are more in the position of authority and elders, hoping that their children will act according to their own ideas, and do not respect their children as an equal individual, so children's behavior problems increase. Therefore, reducing parents' attempts to control children's activities will be more conducive to the healthy development of children's behavior. The absence of the role of father.

Generally, mothers who are too strong not only make children lose themselves easily, but even make the role of father almost absent. But the role of the father is very important for the development of children. Fathers can teach their children to be brave, confident, and optimistic.

Because children imitate by nature, boys love to imitate their fathers, and girls love to imitate their mothers. Therefore, mothers who are too controlling will let their children lack opportunities for exercise from their fathers. Therefore, the mother is too strong, which is an unconscious self-indulgent behavior, she wants a lot, and she does not know how to restrain herself.

I don't know what kind of negative impact this will have. Education is a must for every parent. The sooner the better.

Of course, many problems can actually be solved through honest parent-child communication, and both parties must not be silent, and over time it will be like a time bomb.