What is it like to have no shortage of love?

There is no shortage of people who love, I think it is a little princess alone, there used to be a senior sister in our dormitory, he was always the same as the little princess, which made people feel that the people in the family were particularly spoiled by her, because he usually behaved like this, he felt that he was a little princess, and he usually talked to the family and was coquettish, but there was no princess disease, but sometimes, I felt that this kind of person had to spoil her, and sometimes I was also very tired. My good friend is the kind of person who needs to be spoiled by others, I'm very entangled, what should I do, I'm so tired of spoiling her all the time.

Also, people who are not short of love are generally very confident people, they feel that they have someone to support them in everything they do, and they are not afraid that others will not support them, because there is a group of people behind you who support you. Always in a happy nest. I feel like I'm the center of the world.

The whole person is surrounded by self-confidence.

However, some people who are not short of love are really annoying, this kind of person is Ma Bao, he feels that the whole world is his mother, and he feels that all people must love him unconditionally, and every time he puts his parents on his lips, so, the family's love for their children should also be moderate, and they can be spoiled as little princesses, but they cannot become Ma Bao. Especially the boy's mother, it is really difficult to accept. It's very annoying.

The previous English teacher was like this, and when she was in class, she felt like a little princess, and it made people feel that her whole body was full of happy bubbles. That feeling is really blissful. It makes people feel very happy.

If there is no lack of love, there will not be a lot of mental illness, there will be no lack of self-confidence, no low self-esteem, and no feeling that you are sorry for others. I don't feel like I'm not worthy of anyone else.

A person who does not lack love must be a person who can give more love to others. Because he is full of love in his heart, what she shows is love. And the opposite is people who lack love, they don't love others, it's not that they don't want to.

On the contrary, they want to be loved by loving others. But they won't love.

A person who does not lack love, every day is sunny. Don't think people are dark. I don't think about the bad side of things.

And when others are not friendly enough to themselves, or something else is-for-tat. A person who is not short of love will also be very kind to them. Because this kind of person will love people.

And how can man not lack love? Personally, I think the most important reason is to learn to be loved. There really is no one in this world who is not loved. Even if there were, it wasn't in the circle I knew. Each of us has someone who loves us.

But why do we all have love, some people lack love, and some people don't lack love? The reason for this is that everyone receives love to a different degree. There are people who are loved by others, and he will accept such love. Good to receive love. This is someone who will be loved.

Some people, you obviously love her very much, but she always can't feel your love. This creates a lack of love. Because he will not be loved. The lack of love is not that no one loves. There is no lack of love, and it does not necessarily mean that there are many people who love. It's just that they don't receive the same level of love.

Therefore, a person who does not lack love must be a person who will receive love well. Because he understands how others love me. He will love others in the same way.

As a person who has no shortage of love. The most obvious is to love and be loved. Positive and sunny. The perspective of seeing things and people is positive. There are good expectations for life.

It feels very happy, and sometimes I feel very comfortable living in this world.

So let's talk about my example, a year ago, I had my father, mother, sister, sister, brother, uncle, aunt, and grandparents. Everyone is very nice to me, although as I said before, there are some minor misunderstandings, such as the phenomenon of patriarchy. But as I grew up, my grandparents started to be very nice to me.

Sometimes they bring food to me. Of course, I don't advocate this phenomenon, because we may encounter a lot of setbacks and difficulties in the process of growing up, and these are things that we need to face on our own. But sometimes when I was hungry, and when my grandmother brought me food, I couldn't bear to refuse her, as if it was unfair to her to refuse her.

So every time they treat me so well, I am very grateful and want to repay them for my efforts. Mom and Dad were very nice to me, so I rewarded them with the results I earned in exchange for my hard work.

After I went to college, I had a boyfriend again. There is also a group of friends who can talk to me very well, and I began to feel that life is full of meaning, and I no longer think about some bad things before. Change your mindset to be positive, start to believe in the future, believe in enthusiasm, and believe in the meaning and value of hard work.

Having love is a very blissful experience. In fact, we are not short of love, but we lack the eyes to find love, the love of strangers for you, and the love of friends for you, the love of parents for you, the love for your family, and the love for you. Life is a story of love, and in this story, we strive to grow and see the result of our efforts, that is, to get love.

The inner world is full of sunshine and there are many people who care for you, so you can be positive, optimistic and uplifting, and you will not lack a sense of security.

I feel happy and happy every day, and I'm very satisfied with everything about myself.

I feel like I'm enough every day, and I don't want to find love in others.

1. Don't be in a hurry to pay, learn to refuse, learn to discern, not everyone is suitable for being together.

If you are still obsessed with appearances, or obsessed with the dreamy process of this relationship, then none of this will help you.

Abandon illusions, return to reality, and contact mature people in life and work, mature and strong people will bring people a different emotional experience, he will take care of your emotions, protect your sensitivity, if he wants to.

This is not something that ordinary people, or even many people who don't know enough about themselves, can understand.

By the way, don't get entangled with people who are married, even if it's good, you should avoid it if you're married, it's a minefield you can't touch.

Expand your circle, find really mature people to be friends, don't rush to give, don't fall in love easily.

2. True self-maturity, face up to your own problems, face to improve, be independent, establish your own values, and follow fate emotionally.

If you can't give up on finding true love, trust yourself to meet someone who understands you and is willing to be there for you.

Don't compromise, don't be afraid of loneliness because of age, society, family pressure, etc., and easily settle for a relationship that you can't fall in love with from the heart, or even marriage.

Not loving is the root of all misfortune, even if you fall in love with someone who doesn't love yourself, work hard, fight, even if you can't be together in the end, the growth you get in the process is also a lifelong benefit.

Just don't wronged yourself to be with someone you really don't love, it's already very hard when you're a child, so when you grow up, you should live the life you want and be kind to yourself, even if it seems willful to others.

Of course, the basis of all this is independence, financial independence, personality independence, self-confidence, and constant effort.

Without love, it is easy not to accept yourself, or to give up on yourself and break the jar, or to work hard to be excellent to perfection, thinking that you can get attention and love in this way. If you always have a lot of suspicion and rejection of yourself, Envy recommends reading Debbie's "Accepting the Imperfect Self" and doing the exercises in the book seriously. Practice is far more important than understanding reason, and the difficult thing is practice, but we must adjust our emotional and behavioral reactions due to lack of love through practice.

On this point, you can watch "The Brain and Emotional Life". 2 Accept our resentment, resentment is because we want the love of our parents, they are the closest people in our lives, and there is nothing wrong with wanting their love. Be wary of your own guilt, some very good and kind children will have a strong sense of guilt because of their resentment and misbebehavior towards their parents, and this guilt will hurt yourself.

Find someone who is reliable and express your guilt; Or write it down alone, don't hold it in your heart. 3 The original intention of love is different from the act of love, try to recall that the love we have lacked really does not include a little love at the age of one? Or is it loving but hurtful in behavior?

If you can find love, accept it, and face up to the hurts, then your heart can be truly softened. 4.The lack of love when I was a child has the most profound impact on intimate relationships.

If you find that your adult relationship experience is always problematic, it's important to stop and adjust yourself. Otherwise, all kinds of things in the relationship will bring new harm. If you want to invest in a new relationship, you can see "New Rules:".

How to make your crush fall in love with you", this book may not really allow you to find a beloved, but following most of the advice in this book will at least help you avoid a bad relationship.

Learn to be grateful, and learn to love others.

People who lack love have a logic rooted in the subconscious: I have to behave well enough before I can be affirmed by the other person. This logic is getting stronger and stronger, so strong that it will distort our will later on, forcing us to perform, to please, to avoid conflict.

Because of this logic or the desire for love, and the lack of experience of being loved, it leads to thinking of love as too divine, great, perfect, or omniscient. In fact, this is not the case in life, shortcomings, quarrels, mediocrity, boring, and vulgarity. These are all part of normal human love.

I have never met a person or couple who loves correctly and perfectly, but it does not prevent them from having their own happiness and happiness that they deserve to be: people who lack love have a logic rooted in the subconscious: I must first behave well enough to be affirmed by the other person.

This logic is getting stronger and stronger, so strong that it will distort our will later on, forcing us to perform, to please, to avoid conflict. Because of this logic or the desire for love, and the lack of experience of being loved, it leads to thinking of love as too divine, great, perfect, or omniscient. In fact, this is not the case in life, shortcomings, quarrels, mediocrity, boring, and vulgarity.

These are all part of normal human love. I've never met a person or couple who loves right and loves perfectly, but that doesn't prevent them from having their own happiness. Deliberately maintain a state of love:

I think people who lack love, because they lack it, see it as a resource, and often choose to take it out carefully when facing important people, and usually keep this box closed. However, it should not be like this, loving others and loving oneself is both an action and a state of mind. It is inherently inexhaustible.

Of course, maintaining vitality and maintaining a state of "love" is very difficult and hard for people who lack love, and they need to take the initiative at all times, and they need to do it very deliberately and let themselves do it. A lot of times you don't know the essentials, but this is the best way to practice, and even if it's sincere, even if it's clumsy, others can feel that sincerity, remember the love itself is not perfect as mentioned in the previous article, as long as you really love, you have already outperformed many numb people. In short, use all your abilities to love at any time, whether it is to love yourself, love your friends, your family, or not.

Keep it this way, and gradually it will become much easier and more natural. But don't love all people, it doesn't have to, God needs to love the world. Just love those who deserve it, and hate what you should hate.

(1) The more loveless people are, the more precocious they tend to be. Almost all "lack of love" is due to growth and family reasons. When children are growing up, they are in great need of protection from their parents.

If not, then they can only mature themselves in advance to face the outside world. Therefore, the mental age of people who lack love is often much greater than their physical age. Because they need to be mature enough to avoid getting hurt themselves.

But this kind of maturity is an unhealthy maturity. Healthy growth is strong from the inside out. But precocious people forcibly close their hearts and face the outside world.

(2) The more people lack love, the more difficult it is to have intimate experiences. Intimacy refers to maintaining a very close relationship with a person, but in fact, this ability is not innate, but acquired. A person who lacks love naturally can't learn this, so the more closed their inner world is, the more difficult it is to love others, and they can't learn to accept the love of others.

(3) The more people lack love, the more likely they are to have a sense of isolation. People who lack love often grow up being hurt by people close to them, and these injuries leave a huge psychological shadow on them, so that they will no longer trust others. So they often have a sense of abandonment:

It is unreliable and untrustworthy to think that others are always trying to harm themselves.

Over time, this feeling can become a sense of isolation: a constant feeling of being isolated from the whole world, lacking attention, lack of understanding, lack of encouragement.

Of course, lack of love is actually not a serious psychological problem, so don't have any pressure. As long as you get to the root of your problem, it's relatively simple.