How do you figure it out when you have low self esteem?

When I feel inferior, I think about this society, and the people in society, who don't have low self-esteem.

Some people say that the more they think about others, the more they feel inferior, but this is not the case. When you think about others, don't always think about yourself and others from a comparative perspective, and people with low self-esteem are especially easy to think badly of themselves and think of others in higher places. Sometimes I think about it, this inferiority complex is also self-inflicted, why do you always degrade yourself to elevate others?

It's a normal person who thinks there's something wrong with this. Therefore, people with low self-esteem first have to change the above deformed way of comparison, people live, it is impossible to be useless, even if there is nothing material, we still have our own thoughts! If you have your own thoughts and opinions, you shouldn't live so inferior.

In fact, sometimes think about it, this society calls rich and powerful people successful people, <> and most ordinary people will always feel inferior to them in front of such people. But when we feel inferior, think about it the other way, if there is no society, no country, no economy, then can these people still be called successful people? The answer is definitely no.

So when we are not capable in some places, there is no need to feel inferior. There are so many people in society, and the world has developed for so long, even if you don't know anything, it won't have any impact on this society, so don't take yourself too seriously.

Think of yourself as an ant, and you know that you are not worth mentioning in this society at all; Don't look too important to your own life, whether it's good or bad, it doesn't have much impact. So just put your mind at ease, look at yourself and this society with a rational and normal attitude, and then continue to live optimistically and casually.

When I found out that everyone has shortcomings, I found that I was not the worst in the world. When I found out that I had good qualities in myself, I realized that I was actually pretty good. It was because I discovered these two points that I began to feel confident.

Actually, I can't say I'm confident, but at least I don't look at myself with colored glasses.

A person with low self-esteem is actually unfair to look at himself and others. This unfairness is one's own unfairness to oneself. When you look at yourself, you only focus on your own shortcomings.

And when you look at others, you see all the advantages of others. It is because of this that the character of inferiority is created, in fact, the so-called inferiority is to see oneself as inferior to others.

My low self-esteem was cultivated from a young age because I was not in good health. When others can easily do it, but I can't, I feel like I'm inferior to others. I feel like the people around me are better than me.

And I often think so, so when I grew up, I had low self-esteem. To a certain extent, even talking to others has no confidence.

I always feel that I am inferior to the enemy when I interact with others. Later, when I came out to work. When I go to the unit, because I have low self-esteem, I always want to prove myself, so I keep working hard.

The first time I recognized myself was because in the first month of the company, I won the first place in performance. I've found out that I'm not useless. Then it got better and better every month, and just kept occupying the first position.

I can finally see myself normally.

The so-called normal view of oneself means that you can accept your shortcomings and not be proud of your own advantages. I found that I was no different from others, there were some things that others could do, I couldn't do, but there were some things that I could do that others couldn't. So I wasn't that bad, just like that, I slowly changed my inferiority complex.

I try not to remind myself of embarrassing scenes or sarcastic words from others, and try to distract myself when I think of them.

It's still a bit embarrassing, but it's going to be a lot better than before. In fact, I think that low self-esteem is thinking too much, invisibly putting pressure on yourself, and then thinking about everything with negative emotions. So the more I think about it, the more I feel that I am more and more bad, and I feel inferior.

Like me before, my friends and family all said that I was silent, and I kept my face tight every day, and I couldn't smile, which made people feel like I was not confident, and then I gradually changed, but sometimes I couldn't look people in the eyes and speak.

But my family thinks that I am much better than before, although I don't talk much, but I am generally more optimistic and confident than before. Although I don't know what changed me, I feel that I have changed it through myself subtly.

When I think of something too embarrassing, I will subconsciously force myself not to think about it, let myself be as empty as possible, and give myself the consciousness that others will not care about you at all, believing that I can do it, so I quickly forget and will not think about these things. <>

It's like if you made a low-level mistake and the teacher criticized it in public, then you will feel more or less embarrassed, after all, you made a mistake, and so many people look at you, before I was replaced, it will definitely be difficult to feel embarrassed afterwards.

But then I found out that after class, no one cares about you at all, comments about you, even the teacher just talks about it, and quickly forgets it, and no one will think that you are bad through this matter at all.

Everyone is so busy, few people will pay attention to you afterwards, many times it is their own imagination, and then all kinds of denial themselves, feel how good others are, how bad they are, relax themselves, they are insufficient, it is better to try to catch up. It's better to act than to think so much.

Don't compare with others, everyone has their own life, and no matter how good other people's lives are, you can't envy them.

The reason why we feel inferior is because we always feel that as long as it is someone else's things, everything is good, and we never seem to be as good as others.

Is that really the case? It doesn't seem to be the case, those seemingly glamorous lives actually contain a lot of unknown sadness. We only see the wonderful side of others, and ignore how hard they have worked to maintain this life, and what difficulties and setbacks they have encountered.

No matter who it is, life is not smooth sailing, even those children who are born with a golden spoon in their mouths, they have to work hard for their lives, they either need to bear a huge emptiness, or they have to fight for their lives like ordinary people.

Because they have a lot more wealth and resources than we do, they have a lot more social obligations than we do. When we envy people's annual salaries of one million and their houses and cars, we don't see them growing gray hair at a young age because of excessive pressure.

No one's life is easy, and if we don't live as well as others, it's actually the result of our own lack of effort. If we can't do as hard as they do, or think that instead of being so cruel to ourselves every day, we might as well live as we are now.

I have a very good friend, and I felt inferior at first because I was inferior to her, but one day when I saw her crying in front of me because of too much pressure, I suddenly thought that in fact, a carefree life like this is also something that many people can't envy. So, from then on, I concentrated on living my own life, and the good or bad of others had nothing to do with me.

Everyone has a few low tides every month. It's the same as menstruation, hehe, but it does have a few days.

Learn from Sister Feng!

Sister Feng is not inferior, what reason do you have for inferiority?

Many people have low self-esteem, because no one is perfect, there will always be shortcomings, and when I think of this, I feel that my inferiority complex is nothing special at all.

Regarding low self-esteem, the most important point is to admit the status quo, what to say that hard work and change, first of all, you must admit that you are not perfect, if a person cannot have a clear understanding of himself, he cannot talk about self-confidence. After acknowledging your imperfections and acknowledging your shortcomings, you will breathe a sigh of relief, because being too demanding of yourself is also likely to be a factor that leads to low self-esteem.

The second point is to do the best of what you can do, and the so-called doing your best to obey the destiny of heaven is like this. Even if you make a mistake, it doesn't matter, everyone makes mistakes sometimes, and the most important thing is that you have worked hard, so there is no guilt.

The third point is to affirm your own progress, even if it is a small thing that is not worth mentioning in the eyes of others, you give it meaning, and it will bring you a special self.