How to adjust the psychological gap caused by the large income gap between different industries in t

Last year, when I just graduated, there was a big gap in my heart, and there was a big difference in income between my classmates. Those who are good at writing programs will be six or seven thousand, seven or eight thousand when they first enter the company, and ten thousand after the New Year. In the development of my hometown, the clerical work is easy, and there are about 3,000 a month, while I, in the coastal city, the work content is more technical, with a monthly salary of more than 3,000 points, which is quite easy, and I can mix up to 4,000 when I work overtime.

I will look at other people's seven or eight thousand, my heart is broken, the salary is about the same as that at home, why do you want to come out, I instantly feel very worthless. Later, I learned that I wrote a program, and I passed a training before, and the tuition fee was nearly 20,000 yuan, and I knocked ** for several months. After going to work, I spend a lot of time working overtime, and I can work late when I am busy.

In my hometown, I work six days a day, and I do a lot of things every day, and sometimes it's a little easier, but when I'm busy, you don't see it at all. Look at yourself again, hey, what else is there to complain about, you feel that there is a gap, because you are envious, but you know, things at work are like people drinking water and knowing themselves. We should not only see the high wages of others, but also the hard work and efforts of others.

It's good to have a good balance, when you feel that there is a gap, it's good to look at what others have paid, and inadvertently find that you may actually have what you have is what others envy.

When the development of things develops against one's own subjective desires, people's psychology will fall into a state of pain and imbalance. This state of mind, dominated by pain and imbalance, is what we call the "psychological gap". The stronger this gap effect is in people, the more severe the degree of suffering and imbalance in people.

If you don't know enough about this gap effect, or you can't adjust it in time. It will bring troubles to people, so don't think about the things that make you feel bad, think more about how to change the status quo, or set a new goal for yourself, and then strive for it, and one day you will reach the peak of life.

Hold on to your beliefs. When you do anything, you have to stick to your personal beliefs. Happiness is always in the heart.

As long as you always keep a cheerful mood, it is difficult to give up your happiness The biggest enemy of people is yourself, I think you should have heard this sentence, so it is not interesting to compare with others, only by comparing with yourself, can you always have a goal to strive for, do not measure yourself by other people's standards.

Learn from setbacks. The attitude in the face of failure or setbacks should be to learn from the experience, keep trying, and live honestly and with a sense of justice, so that you can attract good friends to help you. The famous psychologist Bardas was once asked:

What are the most basic and profound psychological needs of humanity today? "Humanity needs love," she said.

But this is not limited to love between men and women, from the point of view of psychologists, good people are always happy.

Some negative emotions arise, thinking that they are not capable enough, that they are not smart enough, that they cannot understand themselves correctly, and that they lose confidence in themselves. For these people, it is necessary to give the necessary encouragement to those around them, so that they can see their own strengths and have confidence in themselves.

The traditional culture of the Chinese nation is very good, and the traditional culture teaches us to be kind and charitable, to be filial to our parents, to respect our teachers, to do more good deeds, not to do bad things, to be honest and trustworthy, and to be above board. When we learn traditional culture, we just think about how to be a good person in our hearts, so that we don't compare ourselves with others, and we have a correct mentality.

So I thought, the income gap after graduation is large, how to make yourself find a way to make a lot of money, as long as you have motivation in your heart, don't think about anything else, life always needs to struggle, you need goals, give yourself a new goal to strive for, and you will eventually succeed.

For some people, seeing the gap between the ideal and the reality, he will find out his own shortcomings, adjust his goals in time, realize the ideal in stages, correctly understand himself, constantly encourage himself, and give himself positive hints.