How should I communicate with my feudal parents?

Is it because you don't follow the rules, play games for too long, or affect your learning? As long as your parents see that you don't interfere with your studies, they will let you play. Besides, after all, games will affect learning, so won't you be able to have fun when you graduate and go on vacation?

Your parents are not feudal, they are afraid of affecting your studies.

There is a generation gap between the two generations, and it may be that due to the constraints of the conditions, your parents do not have much cultural knowledge, which makes it difficult for you to communicate with your parents, do you know? Many times you can't change your parents at all, let them understand you in everything, and more often you have to adapt, cooperate, and obey them yourself. You have to believe that your parents always love you, they don't understand you doesn't mean that they don't care about you, what about you, try to be a good girl in their eyes, help your parents do more housework at home, care more about your parents' health, study hard at school, if you say what they say they feel annoyed (to understand more parents know, you are still young, maybe parents also have their troubles, their difficulties, to be considerate of them), then say less and do more, I believe that parents see such a smart, obedient, sensible child, I will definitely feel very happy, and I will definitely love you even more.

So what you have to do now is to put more energy into studying, you know, if your parents say something excessive, you must not be rebellious, bear with it a little, don't contradict your parents, you must know that what they say, what they do, everything is to hope that you have a good life!! I sincerely wish you to live each day happily and happily!!

If you want to communicate with your mother in the feudal tradition, the most important thing is to master three hearts, the first must be patient, the second must be careful, and the third must be filial piety.

Because your mother herself is after 20 years of cultivation of this feudal traditional thinking, so it is almost impossible to change in a short period of time, you must be patient in the process of communicating with her, you must be good to talk to her, and you can't say a word, as soon as she opposes you, you will directly turn your face with him, and if you turn your face with her, it will definitely make your things more difficult to do, and it will be more difficult to obtain her consent.

The second is to be careful, every time you want to do something, you must consider everything properly, be careful about every detail, and try to use what you can use now to improve every aspect of what you want to do, so that when you communicate with your mother, he will definitely be more willing to agree with you to do things.

As for filial piety, I think it is also essential, after all, your mother is the kind of person who thinks more traditionally, so she will definitely think that filial piety is very important, so in the process of communicating with him, you can show your concern for her from time to time, and he will definitely become in a better mood in the process of communication, so you will feel smoother in the process of communicating with him, so you must grasp this filial piety to a very good extent, both too much dedication, You can't just say it and ignore your mother's feelings.

To give a simple example, if your mother does not agree with you to go abroad, then you can tell him in the process of communication that you have bought insurance, and there is a special team to take you abroad.

I think the most important thing is patience, feudal traditions are not formed in a day, nor can they be changed all at once, it requires long-term penetration of new ideas, and the most important thing in this process is patience. Every time you communicate, you may have such troubles, saying that nothing is accepted by your parents, you will be irritable, and sometimes you can't help but get angry, resulting in a worse and worse relationship with your mother, and communication will become more and more difficult, and you will always be in a vicious circle.

My advice is not to put all the ideas you want to convey at once in one communication, as this will seriously exceed their ability to accept them due to the large difference between the two ideas. You can gradually convey the ideas you want to convey to your parents, for them each time the impact on them is just a little bit, within the scope of their acceptance, they will naturally accept it, when they accept the first step, you give them some guidance, let them take the second step, and so on their thoughts and your thoughts The gap is getting smaller and smaller, and there will be no barriers to communication.

If your parents really can't accept your thoughts, you can try to understand them from their point of view, for example, if you want to do something, your parents feel unreliable and don't support you, you have to understand that your parents are just worried that you will be hurt because of it, if you feel that your idea is correct or the interest rate of success is very large, you can not rely on your parents, through your own efforts to do this, in order to win your parents' trust in you. In the next communication, parents will give you more support and believe what you say because of their trust in you, in other words, parents will reflect that they may be older and unable to keep up with new ideas, so they should listen to your opinions more. If patience and understanding can be applied well to communication, I believe that the results will not be bad.

My mom is a very conservative and traditional woman, and she won't support me in many of the things I do, but will think I'm rebellious.

I'm a college student now, and before I entered school, my mom told me not to fall in love, and I couldn't talk until I graduated from college. I was helpless and didn't resist, because I didn't have anyone I liked at that time. But after I came to university, I met someone I liked, and I wanted to fall in love.

That's right, my mom was very against me, it took me two months to convince my mom, and now my mom doesn't disagree with me. Although my mother is very conservative, she is not unreasonable, and I am her daughter, as long as I reason with her, and then give in, my mother will be slowly persuaded by me.

At that time, I said to my mother, "Mom, please believe me, and believe in my vision, I can't do anything out of line, and I need to learn how to fall in love, I don't want to fall behind the people around me", probably just like this, plus I am soft, when I talk to my mother, I must be gentle, I must be soft, my mother's heart is generally very soft.

There's another thing about dressing up. Since I was a child, my family did not agree with my ear piercing, thinking that it was very smelly and beautiful, and it was very bad, which was also my mother's stubborn thinking, although I also didn't like ear piercing, but I wanted to change my mother's opinion.

I gave her an example, my mother likes people with good grades, so I told her about people with good grades and pierced ears. Mom also likes a friend of mine, and it just so happens that my friend also has an ear piercing, so by giving examples and talking about some current trends, Mom doesn't object.

I can only say that my mother is conservative and feudal, but she is not unreasonable.

Find some sensible uncles and aunts to persuade them, and tell them that other elders agree with your point of view, and that your mother's point of view is too backward.