How do you see yourself, how do you see yourself correctly?

Well, cruelty is a little cruel, but not to the point of cannibalism. I don't know if you've watched "Wolf Road"? This book embodies a sales philosophy by talking about the wolf's wisdom and the wolf's team spirit.

Just imagine, even wolves need to strengthen themselves through cooperation at critical moments, let alone people? There are three ways for people to strengthen themselves: 1. Through their own efforts and perseverance.

This is very hard, it is difficult for ordinary people to persevere to the end, and those who persist to the end are all heroes. 2. Improve yourself through interpersonal relationships. Maybe you are just an ordinary person, but you can be recognized by many people around you, or you are famous, and generally others can't do anything to you even if they want to find some faults.

Of course, first of all, you have to overcome the psychological barrier, and you can increase your popularity by being a little more realistic, but don't go overboard with the highest level of "reality": just say something that others want to hit you when they hear it. 3. Improve yourself by strengthening your self-cultivation.

I rarely hear of it, in fact, cultivation can resolve difficulties invisibly, maybe you have inadvertently offended someone, he really wants to find your business, but with good cultivation, others can only stare dryly. On the other hand, if you don't cultivate well and complain about this and that all day long, one day trouble will come to your door. Cultivation is to hone one's conduct and control one's emotions.

Smile when you want to be angry; When you want to cry, you can hold your head high; When you want to indulge your desires, you can turn around gorgeously; Wait a minute. Fourth, improve yourself through knowledge, wisdom and strategy. We all know that the Battle of Chibi is real, and the weak defeated the strong.

Why? It all depends on knowledge (borrowing the east wind), wisdom (fire attack) and strategy (bitter meat strategy), which together form a complete chain of schemes. Reading and browsing to improve yourself is already a quick and indisputable way, but there are still people who are too lazy to do it.

Although many people think that society is cruel and even cannibalistic. But I have a different way of surviving: I believe in kindness, and I believe that in a certain way, sheep can become stronger than lions.

Isn't there a saying in Napoleon (sorry, I made a mistake): A flock of sheep led by a lion is stronger than a flock of lions led by a sheep. Militarily argued:

People are born with the weakness of fear of death, greed, and unwillingness to obey discipline, but with professional training, it can be completely overcome. Even the fear of death can be overcome. However, society will always be cruel to one kind of person, and that is the lazy person who is unwilling to put his dreams into action.

This kind of lazy person, who does not use his brain or hands, but wants to get the same thing as others, you and I both know that it is absolutely impossible. I am twenty-two years old, and I still don't know much about society. If there are any mistakes or refuting, please forgive me.

Well, look at yourself ... It's really a mystery, so I don't look at it now, I don't care what kind of person I am, I don't care what my behavior will think of others, I just want to be myself now, be the simplest self, be the happiest self, don't care what others think of me, don't think about it, in fact, I don't know myself, this kind of rounding the circle, in fact, in the end, no one understands themselves, So, work hard, study hard, live hard, as long as we don't leave any regrets for ourselves, we will not lose in this life.

People are selfish, this is their nature, but many people can put their selfish interests behind under the influence of personality and social environment, so you don't have to blame yourself. In fact, selfishness is amplified a lot of times has a lot to do with our growth environment, but it is not unchangeable, usually you have to relax your mind, and always think about being kind to others.

1) Correct self-understanding.

Knowing oneself correctly is the foundation for cultivating a sound sense of self. People's self-knowledge can be divided into two aspects, on the one hand, self-characterization, that is, the influence of one's own character, strengths, interests, hobbies and family, personality weaknesses and so on. If a person is able to understand himself comprehensively and correctly, evaluate himself objectively and accurately, he will act with energy, know himself and himself in order to establish a suitable ideal, and will make unremitting efforts to realize the ideal self.

The other aspect is self-reflection, which is a lifelong process. Frequent self-reflection is the premise of progress, so as not to be self-righteous. As mentioned earlier, there are three main ways to know oneself – empirical, comparative, and reflective.

In addition, college students should also try their best to broaden the scope of life, increase life experience, expand the space for communication, actively participate in activities, and expand social practice, so as to find a variety of reference systems, and rely on these reference systems to understand themselves in many aspects and from multiple angles. It is also necessary to learn to analyze, synthesize, and compare the information about oneself obtained through various means, and to evaluate oneself comprehensively and realistically. We must learn to look at ourselves and others from a developmental perspective and a dialectical approach.

The broader the comparative horizon and the more scientific the method, the more appropriate the self-positioning, in order to give full play to their wisdom and realize their own life value.

2) Be objective to yourself.

1. Accept yourself positively.

To accept oneself is to accept oneself happily and satisfactorily, that is, to accept oneself. Self-acceptance is the core and key to developing a sound sense of self, and it is also a prerequisite for adapting to society. Self-acceptance is not determined by the amount of personal wealth, the level of status, or the quality of living conditions, but more depends on one's own psychological state.

A person who accepts himself can be accepted by others. Such people accept everything they have with a positive attitude, they are optimistic and open-minded about life, can look at their strengths and weaknesses rationally, calmly treat gains and losses, do not exaggerate or belittle themselves, can look at themselves from the perspective of development, do not avoid their current situation, and do not deny themselves with grievances, self-blame or even disgust. In this way, we can cultivate self-confidence, self-reliance, self-improvement, self-reliance, independent psychological qualities and good self-awareness, and become a strong person in life.

2. Hail controls itself well.

Self-control is the fundamental way to improve self-consciousness and self-improvement, the process of actively and directionally transforming oneself, and the process of individual's attitude towards oneself. Therefore, in the process of changing the real self to the ideal self, college students should face the reality, proceed from reality, eliminate all kinds of interference, and position themselves reasonably. And in the process of continuous self-monitoring, self-presentation, and self-correction of the self-adjustment system, we strive to cultivate our own good will quality, so as to achieve effective self-control, and finally realize the ideal self.

We should have a correct understanding of ourselves, and a correct understanding of ourselves is the foundation for cultivating a sound sense of self.

How do you think of yourself, as the saying goes, "people are valuable and self-aware", you have to know how many bowls of dry rice you can eat. Don't be arrogant or arrogant, but look at yourself with a normal heart. Some people say:

Don't take yourself too seriously. Maybe this is the truth of life, but it also needs to be analyzed, "don't take yourself seriously" is not good, "too serious about yourself" is not good for the beam, the key is a "too" word, "too much" is not advisable. If others don't take you seriously, you must "do the opposite" and be sure to take yourself seriously.

This is because others don't take you seriously, which means that others don't understand you, maybe they have some misunderstandings about you, or they are still observing you, maybe your talent and character have not been discovered, in this case, it is not strange and understandable that others do not take you seriously for a while.

When you're at a low point, you don't want to alarm anyone.

2.After surviving this lead, even if you give it to me, I will never eat it like a candy pickpocket again.

3.If you find it difficult to walk on the road now, then congratulations on your hands, and prove that you are forging ahead on the uphill road of life's journey.

4.In order to survive, it is necessary to give up the right to dream occasionally.

5., who is sad for the lost one? , all guests from other places.

6.Even an immature attempt is better than a stillborn attempt.

7.When you have time, ask yourself more about the direction of tomorrow.

8.No one will always be with you, but there will always be someone to accompany you for the rest of your life.

9.There is no hurdle that cannot be overcome, only oneself that has stepped down.

10.Ask yourself why, not why.

11.There will be times when happiness will be delayed, and the answer can only be in your own hands.

12.Even if all catastrophes could be foreseen. I'm still willing to go.

13.This world is very fair, either you are comfortably poor, or you are desperate to do it.

14.Hongchen dreams more, and asks less about right and wrong. The past follows the wind, love and hate at will.

15.What you can afford is courage, and what you can put down is courage.

16.How big the pattern is, how beautiful the stage is.

17.The detours that life should take are indispensable for one meter.

18.The value of life is determined by oneself. You will be the designer of your own happiness.

19.Where there's a will, there's a way. ，。Hard-working people, the sky does not pay. Lying on the salary to taste the gall, three thousand Yuejia can swallow Wu.

20.Always aspire and aspire to the long-term.

21.What others can do, I can do.

22.Born to be the protagonist in your own life, there is no need to be a green leaf just to foil others.

23.No matter how good other people's eaves are, it is better to have a safe nest for yourself.

24.Want to change the world. Change yourself first.

25.The past returns to the past, and the future returns to the future. I am willing to step on a thousand mountains and live up to the original intention.

27.Be gentle!

1. Look at yourself in two ways.

To look at oneself in two ways is to divide one's personality into two aspects: strengths and weaknesses. To divide ourselves into two aspects is to make Na Xian look at the problem more comprehensively. Both the good and the bad should be seen.

It is necessary to see both your own strengths and weaknesses and your own shortcomings and shortcomings, so that you can truly grasp yourself.

2. Recognize yourself from the depths of your heart.

Do you ask yourself over and over again, do you really know yourself? Do you know your strengths and strengths? Have you ever blamed yourself or boasted?

Like to be self-centered? Is it too high for self-estimation and self-esteem? And think about it again, are you underestimating yourself again?

Do you have self-deprecation and avoidance, withdrawal, etc. If you doubt your abilities from time to time, it can lead to depression and a vicious cycle.

3. Don't complain about how little you have gained.

When we are in a calm mood, we summarize what we have achieved, and if we can't talk about achievements, we think about what we have gained and the glory we have received. I am definitely not satisfied with what I have gained. It is necessary to find out the right conclusion on how to do it in the future.

All the time is a hard work, a harvest, work hard to make you closer to your dream every day.

Fourth, understand the truth that failure is the mother of success.

On the road of life's struggle, each of us wants to achieve great success, but few of us can persevere to the end. They were all frightened by the defeat and collapsed. Failure is the mother of success, and it is the eternal truth.

When we have failures, we should calmly analyze and find out the reasons why we failed, so that we can smoothly move from failure to success.

Everyone is equal and should look at everyone else as equals:

1. First of all, don't look at him with colored glasses.

Don't believe other people's rumors, don't believe what you don't see yourself, and don't easily believe what you come into contact with.

2. Avoid the first cause effect.

That is, the role of first impressions. People often judge a person because of the first impression of the relatives, in fact, the first impression is often inaccurate, the so-called road knows the horsepower, and the people will see the heart of the people over time. It is more accurate after long-term contact.

3. Avoid the halo effect.

That is, the halo effect. Don't be fooled by a person's external aura, maybe this person is very status, very rich, or good-looking, but it is still necessary to look at people's hearts.

4. The most important point is to look at others rationally and eliminate prejudices.

Learn to control your emotions and not be prejudiced against others because of anger or jealousy.