Patients with social phobia are not harmful to society

First of all, you can realize that you have this deficiency, you are already solving the problem, secondly, how to solve this problem, how to solve this problem, is what you should consider, in this era of competitive pressure, everyone will have more or less such and such mental problems, but the degree is different, some people recognize their own shortcomings, they will want to change through some ways, but some people just go with the flow, let it develop, We have to do everything we can to adapt to the development of this society, learn to face all the bad things in life, don't like things, social fear will not cause harm to society, but will seriously harm ourselves and those who care about us and love us, what kind of way we treat the world, how the world will treat us! Think of the people who have given so much love and hard work for our growth, how can we make them feel our love!

Brother, the situation is basically the same.

In daily life, people always need to communicate with each other, but some people are afraid of communicating with others, commonly known as "social fear", and the impact of social fear on people is still relatively large, whether it is daily life or work, it will be affected.

In life, they will become reticent and introverted

People who are socially phobic will not take the initiative to make friends in their daily life, because their hearts are sensitive and fragile, and they can be easily hurt.

And in terms of personality, they are also introverted, and they are not willing to communicate with others, and in the long run, they will have a fear in their hearts, and they will slowly become unwilling to communicate with others.

I don't dare to express my opinion at work

People with social phobia tendencies do not dare to express their opinions even at work, for fear that their opinions will be refuted by others and cause dissatisfaction from others.

Even if he knows that his plan is better, he will not come up with it, once others refute his plan, he will feel that he has not done well enough, and then he will be annoyed, and he will not take it out if he knows it, so that he will not be ridiculed by others.

In learning, even if you don't understand something, you don't want to ask others

In the process of learning, a person will always encounter problems that he does not understand, and the general practice is to ask others for advice.

However, people who are socially phobic are reluctant to ask others for advice, because they are afraid to see other people's nasty eyes and impatient looks.

Therefore, even if people with social fear encounter difficulties in their studies, they will find ways to solve them by themselves, or simply give up on themselves.

Therefore, the impact of social fear on people is still relatively large, whether it is in life, work or study, we will encounter great problems, and the impact is also great, therefore, we should be more patient with people with social fear.

It will make people feel very inferior, and at the same time they are reluctant to communicate with others, and their expression skills are relatively poor, which will also affect people's body and mind, and will also be cranky, which has a lot of impact on people.

It will have a great impact, first of all, it will lead to a person's lack of social skills, and it will also lead to a person's special loneliness and no friends, and at the same time, it will also lead to their own lack of desire to express themselves, resulting in some of their ideas not being understood by others.

Social phobia is a kind of persistent social anxiety, which refers to the inner experience of intense fear and tension and the fear of avoidance reactions in special people. I think the causes of social fear can be broadly divided into three points:One is cognitive bias, the second is personality factors, and the third is family influence.

First: cognitive biases

Cognitive biases include cognitive biases about the self and cognitive biases about interpersonal interactions.

RightCognitive biases of the egoIt is often manifested in the inability to objectively recognize one's own strengths and weaknesses, and the lack of understanding of one's own advantages, and the magnification of shortcomings. For example:Having too much self-esteem about their appearance, without correct cognition, resulting in serious inferiority, anxiety and other negative emotions, become afraid to communicate with othersFear of other people's attention to you, and then avoid crowded occasions, which can lead to social phobia in the long term.

RightCognitive biases in interpersonal communicationIt is manifested in the unreasonable cognition of the purpose, meaning, content and method of interpersonal communication, and often looks at interpersonal communication from a negative perspective, such as thinking that human feelings are indifferent, and the purpose of interpersonal communication is to use each other, pull relationships, and go through the back doorBe cautious, too nervous, which can also lead to social phobia.

Second: personality factors

People with social phobia often have an imperfect personality foundation, such as low self-esteem, timidity, shyness, dependence, high introversion, anxiety, fear, perfection, excessive self-esteem, sensitivity, lack of self-confidence and other factors. Worry that others will see some of your shortcomings when you interact with others, and worry about the negative evaluation of others, so reluctant to communicate with people.

Third: family reasons

I think the family cause is social fearMost importantCauses.

When the child is young,Excessive harshness and criticism from parents, causing the child to think that he just can't do it, do everything wrong, and do nothing well, so that the child becomes inferior and unwilling to speak.

There are also if at homeParents just don't socialize with anyone very much, then the child has not been guided accordingly since he was a child, and he will not be very good at this aspect and enter puberty due toLack of social skillsMany social situations instinctively do not want to participate, and in the long run, it will lead to more and more lack of social skills, and naturally when you become an adult, you will find that you are very afraid of this aspect, and a large part of the reason is that you are not good at it.

Maybe each of us will have some social fear in life, but some people's social fear is lighter and some are heavier. But in fact, social fear is not entirely a bad thing, because we are more sensitive to emotions, so we can take better care of other people's emotions; We're also more attentive and can see things that others can't. Everyone has to learn to accept their own shortcomings, and perhaps in the eyes of others, what you think is your shortcomings is the strengths that others like.

Social phobia: Social interactions are accompanied by feelings of anxiety and depression, as well as persistent inner conflicts. The inner desire to socialize and make friends, but because of worry, they avoid socializing, and even reflect on why they can't do better, and continue to be annoyed and blame themselves for it.

One. Low self-esteem : The causes of low self-esteem can be said to be varied, but the most common ones are as follows

Excessive criticism from others: For example, the strict requirements of the family, the PUA that has become popular recently, etc., make people who have a clear self-awareness gradually fall into denial, thinking that they can't do anything.

The experience of multiple failures: The frustration that arises because of the many failures in the past gradually leads to the loss of information and the inferiority of self-denial, which leads to social fear.

3.Defects of their own: Not only physical manifestations such as appearance, height, birthmarks, stuttering, etc., but also perceived ability defects, etc., will cause low self-esteem caused by self-perceived incompatibility with others.

Low self-esteem is due to devaluing oneself too much, ignoring one's shining points, and having a biased perception of oneself. Therefore, to deal with this situation, we must learn to pay attention to our own strengths and achievements, accept our own shortcomings, no one is perfect, God takes away the door, and there will be a window sill.

Two. Excessive care: There is always a nervousness of being watched, feeling that your every move will be noticed by those around you

Because I care too much about what other people think, so,I always imagine all kinds of bad possibilities, and imagine that my every move may cause other bad consequences such as the discussion of the people around meAs a result, my heart is even more fearful and worried. There are even times when you know that others may not pay much attention to you, but you still have the feeling that others are paying attention to you, and there is a behavior called "fantasy anxiety", and the more you think about the bad consequences, the more nervous you become, and the worse consequences follow.

So, to deal with this situation, learn to be positive auto-talk, and imagine the good outcome.

Social fear is not terrible, it is a terrible psychological fear that is difficult to overcome and the true ability of oneself buried by social fear. I hope that the little cutie with social fear can overcome her psychological fear, actively show herself, and become one of the shining ones in the crowd.

I don't know when the term "social fear" began to become popular. Social phobia refers to social phobia, the fear of dealing with people and avoiding and avoiding them as much as possible. It is more common in people between the ages of 17 and 30.

People from 17 to 30 stages, they are in the first stage of life exploration, accumulating energy, and laying the foundation of life. When they first entered the society, they shouldered responsibilities, and the external pressure began to slowly increase, and they were about to become the backbone of the family, and it was inevitable that family members and relatives would look at him expectantly. But when he realizes that he has not met his expectations, he will inevitably have a feeling of inferiority and inferiority.

Such a lack of confidence will make them afraid to appear in front of relatives and friends。Avoiding unnecessary subconscious contrasts, they choose to avoid socializing and avoid unnecessary troubles.

Sometimes I have social fears. Every time I visit relatives during the festive season, I feel embarrassed to see unfamiliar faces, and some relatives don't know what to call me. Out of concern, relatives and friends sent me concerned greetings, asked us about our current situation, and asked some questionsWhen I don't come up, or when I'm not wearing well, I feel like I don't know where to start, and I feel like I'm on pins and needles

Once, in order to avoid these unsettling feelings, I would even hide and avoid socializing.

Now that I think about it, this is actually because my mentality was not correct at that time. In fact, there is nothing that is not coming up or is not easy to say, it is just my own lack of confidence and a kind of avoidance.

Sincerity does not get the response it deserves, so it begins to distrust people, do not expect, and do not have full enthusiasm. Begin to avoid unnecessary interpersonal interactions, because after seeing some things clearly, everything seems to be covered with a utilitarian mask and no sincerity, so subconsciously I think that there is no need to deal with people anymore.

Believe that social fear can be overcome. As long as we have a correct mentality, no matter who we are facing or what kind of situation we are facing, as long as we are above board. Accept yourself calmly, be generous, and do your best, there is nothing you can't face.

Summary:

Be brave, it's not a big deal. Be honest, there's really nothing to escape.

Are some of us born with social fear? Of course not, we are born afraid of pain, this is human instinct, but it is not our instinct to be afraid of people, since it is not caused by congenital factors, then it is caused by acquired factors. So what are the acquired factors?

I think there are several reasons for this!

Living in a complex family since childhood, parents always quarrel or parents do not agree on their educational philosophy, which will lead to a pleasing personality on both sides, or do not like to talk and are unwilling to interact with others, because living in a family full of love and encouragement since childhood will lead to insecurity. As a result, when you grow up, you will have problems interacting with or talking to people. I am a medical student in what I am studyingIn "Human Development", it is discussed that the attitude of parents will affect the development of children and the development of personality tendencies in the future.

So I think the family environment is an important factor that leads to social fear.

Different ways of thinking can also lead to social phobiaI care more about what others think, and I always keep evaluating myself and denying myself. My own personality is a kind of outgoing, but sometimes there will be manifestations of social fear, for example, I want my aunt to give me more when I eat in the cafeteria, but I can't say it, because I want my aunt to give it in case she doesn't give itWhat should I do? How embarrassing!

What a shame! Although I always think that it is okay to be fine, there are two kinds of thinking that control me, and I often choose the first one and choose not to say it. Therefore, the difference in the way of thinking will also lead to social fear.

Different upbringing circumstances and experiences can lead to a person's personalityFor example, I can tell others what kind of person I am now, but who would have thought that I used to be an introverted and timid person! When I was a child, I didn't have peers in my hometown, and the grade was not in elementary school (there was no kindergarten in my hometown), so my personality was very introverted, and later, I moved to the county seat, went to kindergarten, and met my good best friend, she took me crazy, took me to make trouble, and my personality gradually became cheerful. So I think the difference in growth rings and experiences can also lead to social fear.

The above is what I think leads to social fear, in fact, overcoming social fear is very simple, let go of the denial of yourself in your heart, get rid of the fear of childhood, just fine,May we all be generous in our dealings with others, and may we always be happy every day!

In general, social phobia is a psychological disorder, and if you want to improve it, you must exercise yourself more.