Why are some people always prone to pessimism and disappointment?

Through my findings, most pessimistic people are sensitive by nature, they are more likely than others to perceive changes in everything or things around them, or potential changes that others are not easy to perceive, and sensitive people are prone to pain, to be precise, easy to feel pain. I have friends around me who are like this, saying that it sounds good is sensitive, and if it doesn't sound good, it is a snake shadow. A little thing, the people around him don't think it's anything, he always remembers it, and he will think that it will have any bad effects on him, which is really speechless.

It's like a tiny thorn, some people live as usual without realizing it, but some people can feel this thorn in detail, feel it little by little into the process of **, feel the taste of pain, when this kind of pain that others don't think but you are like a great enemy is getting more and more, the pain is derived into pessimism.

It's like there will always be extroverts and introverts in the world, there are natural factors and personal experiences, you should have heard a story, the original version can't remember clearly, roughly a family has three sons, when the father inflicted violence on the mother, the three sons thought differently, the eldest son thought, the father beats the mother every day, I must be good to my daughter-in-law in the future. The second son thought, Dad beats Mom every day, I don't want to get married in the future. The third son thought, Dad beats his mother every day, it turns out that he can beat his wife like this, and I will do the same in the future.

If you look at the same family environment, three people of the same sex who grow up to be genetically similar have different views on the same thing. It is impossible to require all people to be optimistic, because there are many types of human personality, there are optimists who grow up in a bad environment, and there are pessimists who grow up in a good environment.

Childhood experiences, unhappiness in childhood, lack of peers, experiences of growing up, disappointments, the impact of setbacks on your personality, family environment, whether your parents are optimistic, what your family wants of you, etc. There are many causes, and it is impossible for one single cause to solve. It can only be said that when you realize that you are more pessimistic, you must change your subconscious through your consciousness, see the good and bad aspects of everything, learn to look at it dialectically, and slowly learn to be objective, so that you will naturally not affect your state of mind because of things.

Pessimistic people are because they haven't seen the sun since they were children, and they feel hopeless when they encounter a little, and optimistic people have nothing to do with the smooth sailing environment in addition to not seeing the gloom! If you let a person be hit every day, what can you do, and he is not pessimistic, that's no wonder! The environment in which people live is like a dye vat, and the color will gradually become similar after soaking for a long time, which is directly related to the surrounding environment.

People who are easy to be pessimistic and disappointed actually have a lot to do with their original family, when your words and deeds are criticized and ignored, it is impossible not to be pessimistic for more than ten years, and it is difficult to come out! But it's not absolute, some people don't have such a sensitive personality, it will be much better, give a little sunshine and you can shine!

For example, you want to have a happy childhood, you want to get perfect love, you have a very high pursuit of life, but the fact is that this kind of requirements or standards are far higher than reality, but you are powerless to change these, or you have changed some, but as an idealist, you will soon have higher expectations, so you will always be in a state of dissatisfaction, you will be disappointed, lose the interest in life until you are completely pessimistic.

I'm like that, often uncontrollably depressed, sad and hopeless, sometimes hysterical, my mood changes are almost the same as the hormonal changes in the body, and I can't help it, but after my husband understands my problem, he will remind me every time, what state are you in now, you need to be normal, he will come to hug me and comfort me, I will be slightly better. Maybe everyone's emotions have a rhythm, when you are down, it is best to talk to your lover or friends, stay with them, it is easier to get out, and it is easy for a person to fall into negative emotions and cannot extricate himself.

Everything must have cause and effect, and people who look at life negatively may have experienced some pessimistic and negative things. These things hurt them, discourage many of their beautiful dreams, and they take these experiences so seriously that they don't want to observe and enjoy the rest of their lives.