What is it like to be afraid to express your thoughts directly to others?

I'm like this, I'm afraid of being secretly slandered by someone for saying the wrong thing, and I'm afraid of being said badly, so I will go along with others to express the language, even if the meaning expressed is not what I think in my heart, but later, I feel more and more that there is no need to go on like this: it is impossible for people to do things to the perfection of speaking, even if you do something that is not at fault within the scope of your own cognition, others will also say bad things about you. This is unavoidable, and some people just have a lot of mouths.

Moreover, all you can control is your own behavior, you can't control other people's opinions about your behavior, don't care about what others think of you, what others think of yourself, we can't control ourselves. But for the important people around you (family, partner, etc.), it's time to express your thoughts and be honest.

I'm like this, especially for the person I like, I don't dare to express my thoughts directly, it's really a bad experience, it's really heartbeat, because I like it too much, so I'm afraid that there is no future, but I want to be able to contact all the time, I'm afraid that I can't be a lover for a long time, and turning around is a lifetime, but if I don't confess and I'm afraid of missing it, I should try to be able to accompany him all the time and become what she likes.

I don't think it's a confident experience, and I'm very unhappy, I used to be like this, but now it's good, I can express my thoughts very generously, and I feel good.

It's probably a very tangled experience.,I'm afraid that others will be unhappy when I say what I think.,I'll think a lot but don't dare to express it.,The bad experience is really.。

It's really a bad experience, I'm very entangled, and I don't feel confident anymore, but now I'm slowly changing, and I'm getting rid of this bad habit, and it's much better now.

I think I'm like this, I'm afraid to express my thoughts to the people I like, it's really a bad experience, and I'm afraid to express my disagreement, probably because of my own lack of confidence.

Personally, I think I'm like this, I'm always very timid, I don't dare to express my thoughts, it's really a bad experience, and now I'm trying to change.

What you want to say, what you want to express, changes the taste at the last breath, so don't think it's bad and no one misunderstands what it's like!

Once, I said that I am an upright person, I always like to say something, I believe that there are not a few people who have such thoughts in life, I used to feel straight-tempered, but now I know that it is called low emotional intelligence.

It is the same as not being able to express it, what you want to express conflicts with your inner thoughts, making others uncomfortable, and speaking recklessly, offending people and not knowing it, is called low emotional intelligence.

However, fortunately, this is not hopeless, as long as you are willing to make changes in the game, you will improve with practice.

Now, I have read a lot of books and learned a lot, although my emotional intelligence has not improved much, but I will not make relatively low-level mistakes, and I will not offend people unknowingly, and I don't know it.

As long as the method is used correctly, the inherent character formed by a person can be changed.

Modern society is too demanding.

We live in an age of excess.

Everything is excessive, over-ruining information, excessive rhythm, excessive communication, excessive entertainment, excessive beauty, excessive overtime, excessive consumption, and you can even build a thesaurus of excessive times: information**, excessively fast-paced, entertaining to death, appearance anxiety, insomnia, consumerism, mobile phone dependence, ......

We used to seem to not need to judge so often.

In the past, we needed to make key judgments in career choices, job destinations, children's education, marriage and mate selection, cognitive judgments about our living environment, the composition of people around us, and to a certain extent, risk judgments about life situations.

Nowadays, our judgment is used repeatedly in our daily lives, even in things that are not directly related to our own interests

Cultivating judgment makes people wise, while over-judgment makes people anxious.

There is no era that requires us to think independently more than at this time, the society is developing too fast, many people are instinctively anxious, thinking that if I don't keep up well, I may be left behind by the times, and I may be far behind in the crowd next time, and people will look at me with strange eyes, so I must keep pace with the times and ......

In fact, there is no big problem, such a problem will be encountered by almost everyone, but the degree of distress is different, in essence, this is a conflict between the appeal of an independent personality and the maintenance of interpersonal relationships, you dare not say, for fear of offending people - this shows that in fact, in the previous mode of getting along, you have been hiding your thoughts, in a passive state, and others will also regard it as your normal state.

When you tell the truth uncharacteristically but disrupt interpersonal harmony, your behavior will be seen as abnormal behavior by the group and negate you, and then a vicious circle will be formed, and eventually you may not be able to hold back and have a last big outbreak, which will lead to bad results.

Personal advice, please tailor your own clothes:

1.Look at this rationally first, don't be too emotional.

2.Rebuild your confidence: It is advisable to start expressing your true thoughts slowly, provided that you are not too aggressive, and it is also advisable to learn to modify your language appropriately, sometimes with the same awareness, but the effect varies greatly depending on the form of expression.

3.As you slowly learn to express your true self, observe the feedback of the people around you and make appropriate adjustments.

4.Accept yourself: This is a process of growth, it is very normal, but everyone can not achieve a complete balance, if sometimes overreact, don't be too guilty and self-blame, because it's like a pendulum, suppressed for too long will inevitably swing to the other extreme, what you need to do is to slowly learn to release your reasonable emotions while controlling yourself.

Don't dare to express that it is fear, afraid of some unbearable and unpleasant things in your heart Take your time, don't panic, be brave, and not be afraid of difficulties. Try to face these inner thoughts.

You are a little too introverted in this matter, or try to try more, it is recommended to read Adler's "Inferiority and Transcendence", which introduces the ** and root causes of inferiority, as for the methods of eliminating inferiority mentioned in the book, it depends on what you think.

Understand how low self-esteem arises? What kind of behavior is prone to infarction complex? Then choose the method that suits you and correct it slowly.

It's just that this person is usually used to being depressed, no.

Good at articulating, or having expressed something before.

What an idea, but it was ignored by others.

So it's a habit.

Strangled this unexpressed love in the bud, hid it in the depths of the heart, an unsightly place, and told yourself in your heart that you must say it out loud next time.

At such a time, this feeling, everyone has had it, and everyone has felt differently. Some love is not expressed, and there is a chance to make up for it next time, but many times, if it is not expressed this time, there will be no chance for next time. Although, there will be many tomorrows and next years in life, and there will be many next and next times, but for both the loved and the loved, perhaps every time is the last chance.

When the person we love leaves us early, when the person we love throws into the arms of others, when the person we value cuts off from us because of a misunderstanding, when the person we love no longer hears our voice and doesn't need our love, we will sigh in our hearts for the love that has not been expressed again and again. At this time, how do we need to talk about love?

There are some things that you have to say as soon as you think of them; There are some things that you have to do as soon as you think of them. If you have love in your heart, you must speak it quickly.

It's true. You have to be brave to confess to him, don't let yourself regret your life because you don't dare, if you like him, you have to pursue him bravely, tell him, so that even if he doesn't like you, you won't regret it, because after all, you have been brave to pursue ......

When we encounter these things, we should do our best to deal with some things, because you will find that many things are actually easy and can be solved by us. Convincing others is actually not a difficult thing to find you have the confidence and courage to do something, I believe you can still do it, I think everyone's potential is the same, only if you keep working hard and keep trying, there will be results in the end, if you just blindly say that you are not willing to work hard, then I think no matter what, it will always be like this. So, I think everybody can just say that you try your best to do something in the mirror, and you end up with something you want.

Now we tend to be more and more silent, and we don't dare to express our opinions and opinions on things, and we feel that we are always lacking something to take that step, and I have experienced this before, but with many exercises, this situation has improved a lot.

Many times, we lack a sense of self-confidence and a sense of bravery. In front of everyone, we may just habitually be a listener, rather than being a listener and a speaker at the same time. I admit that listening is important, but the output of ideas is also very important.

For something, we will definitely have our own opinions and considerations, and not all of them are the same as everyone else, so then we need to express our own opinions, instead of being silent all the time. Therefore, I think that if you want to get your ideas out, the first thing is to overcome your inner psychological fears, take that step bravely, and then open the sky.

In addition, when we are brave enough to be able to express our opinions to others, then what we need to pay attention to at this time is how to let others truly understand what we want to express, otherwise what we say will not reach the meaning, or the logic will be confused, so that people cannot know what they want to convey, then this is actually not achieving our own purpose. Therefore, when we speak, we must organize our own language logic, and our thinking must be clear, otherwise we will not even know what we are doing, let alone want others to understand.

Furthermore, learn to learn and grow through exercise again and again. In fact, we need to practice a lot of times, and the more we practice, and the more we continue to improve than before, then we will be more and more courageous to express what we want to say, and the clearer it will be. That way, we don't have to worry about this situation anymore.

To be a man is to be a brave person, and to do things is to do down-to-earth things. Dare to express your thoughts at all times, whether or not anyone will adopt them, but you must also express them. If you don't express it, then even if you have a good idea in the future, no one will trust it, and if you don't have trust, you won't adopt it again.

So, the first thing to do is to express.

Since it is you who will not understand, understand, and hear clearly after expressing your own opinions, you must first change your language ability. Because only by first improving one's language expression ability can one better express one's thoughts, and only when it is well expressed, people can clearly understand, so that it is possible to accept it. Even expressing ideas is problematic, and it is even more difficult to accept.

Strengthen your thinking logic and language skills, so that what you say is reasonable and evidence-based, and others can listen clearly, so that you will also enhance your confidence.

Because it is difficult for me to express myself, even if I express it, I am not accepted, which leads to a decrease in self-confidence and a fear of expressing it. So rebuild your self-confidence and allow yourself to express your opinions, even if they don't get adopted. As long as you say what you think, you are bravely taking the first step to be accepted.

You must learn to speak often when discussing problems, whether it is a big or small issue to be discussed, you must speak when you have ideas, so that you can not only exercise your oral expression skills, but also make yourself brave.

Therefore, don't be afraid to make mistakes in expression, or to explain if you are not clear, as long as you express your own opinions, in such a cumulative situation, there will be improvement, and the opinions you express in the future will be easy for people to adopt, easy to accept, and you will become not afraid to express.

I think the most important thing is to make yourself better, when a person becomes good enough, then his ideas will be easily accepted by others. In addition, pay attention to the way and attitude when speaking.

The way of thinking of the public may be different from yours, which requires you to learn the way of speaking and doing things of those who are often recognized by others (consider the ideas of others more often, it will be easier to get everyone's approval), and then you can form your own style based on this; As for bravery, there is no one in the world who is born to speak.