The future mother in law inexplicably asked us to break up

They are all women, and they are old on the day, I think it is better to empathize, as a junior, you should put yourself in the shoes of the elderly, you have grievances in your heart, it is certain, bear with it, think more about the difficulty of the elderly, feel better in your heart, or do something that you are happy about, both of them have emotions that are not conducive to talking about things. If the old man stubbornly doesn't want to listen to your explanation, calm down for a day or two, let your boyfriend coax the old man, chat with the old man, take a walk, buy something, and wait for the old man to stop being angry, and then let your boyfriend explain it for you, and tell the old man what you two think, and his son will still listen. The son wants to raise but the parent is not there, so accompany the elderly more.

Remember to add fuel to the fire. The old man's understanding and your boyfriend's attitude are very important. Let's take care of it first, don't worry, things may not be as bad as you think.

Isn't it painful to break up? Personally, I feel that this is all your boyfriend's business, Su Guo, he loves you enough, so it doesn't matter.

What's a song called? Why should women be embarrassed by women.

When the above happens, it looks like it's not going well, but it may also be a good thing. Even if it doesn't happen now, it won't happen after you get married.

Moreover, it is not irreversible that it is happening now. It's also a lesson for you.

First, it shows that this future mother-in-law is not so easy to get along with, that is, you have become, and it will be an endless test for you in the future;

Second, I feel that you have figured out one thing: if you marry his family in the future, are you fully prepared, can you tolerate her? She is her boyfriend's mother, and even if he chooses to divorce, he may not choose to turn his back on his mother.

To love him, you must have a good relationship with his mother, otherwise, the stability of the marriage is questionable;

Third, girls should not be too strong, whether in front of their husbands or mothers-in-law, they must overcome rigidity with softness. In this way, you will not mess things up, and you will not suffer (a sentence: I listen to you, I believe that the other party is happy, and will not really take advantage of you).

Fourth, the strong mother-in-law naturally also has her strengths. She is very capable and straightforward, and does not beat around the bush. Give her more opportunities to gain the upper hand and show weakness, and she will be kind to you with her heart.

Naturally, if you're also a strong person who wants to have the final say, it's really hard to get along with.

I won't break up just because my future mother-in-law doesn't get along, I believe it's man-made.

It is not uncommon for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along in Chinese-style relationships, but with the progress and development of society, most of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships are now relatively harmonious, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is no longer as unbalanced as before.

It's man-madeAfter getting married, you can live separately from your mother-in-law, as long as the distance is widened, there will not be so many conflicts between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and now most young people live separately from their parents, and they also avoid mother-in-law wars, I think many times we have a way to solve these problems.

Life can't afford to miss outI finally met a person I liked, what a lot of fate is in this vast sea of people, and what is even more rare is that the person I love and the person who loves me are the same person, so I can't give up easily, if I miss the next life, I may not be able to meet it, life is short, we should dare to love and hate, even if the front is full of thorns, we should be brave to step on the blood, and treat feelings should be so persistent and brave.

Probably not, after getting married, I am not with my mother-in-law, I don't spend a long time with my mother-in-law, I have my own place to live, and I won't have other problems with my mother-in-law, so basically this kind of thing will not happen.

I don't think I will break up because my mother-in-law is not easy to get along with, because marriage is a matter for two people, and you can't choose to give up because you have difficulties.

I don't think I'll do, I'm living with her son, not with my mother-in-law, it doesn't matter if she gets along well or not, as long as she can get by.

If you encounter this situation, you should consider whether you can withstand such insults and contradictions in the future, if you can bear it, then don't break up, and if you can't bear it, break up.

It is really important to meet a good mother-in-law, if the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, and the husband is not towards you, it may really lead to a breakup.

This matter needs to be different from person to person. If your future mother-in-law is having a hard time with you, and your boyfriend is indiscriminately biased towards your future mother-in-law, I suggest that you communicate with your boyfriend seriously and think calmly about how you should deal with it.

Yes, there are a lot of mom and baby men now, and they listen to their mothers for everything, so there will be a lot of contradictions, and the girlfriend will be very jealous, so if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law don't get along well, they will definitely break up.

No, because I won't spend too much time with my in-laws now, because now the young and the old live separately and don't interfere with each other, which avoids conflicts.

No, after all, the person who still wants to marry is more important, and the mother-in-law who is not easy to get along with can also find a way to get along.

If the future mother-in-law is particularly difficult to get along with, and then the mother-in-law's personality is particularly stubborn, in this case, I will choose to break up with my boyfriend and never get along again.

It is always said that a good woman can influence three generations, and the influence of a mother-in-law is significant. But after all, it's not about living with your mother-in-law in the future, the key is to see how your husband is.

If your boyfriend is also obedient to your mother-in-law, then you must break up with something. Because if your boyfriend listens to his mother very much and takes everything according to what his mother says, then he will definitely think that you don't respect his mother and are not sensible, and you will be angry in your future life. Because your position in the family is always last, and your mother-in-law is first, then he will definitely face his son, and it is always the daughter-in-law's fault to do something wrong, don't marry into the door, otherwise you will really regret the rest of your life, not to scare you.

If your boyfriend is very obsessed with you and doesn't take his mother's words to heart, what his mother says, what he should do and what he does. To put it bluntly, even if the husband at home has the final say. His mom can help you speak for you when she says you, so you can continue to be together.

After all, it is your husband who lives together instead of your mother-in-law, as long as you live separately in the future and go to see her old man during the holidays, you can still be together. But be sure to negotiate with your boyfriend, and he and his mother must live separately in the future, and if you agree, you can continue to date.

If you don't agree, you can only break up. Because you can't make your boyfriend always look at you after getting married, once your mother-in-law has a disagreement with you because of something, it is you who suffers, because after all, she is an elder. It is always inevitable that your mother-in-law will nag you in front of your husband that this is not good, that is not good, and it always affects the relationship.

If he agrees to live separately, after all, they are not so close, and they will not see each other every day, and she can't always find fault with you, and it will be much better to ask for this and that for you.

Actually, I don't think it's necessary, because you are not married to your mother-in-law but your boyfriend, this is a marriage between the two of you, why be influenced by others, even if your future mother-in-law has a lot of things, but she is just your boyfriend's mother, not someone who spends your life with you, so if you really love your boyfriend, try to accept your mother-in-law and try to tolerate her.

The person you are going to marry is her son, the son she has worked hard to raise for decades will be your person after marriage, she will definitely be reluctant to be a mother, if you love your boyfriend, think about him, respect his mother, if there is no mother, how can you have him, how can you meet him, right, so if you really love him, love his family, treat his family as well as your own, so that your future mother-in-law can neither find fault with you, Your husband will also be partial to you, so the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law depends on whether you are attentive or not, and if you treat it attentively, there will not be so much trouble.

If you really can't stand your mother-in-law, then have less contact with her, the distance produces beauty, don't go to live in her house, and after you get married, you move out and don't live with them. If you see less in this way, there won't be so many things. Usually meet once in a while, and she will definitely not look for you again.

If you don't like your boyfriend that much, then you can consider whether it's time to let go, because firstly, you don't like him that much, and secondly, his mother still has so many things, even if she gets married in the future, it is inevitable to quarrel, if you know this, it is better to let go in advance.

Of course, you shouldn't break up for this reason, it's just that your future mother-in-law is in charge too much, it's not a big problem, this problem is actually not difficult to solve, and you shouldn't break up with your boyfriend for this reason There are the following reasons:

The first point, if you break up with your boyfriend for this reason, your relationship is inevitably too fragile, this test can not withstand it, you may not be able to last forever in the future, in fact, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, you and your boyfriend will have to face some problems sooner or later, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem that will occur in all families, even if you don't marry your boyfriend, marry someone else, you are likely to meet a worse mother-in-law in the future, So don't think of retreating when you encounter difficulties, after all, life is destined to be bumpy, and the relationship between you and your boyfriend should be very deep, you have already begun to plan your future, then you have spent so many romantic times together, and now you say that you will break up, this is really too hasty, if you really love your boyfriend, you should stick to it.

The second point is that in fact, every mother-in-law is in charge of a lot, which is a very normal thing, because your future criticism is your boyfriend's mother, so what mother in the world doesn't love her son? So if you empathize with each other, you will be able to understand the hard work of a mother, and when you face the interference of your future mother-in-law, don't feel impatient, you should communicate more with your future mother-in-law, and her mother is also your respected elder, as long as you reason well, in fact, your relationship can be improved.

I think this should be the so-called mother-in-law and daughter-in-law dispute. When every girl grows up, she will meet someone who is even more difficult to deal with than her mother, and that is her mother-in-law.

Some mothers-in-law are particularly difficult to deal with, and they manage a lot, which makes them particularly disgusted, but some mothers-in-law treat themselves like biological mothers, and there is no distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you can meet the latter kind of mother-in-law, it is your third life lucky, if you meet the previous kind of mother-in-law, but you don't know what to do, then I can give you some tips: (The following ideas are purely summarized after watching some eight-o'clock soap operas for many years).

The first is to try to respect the opinion of the mother-in-law, maybe every mother-in-law will have this idea in her heart, that is, after you enter my house, you must listen to me in everything. So it's very likely that every decision he makes isn't necessarily right, but even if it's wrong, he won't accept your criticism and won't think of correcting it.

At this time, you should do your best to cater to his thoughts, do not have a head-on conflict with him, what he asks you to do, if you can do it, try not to complain, because if you can't even do some of his requests, I'm afraid your life will be even more difficult.

The second is not to live with the in-laws after marriage as much as possible, generally speaking, young people now have their own space, and rarely live with the man's parents, so this avoids the possibility of conflict to a large extent.

As for whether you want to break up with your boyfriend, I want to say that the strong is his mother and not him, even if his mother is not good to you, but he is also very good to you, as long as your mother-in-law's requirements are not too excessive and do not violate your principles, you can still endure it and continue to live with him, because every woman will encounter problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to a greater or lesser extent, and everyone comes over like this.

For a long time, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a topic of widespread concern, and the two families who were originally unrelated, because the young couple fell in love with each other, became a family, and the two juniors were sweet and sweet, I want to understand and care, but it is not easy to let the two families get along so well. <>

I still remember when I was a child, we watched a drama called "My Savage Mother-in-law", and my friends who were the same age as me watched it. The play tells the story of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who have been noisy all the time, and finally let go of their previous suspicions and live happily. This drama is mainly about those interesting things in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have their own characteristics, both have stubbornness, and there are also gentle and delicate places, both of them are kind people.

The reason why there are so many contradictions is only because the original living environment is different. It takes such a time to adapt to each other, and the two of them run in and run in, and finally find that there is actually nothing to hate each other, maybe it is the appearance of the other party that has changed your life and has a sense of insecurity, and you resist this insecurity. So take the irritable side that you don't usually have, and face this stranger who is about to become a family member.

Of course, there are also some mothers-in-law, who are really savage mothers-in-law. And the existence of this kind of mother-in-law will have a bad impact on your future love life, at this time you must find a way to deal with it, such as thinking about moving out with your husband in the future, I think because the mother-in-law chooses to break up with her boyfriend, this practice is a little unfair to your boyfriend, but your boyfriend must help you to a certain extent. Otherwise, if you get married in the future, you will be very aggrieved.

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