Is that what children are for???

First of all, children are naturally not to be compared.

What parents want most is for their children to be healthy and happy.

But it's easy for parents nowadays to ignore this, it may be that the living conditions are good now, and they think that you should study hard or something, and only when the child really jumps off the building or gets sick or something, will he come back to his senses and regret it.

There are several ways to deal with such parents.

1. Communication. Tell your parents how you feel, they are not Superman, there is no reason to force you to be a Superman, they have many things that are not as good as others, why should they compare you. Some parents just unconsciously compare themselves with other people's children, and do not realize that this time it hurts their children, and it is good to communicate with them.

2. Ignore. Some parents live their own lives in a nest, and they pin all their hopes on their children, who are not only their face, but also their future dependence, maybe it is useless to communicate. At this time, you can only rely on yourself, you have to realize that you are unique in the world, you don't need to compare with others, and there is no need to put your parents' expectations on yourself, just be yourself, and let them compare their parents' love to themselves.

Maybe this can also be a motivation in your life, to make other people's children miserable compared to others.

Of course not! Everyone is different and has their own excellent side, and it is meaningless to compare with others.

No, children are used to spend money.

Compare the advantages of other people's children with the disadvantages of your own children... The child's psyche is hurt!

Of course not! Everyone is unique.

Everyone has their own merits.

It is not advisable to compare the strengths of others to the weaknesses of one's own children.

Parents should not hurt their children because of their competitiveness.

Communicate well with your parents.

No one can say they are the best.

We just need to do better.

Tomorrow's self must be better than today's self.

Believe in yourself. A child who is confident and self-motivated is a good child.

My parents too, as long as I can't do something well, I compare myself to others and say how good they are.

In fact, I also learned later that adults want to save face, and they don't want to lose to others, so their own children don't want to lose to other people's children.

There is nothing like it, your own children are always the best. Believe in yourself, believe in your children. Happy Fun!

Yesterday week, I took my children out for a walk, went to eat and came out of the door to find that there was a store next to it doing activities. Dan feast.

The atmosphere at the door is very good, and there are several Mo Mingyin singers who are taking turns singing, and they are singing well, at least it attracts my son, and some people may say: You look down on others too much, compare your son's vision. You might be wrong, why?

Because children have no discriminating mind! Good is good, he doesn't know what type of song it is, the world of children is the most real!

Everyone has paid attention to it, and I inadvertently told you a key point, that is, the truth of children, not the heart that we all always want him to learn to compare.

Why can't you always let him have a heart of contrast? For example, if a wife says to her husband, "Look at who is better than you, how will you regret it?"

If a husband says to his wife: Look at who's wife is better than you, ** and better, what will happen if you listen to it?

In the same way, if you keep telling your child who scored 100 points in the test, and then who got the first place, can the child not resent you? Can you be happy?

Here is nothing more than a truth that everyone understands, between people, don't compare, comparison will only make you more and more painful, and it is impossible to be happier and happier!

However, we are often easy to forget what we have, and always love to pursue other people's things!

Children and adults should be compared: sincerity, confidence, intentions, and love!

Many parents like to compare their children with other people's children, and they always say to their children in a tone of envy: "Look at how good so-and-so is, this exam took the first place". Praising other people's children and invisibly belittling their own children I believe is a common mistake that many parents make.

What I want to say is that every parent has a heart that hopes that their son will become a dragon and their daughter will become a phoenix, but blindly comparing is slowly hitting the child's self-confidence, you must know that the child's growth motivation comes from the psychological self-affirmation, and the child who lacks self-confidence eventually loses the internal motivation to learn.

Be aware of your parents' nagging!

Every parent wants their children to be good, because their contact is not wide, and their personal quality is not very high, what they see and feel very good, they will hope that their children are equally good.

So, don't be impatient with them, change what you should change, and listen to what you haven't.

On the way back to pick up Kiki, Kiki told me: Mom, xx in our class said that his family is very rich, a lot of money!

Oh, yes, do you envy? ”

I don't envy, I know that my mother said that some jobs earn more money, and some jobs earn less, and Dad's job is a job that earns less money, right? ”

Yes, Mom and Dad don't make much money, and if they can't let Kiki show off in front of their children, will Kiki feel uncomfortable? ”

No, I know my mom and dad love me. ”

I am very pleased with Kiki, and at the same time I feel deeply guilty, I apologetically touched Kiki's head: "Kiki, there may be parents who do not earn much money, but their love for their children does not have to earn more money and less parents, every parent loves their children very much, and every parent is doing their best to provide better conditions for their children, but their abilities are limited." ”

I know that Mom and Dad love me very much, and Mom and Dad love me no less than xx loves him! Kiki looked up at me.

A little blocked in the throat!

Kiki, who is the reason for the family's more money and less money? Is there a reason why the baby is sleepy? ”

Because of mom and dad, there is no baby. ”

Yes, whether there is money in the family or not, more money and less money, is the reason for the parents and not the baby, so does it have anything to do with the baby's good learning, good health, and friends? ”

No! "Also, there is a lot of money in the family, if you don't study hard, your grades are not good, and if you don't get along well with children, you don't have good lead friends, don't you say? “

Yes, although our family doesn't have a lot of money, I also have a lot of good friends, you see! ”

Yes, that's because we are a sensible and humble child. Besides, most of the money in the family is the credit of Mom and Dad, so it should be proud of Mom and Dad? ”

Be! So, in the end, are children comparing their parents with more money than their families? ”

Qi Wang laughed excitedly, "Yes! ”

By the way, if you want to compare yourself, then Kiki, what should children compare? ”

than eating, to see who eats faster! ”

Think about it, what else can it be compared to? ”

than sleeping, see who sleeps better! ”

than reading, to see who reads more! ”

than studying, to see who learns the best! ”

Than the body, see whose body is great! ”

Listening to the more the child said, the more and more should be compared, the mother smiled.

Child, mom just wants you to know and want you to understand: than family, than background, than mom and dad this is what you can't choose, the only thing you can choose by yourself and make you proud is the result of your efforts! Such a comparison makes sense!