I feel so lonely. There are people like me...

hehe,you are really a silly boy! ^

You are already a 23-year-old man, in the prime of your youth, full of vitality, everything has your own thoughts and feelings, indicating that you are paying attention to your own growth, pay attention to your own psychological development, it is normal for you to have such feelings, young men and women at this age will have such emotional confusion (loneliness attacks), I suggest that you can usually talk to your good friends in life, trustworthy colleagues about this topic to dispel this loneliness and depression! Or, divert your attention and do something that interests you, like doing sports, going to a movie, reading a book... Wait a minute!

I don't think it's like finding a girlfriend to solve the problem, of course, it's normal to find a girlfriend at your age :-d! However, feelings can't be forced, what do you say?

Happy to you, friend!

According to your oral description above, you can judge that your inner world is very lonely, you lack friends, you can start teaching your girlfriend at this age, you just don't like to be lonely, I hope that someone will often be by your side to accompany you, listen to you talk about your heart and chat or something, in this world, our life is gradually moving towards a well-off society, materials and everything is good, but we feel that the inner world is becoming more and more lonely.

I can't sleep for a long time at night, I don't know what I'm thinking, I don't know why I can't sleep.

When I woke up in the morning, I opened my eyes and saw an empty house, only myself, and at this time I sighed in my heart.

It's not a question of whether you have a girlfriend or not, it's because you don't want to be surrounded by loneliness, and you can't tell them all the words in your heart, I'm the same as you, I'm also a person, I don't want to be surrounded by loneliness but often alone, watching the weather get colder and colder, others have their own happiness, looking at others are so happy and then look at yourself, suddenly feel as if the world is left alone, we lack friends and communication.

Perhaps, it's not a good thing for you to teach a girlfriend.

Hope it helps you, (*hee-hee......

In fact, I have the same experience as you, but the difference is that the living environment is different, so the mentality is different, I am a student, and I can numb myself by studying when I encounter obstacles in interpersonal communication, while you can try to use work to keep yourself busy and manage your time reasonably.

You can try to make some female friends, generally men don't like to say something to their male friends, but it will be much better to communicate with women, and it is very free. Are guys like you reluctant to chase women? I feel embarrassed, but it's okay to have it, so even if I meet a girl I like, I'm embarrassed to express my heart, so I miss it.

I'm like this, waiting for a woman to chase, but I don't want to chase a girl, and when I meet a girl who has a good impression of each other, I don't want to express it and miss it. Ay. That's how I am.

Communicate with your friends more, communicate, and hang out with your friends, you will be much better and your mood will be much better.

I feel the same way, but I'm a woman.

Try to change your attitude towards others, try to think more about others, and naturally someone will be close to you.

Classification and manifestations of interpersonal loneliness.

1.Passive loneliness.

Social psychologists believe that man is a social animal, he likes to be in contact with other people, likes to be with other people, and sucks a tendency to be gregarious. However, there will be one or two classmates in almost every class, although they are eager to socialize with their classmates, hope to be able to integrate into the group, and mingle with everyone, but the classmates around them do not accept him and reject him, and they feel helpless, lonely and bored. "I didn't have any friends at school, I was so depressed at school.

When you are in a bad mood or have been wronged, you can't confide in your good friends like others, you can only keep your words in your heart, or confide in your diary ......I'm most afraid of this loneliness." They are an isolated group, and we call this type of interpersonal loneliness passive loneliness.

2.Active outliers.

In the group, there is often a kind of student who is silent, withdrawn, and detached from the group. In school, they are not interested in all group games and activities, and would rather play alone; In the class, it is the turn of duty, and he always asks for leave under the pretext of excuses, and he is not enthusiastic about the work of the group; In the various evaluations and inspections of the school, the class won honors, and the students were excited, but they seemed indifferent; In the collective, they are always alone, and it is rare for them to speak a word with their classmates.

Some of the students in this group advocate that loneliness and happiness are their own, but they are very painful inside. "I'm a loner. In the eyes of my classmates, I was out of place.

My joy is my own, and so is my loneliness. I don't want to trouble people, and I don't want people to bother me. So, once I cut my wrist and was found out by a female classmate and wrote a letter of exhortation to me, which made me very angry.

I don't want people to come into my ......"Actually, before I cut my wrist, I burned myself with a cigarette butt. I don't smoke, but I like to think about it. Once, I felt very sad, so I subconsciously burned my arm with a cigarette butt until a white opening opened it.

Since then, this behavior has been out of control. ”

3.Autism Autism.

The above two situations are still relatively mild interpersonal loneliness, and they can still live a normal life. When interpersonal loneliness is more severe, we call it autism, also known as autism.

Students with autism exhibit impairment in the following areas:

1) Extreme loneliness, not interested in people and things around him, even unresponsive to relatives, and no emotion on his face.

2) Weakened verbal communication skills, most of the time they remain completely silent and do not talk to the people around them.

3) Stubbornly stick to the same format. Patients cling to the "sameness" of the arrangement of objects, the position of furniture in the room, daily routines, and actions and oppose change. A strong anxiety response occurs when changing circumstances or being exposed to unfamiliar surroundings.

Always repeat a fixed ritual pattern of life.

People who are generally lonely but don't show it are psychologically powerful.

Yu Jie said: "Loneliness is a fence. Only with a fence can you have your own garden. ”

A lonely person always closes his heart, and in front of him, there is an invisible wall that encloses himself, and people from outside can't get in, and he himself is unwilling to go out.

Some people believe that solitude is a pleasure. It is pleasant for a person to be alone for a few days and be alone for a while, and there is a joy of being away from the hustle and bustle. But if a person is lonely for a long time, he will live a very boring life, and even have a feeling of death.

A lonely person often has these few characteristics, see if you have it. Loneliness mainly comes from the depths of the soul, some people regard such feelings as enjoyment, and some people are afraid of such feelings.

1.Stand in the crowd and feel like someone forgotten by the world.

The loneliest time for a person is not when he is alone. Because when you are alone, you take the initiative to leave the bustling ** and live a comfortable life.

When a person is most lonely, there are many people around him, but he can't even find someone to talk to, and he feels forgotten by the world. No one understands what they say, and when they open their mouths, they complain.

When you walk into a strange city, standing in the crowded station square, but you don't have a familiar face, you don't even see a smiling face, are you very lonely?

A lonely person, the more crowded the place, the more lonely he feels, he feels that he is a "superfluous person", and he himself is not willing to take the initiative to integrate into the social family.

2.I live with my phone every day, but when I turn on my phone, I mostly talk to strangers.

Lonely people, when they are bored, just look at their phones and watch them for hours. Maybe he likes to talk to strangers on the Internet, because they are not familiar with each other, they can talk casually, and they can complain. In case the other party can't talk to you, then don't talk and block each other, as if nothing happened.

Lonely people, holding their mobile phones to watch boring **, casually flipping through articles, just be able to pass the time. He didn't think about what he could do with his phone turned on and what his goals were. Sometimes, he also wants to chat with acquaintances, but when he opens WeChat, he suddenly feels that he wants to say everything, he is afraid of disturbing others, and he doesn't want to say what is in his heart.

I just don't like to talk, I don't communicate with people, my circle is very small, and I have very few friends.

Lonely people have few friends.