Ask a psychiatrist for a diagnosis

I understand your mood very well, and I can feel that you love her, and at the same time, I can feel your helplessness about this matter and want to solve this problem, your girlfriend seems to love you more than you, and in addition to loving you, she just has a few more controls, and behind this desire to control is a kind of uneasiness and possession. This requires an understanding of her personal growth history. (Because solving problems cannot be solved by imagination, first-hand information is very important, and the information is limited, so you dare not guess, which is misleading and may affect your relationship.)

As for what you should do, I personally think that how you think about this problem is very important, and if you know why she is in this situation and how to solve it through reacquaintance, this problem is no longer a problem for you. Faced with this problem, it is now you in anxiety, and there is an unwritten rule in the psychological counseling industry: whoever suffers changes it.

In addition, the problem is relative, the person who has the problem does not think it is a problem, it cannot help him, only when he treats the problem as a problem, he can only help him, if he is faced with this problem, who thinks it is a problem, it means that the problem has been created.

Because your girlfriend's current problems have affected you and made you feel uncomfortable, it means that you have to improve your ability to accept, recognize the problem from the heart, understand, accept the problem, and you will be handy when dealing with the problem. The problem will no longer be a problem.

Finally, I would like to explain to you why psychological counseling or psychologists pay more attention to the person who asks the question than to the person who asks the "problem", because the psychologist does not have the ability to fight the cow across the mountain. When facing problems, our attitudes and ways of dealing with them have an impact on the "problem" person, so we pay more attention to your feelings and attitudes and views on the problem at the moment.

I don't know what you think about this sentence: in the face of the problem (this so-called diagnosis sometimes labels the person concerned), it is better to focus on how to solve the problem than on what the problem is.

Go with the flow, you probably already know what to do when you post this post.

Everyone, when they see unfamiliar people and things, they will have different degrees of nervousness. But after a long period of contact, you will naturally adapt and get used to it, in professional terms-desensitization.

This is normal.

However, if you are nervous, flustered, a little socially anxious, or socially phobic, I also suggest you take a look at the following text:

First, in social activities, everyone will have a certain amount of tension and anxiety, which is a normal phenomenon and does not need to be too entangled.

Second, the most substantial and fundamental connotation of interpersonal communication is "exchanging feelings" and "collaborative affairs", so be natural and honest, and don't care too much about some minor details.

Third, use in and out, practice makes perfect, and habit becomes natural. When you first learn to swim or ride, you're probably nervous, but after a long time, it's like playing. Usually communicate and talk with others more (practice your tongue flexibly), experience more events and occasions, and after enriching your social experience, life experience, and social experience, your psychological quality will naturally improve.

Fourth, "failure is the mother of success", we should look at the problem from the perspective of long-term, progress and development, and do not worry too much about temporary performance, good or bad, gains and losses.

Fifth, usually care more about and greet others, appropriately learn some social and etiquette skills, common sense, and do a good job in linguistics, including learning and practicing some polite words and blessing words.

Sixth, from books, periodicals, news, work, and life, to learn and understand the knowledge and common sense of various subjects, industries, including society, life, and other aspects. If you have a wide range of knowledge, a broad view, and an open mind, you will be able to chat and discuss issues with others more well.

Seventh, there should be more outdoor activities and sports at ordinary times, release stress and anxiety, and adjust the physical and mental state.

8. Properly understand some psychological knowledge, understand and use cognition, behavior (including systematic desensitization method, token method, etc.), relaxation, etc.

9. For those with more serious phobias and anxiety disorders, it is recommended to consult a psychologist and consider appropriate medication.

At this time, check the mood in the hospital to find out what the situation is. The front is a more real inspection. It's a peace of mind, because psychological things are not as simple as they seem, so if you want to solve it completely from the heart, you still have to go to the hospital.

This is a normal psychological reaction, because people will always be afraid of unknown people or things, and they don't know how others will react before they speak. There is a sense of relief as soon as the words are spoken, and there is nothing to panic about. So don't worry too much.

I'm not a professional acquaintance, I can help you analyze it:

1. There is relatively little trust, care and understanding between men and women.

Second, it may be that the reason why the woman has been lonely and lonely for a long time has developed a kind of character, and let friends and family members communicate with the woman more, care about it, and change this obstacle of the woman's psychology.

3. The current situation of the husband and wife is very deadlocked, if one party automatically takes a step back and touches the other party with love, care, care, and trust, maybe the result will be better.

In fact, this is a matter for both husband and wife, and either party is responsible.

The unequal status of the two in marriage will cause various problems, especially if the woman is stronger than the man, which will always make the man feel weak. This kind of thing is not easy to solve, it is not solved in one or two sentences, and both parties need to work hard.

The so-called one-day husband and wife are 100 days, if the two can experience the wind and rain together, the twists and turns may change, and then there are children.

You can say yes or no! If so, the woman's nerves are too nervous and she thinks too much! Leads to nervousness, paranoia, and always cares about what others think!

If it is not, it means that the woman cares too much about the man, and always thinks that the man has gone to find the woman! The quarrel is just a woman's hope that her husband cares about her! If you want to treat, let the man care more about the woman, and the woman will be more tolerant of her husband!