How many relationships have you been in so far? Why did they all break up?

Ever since I was a child, I played very well with boys, and I always felt that I was born with the wrong gender. I especially hate girls who cry their noses.,When I was a child, I was the naughty egg who bullied girls.。 When I got older, I gradually learned that there is a difference between men and women, not so crazy, and actually a tomboy at heart.

Especially my bluffing mother, who told me that holding hands with boys would give birth to a baby, scared me so much that I didn't touch boys' hands in junior high school.

Once, the boy in my class was playing with me, and when he was excited, he lifted me up, and inevitably made physical contact, and at that time, I was done. In the end, it was over, and I have always forgotten my mother's smiling face. When I was in junior high school, I was a nerd, except for studying is studying.

I felt that it was a shame to be liked by others, at that time, there was a boy who always liked me in the three years of junior high school, because the junior high school was too likable to the teacher, and the girls in the class didn't like me, and they all secretly said bad things about me behind my back. When a girl says bad things about me to him, he doesn't listen, and says seriously, if you say bad things about her again, I will break off your friendship with you. That fool has always protected me in this way.

In the end, I heard from others that he kept my headsticker. After the high school entrance examination, he gave me a stone with a saying that he liked me. Actually, I already knew, but this is the equivalent of opening up and saying to me, I was a little embarrassed, but I didn't respond.

Thinking about it now, fortunately there was no reaction, otherwise I wouldn't have such good memories. That boy, thank you, thank you for always protecting that skinny little girl, that girl has never forgotten you.

To be honest, I've been in love twice. My first love was in the first year of high school, and I was ignorant at that time, but I already knew what was going on. Maybe because of my personality, the boys in the class have always had a good relationship with me.

He's just a wonderful, he likes me because once he asked me how much, I said hug, he hugged me as soon as his brain was hot, he said that at that time I have always remembered my shyness and surprise at that time. You see, if you like me, it's a wonder, because I'm a wonderful. In the end, I agreed vaguely.

I just remember that my eyes were swollen and ugly, but he came to me after every class to ask me if I was okay and comfort me. This boy saw my ugliest appearance, but he didn't dislike it, his face was full of nervousness and worry. At that moment, I felt that he was reliable.

In the end, although they broke up, they are still good friends.

Among them, I have experienced a lot of ambiguous feelings, but I don't have that feeling anymore. The second time is the feeling that I haven't completely let go of now. He didn't have the intimacy of his first love at all, but I somehow fell in love with him, and in the end, I got tired of taking the initiative and stopped taking the initiative.

People are cheap, he slowly likes me, but I'm going to give up, at this time, neither of us has confessed, it's good that neither of us has confessed, and after being together for a while, it will end up without a problem. If I had to choose again, I wouldn't start this relationship because we were both too selfish to change for each other. All in all, I hope you are doing well.

One was when I was at my saddest, he was with me, but later, he left.

When my parents just divorced, I didn't want to communicate too much with others, I was full of hostility to the world, and I just wanted to stay in my own world.

Gradually, I found that I was not interested in anything, my mood was abnormally low, I couldn't sleep every day, and I liked to look at the black sky, as if it could tolerate all my unhappiness and understand my sadness.

It turned out that I was depressed, I didn't want to talk every day, and when I saw something that didn't go my way, my mood would be wrong.

If you say, "During the period when I was suffering from depression, he was the person I was most grateful for, and he was the person I hated the most."

He said, "I like you, I feel like you've appeared in my dreams, don't you think we have an inexplicable sense of familiarity?" I like you and I want to be friends with you".

The big boy in front of me, wearing white half-sleeves and jeans, smiled so sunny, I finally saw the light and saw hope.

I said, "Okay, but I'm a little bit of a bad temper."

I'm emotionally unstable, so I occasionally mess with him, but every time after the trouble, I regret it very much, and I'm afraid that he will leave, so I will apologize to him, saying "I was wrong, next time I won't do this, don't be angry, okay".

At that time, he said, "You are not angry, you are a debt I owe in my last life, and I have to pay it in this life, so I will not leave you."

On that day, I wrote in my diary, "It turns out that I can also be a girl who has someone to love."

Actually, I am mentally prepared for your departure, after all, I am a girl and not worth your effort.

Sometimes, I can't stand my emotions myself, it can't tell when it will be **, the uncertainty of my emotions makes me extremely irritable, and occasionally I think about taking a knife and slashing twice on my arm.

You see the scars on your arms and you say, "How can you be so yourself?" Seeing your surprised look, I said, "I won't hurt you, I just want to engrave your name".

You say "you're horrible".

At that time, I knew that you were leaving.

Sure enough, it didn't take long for you to say "I can't stand you anymore, let's break up".

You know what? In fact, many times, I don't want to do that, I want to be with you well, like a normal person, but I can't do it, and I like you so much.

You know what? In the six months after you left, I shed tears every time I thought of you, but I couldn't be too selfish.

You know what? After you left, my depression got worse again.

You said, "You want to be my little sun, to light the way ahead of me, but now, what about you!" ”。

But I am still very grateful to you for that time when you were with you.

But at the same time, I hate you so much that I want to kill you with my own hands, and we will die together, okay?

Two days ago, I told my friends about you, only to find out that the person who said: I want to remember you for a lifetime, now I can't remember what you look like, which is good, after all, those times have passed, and I hope we are all good now.

After all, you were once the little sun in my world.

I haven't talked about a single one.

I talked twice, with my first love, because I was too naïve, disobedient, and had conflicts, I quarreled 6 times a month, and in the end, she didn't forgive me anymore. It broke her heart, and I have a long memory. Talk and do things well in the future.

It's still my first love, my current girlfriend.

This is because two people don't feel when they get along with each other, or they are unwilling to compromise when they encounter some real problems.

In life, we find that some couples have been in love for a long time, but they finally broke up, such a relationship is regrettable, so why does this happen? I think the reasons are probably as follows:

Before we fell in love, we didn't know a person very well, and when we saw each other, we saw his strengths, and he was very attractive to us at that time.

But two people have been together for a long time, and they already know each other well enough. The other party has no charm for them anymore.

And some people are also tired of the feeling of being two people together. So in such a state, the other party is dispensable for him.

And when two people get along, they will also encounter some problems。Because they don't care so much about each other anymore, they can easily say break up when they encounter problems.

People will like the new and hate the old, they have been with each other for a long time, and they no longer love each other. When they see someone they like better, they may empathize.

When two people get along when they are in love, hello and me. But when it comes to talking about marriage, they will encounter some practical problems. Faced with these realities, they were unwilling to compromise and eventually broke up.

Many of those who have been in love for a long time end up breaking up, and in the final analysis, it is the final words that cause contradictions, and then do not resolve these contradictions, and finally break up.

Those who have been in love for a long time, but finally broke up, There are many reasons, such as the disagreement of the three views, such as the family incompatibility, such as the door is not the right household.

Because they have been together for a long time, their feelings have faded, so those who have been in love for a long time finally broke up.

Because the contradiction between two people is very deep, but if two people break up, they are also very reluctant, and in the end, they will eventually break up because of some things.

Many people feel that the other party can't meet their material conditions at all, and the other party will not give them a bride price for the garage. So in the end, they will break up.

Because there are many people who don't take their feelings very seriously, they will only have a playful mentality, so this situation will occur.

Generally speaking, it is two people who no longer love each other. Lack of trust and other reasons can cause.

This question has a different answer for everyone. However, if I were asked to ask this question, I would not hesitate to say, "No, I won't." ”

Everyone in a relationship wants their relationship to last a long time, but the reality is often cruel. Sometimes, we meet people who, while we like them, know that the relationship will eventually break up. At this time, should we continue to fall in love?

I think that if we know that the relationship will eventually break up, then we should end the relationship as soon as possible. Because, knowing that we are going to break up with love and arguing will only make us more miserable. We will invest a lot of time and energy in the relationship, but in the end we will not get anything in return.

We get stuck in a cycle of pain from which we can't extricate ourselves.

In addition, a relationship that we know is going to break up can also cause great damage to our psyche. When we know that there is no future in the relationship, our psychological state can become very unstable. We can feel very anxious and uneasy, and it will even affect our work and study.

This psychological burden can make us feel very tired, which can ultimately affect our physical and mental health.

Therefore, I don't think you should be in a relationship that you know you are going to break up. While this relationship may make us feel very good, we will eventually face the pain of a breakup. Therefore, we should cherish our time and energy and find the person who really belongs to us.

Only in this way can we find true happiness.

If it were me, I wouldn't be willing to have a relationship that I knew I was going to break up. Because in such a situation, we have already predetermined the ending of the breakup, then the time and energy we invested in the process of this relationship, as well as the emotional effort and damage, will become meaningless.

Although sometimes we may feel that a short-term relationship is better than loneliness, if we know that the relationship will not last, then we cannot promise any future to the other partner, nor can we bring true happiness and fulfillment to the other person. In addition, out of respect for ourselves and each other, we should avoid starting a relationship in a situation where we know we are going to break up, but instead face the reality bravely and look for options that are more suitable for us.

Of course, everyone's thoughts and values are different, and it is understandable if someone thinks that they are willing to have a relationship even if they know they are going to break up. But for me personally, I prefer to build a solid relationship with someone who truly values and appreciates me, based on mutual trust and commitment.

From a scientific point of view, this phenomenon is a natural metabolism of Huaizhou Hall.

There are four main reasons for this.

To be more specific, it's tired of each other, unmotivated, inflated with shortcomings, and without a future.

First of all, because they have been talking for too long, they are becoming more and more familiar with each other, less and less fresh, and even tired of each other.

The other party's personality, living environment, and future planning are already very clear, and there is no trace of any curiosity, and even each other has begun to get tired of it, know everything about the other party, and begin to be aesthetically fatigued.

It is human nature to like the new and hate the old, if you have been in love for too long, or even years, it will be difficult for two people to come together in the end, and it is easy to break up because of some small problems.

Therefore, it is best to keep the love time for half a year to a year, and then get married, so that two people can maintain a certain vitality in love and married life.

The second is that the relationship has not entered a state of complementarity, one party continues to give, and the other party just enjoys it, and will not and is unwilling to give.

After a long time, the party who pays will feel particularly tired, will deeply doubt the other party's feelings for themselves, and will increasingly have no sense of identity and confidence in this relationship, and it is easy to break up because of some trivial things.

In the end, to be able to come together, it is necessary for two people to go both ways, work together, and continue to pay for two people in order to maintain the relationship between two people, so that the tree of love grows higher and higher, and the flower of love becomes more and more beautiful.

In addition, the longer you are in love, the more clearly you can see each other, and the advantages of the other party are less and less felt, but the shortcomings continue to expand.

Everyone has this habit, and they never see the advantages of their friends, but they take the shortcomings of the people around them very seriously.

Two people have been together for a long time, and each other's shortcomings are becoming more and more important in their hearts, and when they think about it, they feel very stressed, and they feel that if two people are together in the future, they will sometimes give up.

Keep your distance, there is a certain sense of mystery, maybe the other party has the patience to be with you.

In the end, two people have been together for a long time, and they have paid too much affection and time, but the other party is too selfish and doesn't want to be responsible at all, just want to enjoy the sweetness of love, and don't want to bear the burden of marriage.

If you have been in love for a long time without any results, and the other party is unwilling to give you the future you want, it is easy to lead to a breakup.

The purpose of love, most boys and girls, want to be able to form a happy family, not just blindly self-conscious. If the other partner is reluctant to get married, many girls will eventually give up on the relationship.