When do you feel inferior because of your failures?

As the old saying goes, victory and defeat are a common thing in soldiers. For everyone, there will be unsatisfactory things in life, and there will also be failures. This is normal, no one's life is smooth sailing. On the contrary, it is only by experiencing setbacks that you can transform into a more successful version of yourself. <>

In my case, I also have times when I have failures, and I have times when I have low self-esteem because of failures. I have low self-esteem, usually during group activities. For example, one of the things I remember most vividly was when we had a soccer game in high school.

I was the main player of our team, and we have been preparing for this game for a long time, fighting all the way to the final. But it's as if Heaven is not doing justice to us. We didn't play as easily as we did in the previous games, but we kept chasing them all the way.

The drama was because of my negligence and mistakes, we could have won the game with an away goal advantage but I missed the chance. At the moment of the final whistle, I felt as if I was being laughed at by everyone on the sidelines. That was the first time I felt inferior because of my failure.

I feel inferior in the face of failure, and in one case, I make mistakes in some simple things and feel inferior. To be precise, it should not be inferiority, but self-blame, for example, in a high school mock test, when the whole class said that the test paper was simple, only I felt that I couldn't do it. It was sad at this time, and for me at that time, I longed to find a small corner to shrink up and not let myself be discovered.

In fact, now that I think about it, I suddenly feel that I shouldn't be so inferior at the beginning. It doesn't matter if you lose the game, it may be that your skills are not up to par, just come back and practice more. Some of the questions in the exam will not be able to make up.

At this time, I realized that failure is not terrible, why should I have low self-esteem.

I'm not a person who has low self-esteem. I've always been optimistic and cheerful, but not all the moments make me feel confident and generous. The moment I remember feeling inferior because of my failure was something that happened when I was a student. Now I'm going to tell you my story.

I still remember the youth and immaturity of high school, and I still remember the love that ended in high school. You always say that if you fall in love with someone, you will put your posture very low. I think I must have been like that when I was back then. Becoming inferior and sensitive because of falling in love with someone.

Liking someone is not only a joy but also an inferiority complex, which was the case at that time. I fell in love with a boy in my class. The two of us ended up at the same table by accident.

He is a top student, and he can be excellent in all aspects even if he doesn't have to work hard. And I'm the kind of middle school student who doesn't get good grades even though he studies hard. <>

Although my grades were not very good before, I never considered myself to be poor and did not have an inferiority complex. But for the first time in my life, I felt inferior. It was a mock exam, and I still had the same math as usual, and I didn't pass.

But then he asked me, how did you do in the exam? At this time, the inferiority complex that I had never felt before suddenly came to my heart, I felt ashamed and embarrassed, thinking of how I could be worthy of such a bad him, and gradually my eyes turned red and I cried.

For the first time, I realized that failure was such a painful and inferior-feeling thing. Perhaps most people who have loved someone will have the same mentality as me. Feeling inferior for failure because of a person.

That's probably what most people say. Love, that's how humble it is. I don't know if you'll have the same experience as me, but it's a personal experience.

I feel like life is stressfulThe more inferior you are, the more you fail, and the more you fail, the more inferior you are, and there are other reasons, such as:

To be honest, I don't aspire to such a lifeIt's a desperate way of life. Nothing appeals to me except freshness and boldness, and the thought of possible troubles is actually a burden. But when I read the beginning of the second chapter of Minimalism, I was sure of one thing - the author of this article had to be someone with a deep understanding of minimalism, at least not a young man who would only impress.

Minimalism is used to enrich life, not to be ascetic.

Just like the sharing economy that has become popular recently, many people think that with so many idle resources in their hands, why can't they be reallocated to generate economic benefits? Then there is a lot of O2O sharing economy, such as sharing household tools, washing feet, washing clothes, and manicures, ......But so far there have been few successful examples: Airbnb for short-term rentals, Didi and Uber for ride-hailing, and Mobike for cycling.

They succeed because they create new **, not consume inventory. For example, some people buy cars to make Didi. Mobik's bikes are all made by themselves, and they don't get thrown out on the street because of damaged car parts.

Airbnb's home rentals have increased the demand for overseas travel.

What kind of person you can become, your values and goals are very importantGoals give you a destination, and values help you revise your goals and make sure you don't go astray. The gap between people and people will become very large with the passage of time. Why do you give up something to improve your life?

In my opinion, keeping the house tidy and tidy also brings happiness. The author categorically denies this point of view, saying that simple things can not only bring a good life, but also a burden. So I feel that life is stressful, so the more I feel inferior, the more I fail, and the more I fail, the more inferior I become.

I think it's a psychological reason. Psychologically, the girl in the anime is a typical inferiority complex. The Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler once defined inferiority in his book "Inferiority and Transcendence" in this way:

When a person is faced with a problem that cannot be solved for the time being, he tends to think that he will never be able to solve the problem. The mood at this time is inferior.

In other words, low self-esteem is actually an amplification of personal defects or lack of ability, which forms the inertia of thinking. This inertia is like a chain that closes every possible door of lifeTightly bind people to narrow relationships and poor emotional experiences. Low self-esteem is the natural enemy of realizing one's personal worth.

We should strive for change.

In our lives, we often hear others denying themselves: "You're not good enough. You can't.

You're a loser. ”However, what matters is not what others think of you, but how you accept them. If all your value judgments come from other people's point of view, then every time you accept a negative, you add a shackle.

As time went on, he was overwhelmed. Some people are normal on the surface, but in reality they often lock themselves in dark corners of their hearts. Others can't get in, can't get out.

American psychologist Seligman once put forward a concept - "learned helplessness", which refers to a hopeless behavior and a psychological state of reality formed in repetitive behavior.

We often encounter similar phenomena in our lives. After multiple failures, we don't choose to try or change, but let it evolve. In fact, for the most part, we are not "really can't", but are in a "learned helplessness" mentality.

This mentality allows people to set up their own obstacles, blame their failures on their own constant factors, and give up the courage and confidence to keep trying. I think it's a psychological reason.

Because life is so stressful.

Because the mentality of low self-esteem will lead to failure, be confident.

Other people's boyfriends are all going to be ready for a lot of little surprises.

Maybe it's because they will have a little low self-esteem.

Mainly, because the pressure of life is really huge.

Low self-esteem: lack of self-confidence, feeling that you can't do anything, feeling that you can't do anything, being timid and cowardly, afraid of things and afraid of facing all difficulties. This is bound to fail.

Conceit: self-righteous, arrogant, and no one in sight, in this way, you will not be humble in learning, you will not be calm in trouble, and you will make others disgusted and unpopular. Such a person who does not learn and has no skills, is arrogant, arrogant and ignorant, will naturally fail.

People who have low self-esteem to the extreme will be conceited. There is no confidence in anything, depression, failure is inevitable.

Because low self-esteem and conceit are the same thing, both are telling God that you get more than you deserve

Low self-esteem may be due to not knowing yourself and others well. Calm down and slowly look at the life of the people around you, don't be too yourself, try to be an ordinary person, allow yourself to be an ordinary person, you are an ordinary person in the first place. Attentively look at the gains and losses of others, and gain experience from them.

Step by step, you will see a different version of yours.

Practice well, and when you practice your skills, you will have a chance to perform, but now the main thing is that your skills are not enough.

If we always think about failure, of course, we will feel that our life is a special failure, and over time we will have an inferiority complex.

I feel that because of low self-esteem, I have lost a lot of opportunities, every time I carry a lot of things, I want to do it in my heart, but I don't dare to raise my hand, and I don't dare to have a chance to show myself to take the initiative to find opportunities, because I lack more opportunities to exercise myself, become more introverted, and have more inferiority.

When I was young, I had low self-esteem, and when many friends around me came to play with me, I would ignore them, so I had few friends around me, which was also the thing I regretted the most. So after that, I changed my lifestyle.

Lost a chance to love.

If I am young and do not feel inferior, I know what is precious.

If I didn't feel inferior at the beginning, I might have taken a step forward and walked into happiness.

The truth is that I took a step back and lost a chance not to come back.

Because of low self-esteem, I rejected a boy who liked me and I could also like him, because I was too inferior, I felt that I should not be worthy of him, and when he confessed to me, I was very happy that it was the first feeling, and then I felt that I was not worthy of him, and then I never looked for him again.

I once lost an opportunity to be a student union officer because of low self-esteem. I had to go to an interview to select a cadre, but because I had a serious inferiority complex, I lost the opportunity to do so. It's a shame to look back on it now.

So now I think that people should have full confidence in themselves, so that they can live a wonderful life!

Because of my low self-esteem, I lost a lot of opportunities, once there was a party, the teacher saw that I looked good, and the sound quality was also very good, recommended me to sing on stage, but because of low self-esteem and shyness, I ran away, resulting in the loss of that good performance opportunity.

Because of low self-esteem, I lost my love.

I used to like someone, he was very good, he studied well, he was handsome, and he could dance. I always felt that I was not worthy of him, so I put this feeling in my heart and kept silently guarding him. It wasn't until he had someone he liked that I completely let go of this feeling.