How to educate Dabao and Erbao to get along with each other?

First of all, parents can not be partial, must not let two people compete for favor, can tell the baby that both of you are equally important in the hearts of parents, we are a family, so you should also be united and friendly.

Correctly guide Dabao, Erbao is her dearest person in this world besides her parents. Tell Dabao that he is his own relative, he must protect him, and sometimes he has to let Erbao, Erbao is still too young to grab things with Erbao, and when he grows up, he knows that he will also let his brother or sister.

It is to let the two babies interact with each other and do more games, so that they can get closer to each other.

The first point is that parents should integrate the feelings of Dabao and Erbao in order to make them get along amicably, the second point is that the two children should be given the most complete care of this kind, so that the children can get along very happily, and the third point is that the two children should be cultivated The concept of family affection should be cultivated, so that they can get along very well.

In fact, it is not difficult to live in harmony between the two treasures, it depends on how the parents guide.

Respect Dabao's thoughts.

There is a phenomenon in psychology called "sibling rivalry", which refers to the fact that Dabao will become hostile to the younger siblings in his mother's womb, and is afraid that the love of his parents will be taken away by his younger siblings.

Parents can ask Dabao's opinion and ask him if he wants a playmate? Do you want to experience what it's like to be the "boss"? Parents should tell Dabao that even if the second treasure is born, Dabao's love will not be deprived, because Dabao is always the baby born by the mother in October, and the parents will need Dabao to take care of the baby together, so that Dabao knows the importance of responsibility and also understands the respect of parents for themselves.

Let Dabao participate in the mother's conception process.

Parents should share the joy of Dabao's pregnancy, tell Dabao what the fetus in Dabao's womb looks like now, what Dabao used to look like in his mother's womb, how hard the mother worked when she was pregnant, and how naughty the baby was.

After my brother is born, you have to help your mother teach him well, you can't make him as naughty as you, understand? Such a topic will bring Dabao into the joy of welcoming a new life, and Ginshu Sakura will not feel "isolated" by her parents.

Don't discriminate in life.

Many second-child mothers will put "you are big, let the small" on the lips, although the original intention is to cultivate Dabao's sense of responsibility and humility, but it will make Dabao alienated from the family, feeling that parents only care about Erbao but ignore themselves, in the long run, they will be dissatisfied, not only will not take care of their younger siblings, but also jealousy and hatred. Therefore, parents should try their best to treat everyone equally in life, and a bowl of water is even, so that Dabao does not have a psychological gap.

Plug the mouths of the "three aunts and six women".

I remember when I was a child, my neighbor's grandmother always said to me: "Fortunately, now each family can only have one, or your mother will have another brother, she will not care about you and send you to Fengcong to be raised by others." Then he looked at me with a smile and cried.

Now that the two-child policy has been liberalized, the rhetoric of this kind of three aunts and six mothers-in-law has also changed: "Your mother won't love you anymore after giving birth to a younger brother", and then still watched Dabao cry in panic, psychologically getting the satisfaction of bullying vulnerable groups. It can't be said that this kind of person has a bad heart, but it is definitely not kind, and such a person will always surround you.

When someone else says, "Your mother won't love you after giving birth to a younger brother", parents should stop it immediately, warn the other party not to talk nonsense to the child, and then give the child a "reassuring pill", telling the child that no matter when, his parents love him, and he is the most important thing to his parents. The attitude of his parents will make Dabao believe that no matter when, his parents will hold him in the palm of their hands.

If parents can treat their children equally and create a harmonious family environment, children will naturally feel the warmth of the family and establish a dependence on each other.

Educating two children is indeed a challenging task, but with the right methods, a good family relationship can be established between Dabao and Erbao. Here are some practical tips:

1.Encourage Dabao to show his strengths and works in front of Erbao.

This allows Dabao to feel his own achievements and value, and at the same time, it can also make Erbao feel Dabao's strengths and abilities, so as to establish a relationship of mutual respect and appreciation.

2.Cultivate Dabao's sense of responsibility and the awareness of taking care of Erbao.

Dabao can exert his sense of responsibility and caring ability in the process of taking care of Erbao, such as helping with breastfeeding, changing diapers, etc. This can make Dabao feel family responsibility and love, and at the same time, it can also make Erbao feel Dabao's care and love.

3.Respect Dabao's feelings and needs.

In the process of taking care of the foundation and void foundation of the two treasures, we also need to respect the feelings and needs of the great treasures. For example, if Dabao has his own things to do, we can't force him to take care of Erbao. This can make Dabao feel his rights and dignity, and at the same time, it can also make him more willing to participate in the process of taking care of Erbao.

4.Establish the interaction and exchange between Dabao and Erbao.

The interaction and communication between Dabao and Erbao is very important. We can encourage Dabao and Erbao to play, study together, or participate in family activities together. This allows them to build a relationship of mutual trust and understanding, which leads to more enjoyable growth.

5.Give equal attention and love to Dabao and Erbao.

Finally, we need to give equal attention and love to the Great Treasure and the Second Treasure. This can make him feel the warmth and love of the honored family, so that he can grow up healthier and happier.

In short, educating two children requires us to master the right methods and attitudes. We need to respect their individuality and needs, and we need to give them enough attention and love. Only in this way can we establish a good family relationship between Dabao and Erbao and grow and develop together.

1. Give the same love to Dabao and Erbao.

Don't ignore the big treasure because you have the two treasures, and you can't despise the two treasures because you already have the big treasures. Both children are treasures in the hands of mom and dad, and we want to give them the same love.

Children's hearts are also extremely sensitive, and parents should pay attention to reassuring them.

2. Respect and understand every child.

Children's hearts are really very sensitive, they are more delicate than us, if they have any "small emotions", parents should carefully observe, and dredge and guide.

Many times, children will feel the respect of their parents, and they will understand their parents and siblings better.

3. Don't compare the big treasure with the second treasure.

When we were children, our parents often compared them to the children next door, so that when we grew up, we still had nostalgia for other people's children. Therefore, we must not compare Dabao and Erbao, which will increase the friction between the two children and affect the relationship between the children.

4. Guide the two treasures to share with each other, but do not force them.

With two children at home, there will always be something to share or borrow from each other. At this time, it is natural for parents to think that the two treasures should be shared with each other, but the children's hearts do not think so. Therefore, parents can only guide them to share with each other, and cannot force them, otherwise they will hurt the child who gives and the child who pampers them.

5. Praise Dabao and Erbao in a timely manner.

Both adults and children love to hear praise. If Dabao or Erbao has done well, and the two can get along harmoniously, parents should praise them in time.

Praise is also skillful! This praise should be noted by indicating which behavior the child is praising and not just personally.

6. Mom and Dad apologize in time for making mistakes.

People are not saints and sages, and adults and children can make mistakes. If parents want their children to correct their mistakes, they should apologize to them in time when they make mistakes.

Parents who have the courage to admit their mistakes will set a good example for their children, and children will be more willing to confide in their parents.

Precautions: It is a long process for Dabao and Erbao to fall in love with each other, and it cannot be achieved overnight. Mom and Dad must not be partial, and give the same love to their children.

Since the opening of the two-child policy, many families have joined the ranks of wanting a second child. Many people are very happy with the opening of the two-child policy, but some families also have a situation where the two children of the second child do not get along. Recently, there is a mother in the Bao Ma group who told everyone about her troubles, because the boss always bullies Min Rang's second child, and the two often fight.

This is a problem faced by many second-child families. In some families, the children have a good relationship, while in other families the two children often fight. Therefore, how to promote the relationship between the two children in the family is indeed a problem.

So what do parents do?

First, don't compare two children.

When parents deal with the problems of their two children, they must first start with themselves. Face the two babies with the right mindset. Some parents can't help but make some comparisons between the appearance and personality of their two children, such as:

The elder brother's eyes are bigger, the younger brother doesn't like to be noisy, etc. Although this is a knee-jerk comparison, the process of comparison may cause unconscious harm. Over time, parents will favor one side or the other, exacerbating the children's conflicts.

Therefore, parents should put an end to this type of comparison, describe it objectively, affirm the child positively, and see more of the strengths of the two children.

Second, avoid eccentricity.

Fairness is the principle and the most effective way to deal with conflicts between two children. However, many parents find it difficult to achieve a bowl of water when dealing with their children's relationships. Partiality towards one child can cause great psychological trauma to another child over time.

Therefore, parents should fully accept their children's strengths and weaknesses, look at their children's strengths with an appreciative eye, and treat their problems objectively. Otherwise, turning a blind eye to one parent may cause the other child to fall into an inferiority complex, and he will not like to play with the other child even more. For example, when the two children quarrel, figure out the whole process of the matter, objectively analyze the two children's ** is wrong, apologize for what is wrong, and then comfort the two children and let them shake hands and make peace.

Third, teach children to learn to share.

In many families, the two children do not get along well, which is mainly manifested in the fact that the two people are not humble to each other, occupy their own things and do not share them with others. In dealing with such problems, parents should first teach their two children the blessings of sharing in each other. You can tell them stories about humility, such as Xing Nakai saying that Kong Rong made pears and taught them the virtue of humility.

Buy different toys when buying toys for two children and tell them to play differently. You can usually do more parent-child games with the children, and let the two children play in a group and play cooperatively, which can promote the relationship between them.

When two children don't get along, mothers must not panic. When dealing with this kind of problem, mothers must care for their children a lot, set an example, treat their two children fairly, and help them grow together.

I think that a family with two children at home, it is impossible to have a bowl of water in it, and sometimes when you are already doing it fairly, the children will think that it is unfair to them and have a biased behavior, so if there are two children at home, you should still care more about them, take care of them, and accompany them.

There are two children at home, how to get along.

1. Treat fairly and be reasonable in everything.

Treating the two children fairly will make the children feel that the parents are not partial, and the parents' words and practices are convincing. In the hearts of children, they will regard fairness and justice as very important, and they will carefully measure whether parents treat them equally by the punishment they use when they make mistakes and the rewards they receive for doing good work, for example, when the children have taken the first place in the class, the family respects and judges one child materially, and only verbally praises the other child, which can easily make the other child feel unbalanced and think that the parents are biased.

2. When you encounter something you can't decide, you can solve it with a coin toss.

When two children are arguing and the parents are unable to decisively decide who is right and who is wrong, it is a good idea to use the oldest method of coin toss to decide who apologizes to whom, or who compromises to whom. Although this method is random, it is a fair way for children to make decisions, they cannot cheat, and they will not be angry with their parents regardless of the outcome. And the way of tossing a coin is interesting and challenging, which can stimulate children's curiosity and playfulness, and perhaps in the process of tossing a coin, children will throw away the dispute just now and play again.

3. Praise children who perform well in a timely manner.

In the process of growing up of the two children, in order for the children to grow up healthily and form good behavior habits, parents should carry forward the education method of keeping up with the good. For example, if there is a strong point in one member of the family, everyone should learn together. For competitive children, parents can also use this method to educate them, instead of blindly repeating "Erbao is still young, you have to let him", or "Dabao is older than you, you have to listen to Dabao" and so on.

This paternalistic approach can easily turn children off. Parents should praise a child in front of another child when they are doing well, so that the children can become better and better in learning from each other, and in this process, parents need to do no matter which child performs well, they should praise in time.