I know how to play every day now. The work is also unstable. And the family is always urging to get

Make money, or it will be painful if you don't get married.

Men should mature before getting married. Either you're going to be miserable.

Parents urging marriage is a kind of care for you, of course, as a party, you must adjust your mentality, you can't be bound by this kind of care, you have to think clearly about the truest thoughts in your heart, just follow your heart.

Adjust your mindset. Under normal circumstances, young people are in the prime of their youth, which is the best period for working hard for their careers, and many people are too busy to have time to fall in love, which is understandable. But you should also understand that love and marriage is a life baptism that most people need to experience, which can allow you to better balance work and life, after all, everyone works hard for a better life, not for work.

Maintain good communication. Don't exclude your parents' urging to marry, they just care more about you, with a not very appropriate expression, parents are always your warmest harbor, the most solid pillar, you can communicate well with your parents, tell them the truest thoughts in your heart, tell them the criteria for choosing a mate in love, let them help them make suggestions, not help, these are very important, to create the most harmonious environment.

Follow your heart. Everyone's life is unique, and they also have their own maverick ideas, think about what you want? Then take the initiative, this can be learned from Western countries, men and women are equal in love, they are evenly matched, everyone has the right to be brave enough to say love, and they all have the freedom to wave goodbye, to respect the most authentic voice in their hearts, and choose a soul mate who can make themselves better.

Urging marriage has always been a kind of hope for parents, a kind of care, a kind of protection, and children should repay more with a tolerant mentality and think clearly about what they want? Follow your heart, be an independent and confident person, and live your own wonderful life bravely.

The level is limited. You can urge them to ship.

During the period when the work is not stable, it should be the time to perform well, this period is regarded as the company's inspection stage for you, and the leader and the company are determined by your performance. Maybe it's because of my personality, it's too good and strong, but I think that to do a job, you have to be perfect and recognized by the leaders. Getting married is so cumbersome, you have to worry about a lot of things, and work will definitely be distracting.

Busy with career first and then get married, now young people are almost all kind of ideas, young people should have a pursuit, and have momentum. If you finally have a job that suits you, you should devote yourself to it.

And your current situation, the current work situation may not be well understood by your parents, don't blindly go against your parents, but based on the facts, explain to your parents the situation you are working now, the direction of your efforts, and wait for a stable job and not a business, it won't take long. It's not that you don't get married, you can divide things into a sequence first, and then consider getting married after the work is stable in two or three months, which is also a kind of responsibility for the marriage partner. You can negotiate a later date with your parents, so that you may be more willing to believe and compromise on a certain time and date.

You can also talk to your significant other and explain the situation to her, and the two people who love each other should be more understanding of each other. It should be more convincing to try to get her consent first, so that the two parties who want to marry together should make a decision to marry later. Even if your parents don't understand, they won't give another death order right now, because even if they don't give you face, they still have to take care of who you are marrying.

In terms of attitude, it is easy to relax first, and then slowly talk about moving.

If you can't make sense, then you can only accept your fate, obediently get married first, the so-called first start a family and then start a business, and there is a place for you to show your strength.

Of course, you have to work hard first to stabilize all aspects of your work.

In fact, parents are good for their children, as long as what you say is really good for your own development, I believe that as a parent, they will understand you. He may not be so forced to do that you must get married now. Hoping that you get married is also hoping that you will have a good life, and if you express to her that you will find a partner after you have worked, you may be better off.

He will respect your wishes, and parents generally don't embarrass their children too much, but maybe the way they care about them will make us a little embarrassed, but parents are reasonable.

I have a friend's sister, she is 25 years old, she is not very old, and she has only been working for a year or two, her job is not particularly stable, and there are still many things to struggle. But her mother urged her to find someone to marry every Chinese New Year, and said that otherwise, who would want you when you are 30 years old. Her mother may have spoken with a bit of a joking tone in it, and she was not particularly urging her to get married.

Then my friend's sister said to her mother, Mom, I haven't had a stable job yet, I'm looking for someone to marry as soon as possible, what are I doing, do I have to rely on the man to support me? I still want to be able to do what I want to do, and then I can settle down.

It turned out to be, of course, that her mom was very understanding and supportive of his decision.

Therefore, if the family members have been urging you to get married when you have not stabilized yourself, you must try to communicate with them, don't lose your temper at the beginning, because this may make the problem worse, and if you do communicate with them, you may get a result that you want.

Under normal circumstances, the family is urging you to get married because many of the people next to you are married, or some even have children. So your parents will be very nervous, afraid that you yourself are not taking this matter to heart. That's why I keep urging you.

But you yourself know your current situation, whether you have the capital to get married now, and whether you have found someone you want to live with. So don't be led by your family. After all, you are the one who marries, and you are the one who lives.

If you haven't been fully prepared and get married like this, in a hurry, then it will definitely not work.

It's really true that many people in real life get married without being ready, you can refer to their endings, and you will know what you should do. If you are a woman, you don't have a stable job, then you must have to give in to the man many times, you have to make huge sacrifices, just imagine, if a woman, even the economy is not independent, every day to ask her husband for money, do you want such a life? Life needs to be created by yourself, so why not let yourself have some capital?

But as a woman, you will definitely be a little less stressed financially in your life.

But if you are a man, you don't have a stable job, and if the family buys you a house, then it's okay. If you don't have a house, you must get married and you have a new house, and you don't have a fixed economy, so how can you pay off the car loan and how to support your family. There are many times in family life that will destroy some of your confidence, why choose to step into such a swamp early.

It's better to strengthen yourself first, regardless of men and women, let yourself have a very strong strength, and find someone to be happy together.

If you don't want to get married now, then you should talk to your parents about it. Say what you think in your heart, you don't want to get married and your own career is not stable yet, they will definitely understand you!

When you encounter such a situation, you should talk to your parents and talk about you. Your own thoughts, sometimes they don't understand you, in fact, you have your own reasons, if you yourself are not willing to explain it to your parents then they will not understand you, so it is normal for you to urge marriage!

Parents are old, their biggest wish is to see their children can be happy, if their children can not get Xinfu then they don't care about happy, so in their hearts the greatest wish is to look at you Xinfu They will be more down-to-earth, for the parents of this small wish you should also cheer, it is best to meet the wishes of parents as soon as possible! Your biggest obstacle now is your own career, your career has not stabilized, you can also find a suitable partner first, and cultivate the relationship between you while working, so that you will not be embarrassed when you get married in the future! If you are already in love, your parents will not urge you to marry anymore when they see that you have a partner, so that you can be quiet for a while, no longer hear the nagging of your parents, and you can quietly do the things on your work, and when the work is stable, it is not too late to get married!

But you still have to comfort your parents more, after all, how much they want to watch you get married and have children as soon as possible, and it's not a good idea to keep delaying, so for the sake of your own happiness, you should fall in love more during the early period of falling in love, and it's not too late to get married when your work is stable in the later stage!

In fact, now we are facing such a situation, I have just graduated not for too long, and my job is not very stable, but every time I come home, the family's economy will ask you why you are not married? And because our family is rural, my sister or sister got married very early. And in their impression, if you already have a boyfriend, you should get married as soon as possible, otherwise they will think that the man dislikes you?

Or is it because the man's parents don't agree with you getting married, so he hasn't gotten married?

Our relatives think like this, so I don't bother to go home every holiday, it's particularly annoying. But I don't think so, because I just graduated not long ago, and I'm in the same situation as me, we are not actually financially independent, so it is too early to get married, and we have only been in a relationship for more than a year, and we don't know each other well enough. There's no need to get married in such a hurry.

So I don't understand what my family thinks.

But fortunately, my mom supported my idea, otherwise I would have really collapsed. So every time I hear about my relatives urging me to get married, I laugh and don't argue with them, just that it's still too early and not in a hurry. Because I don't know what to say to them, and I think we may not be on the same level of thinking, and we may not understand what we say, and it may increase the quarrel.

So before I had a stable job, no matter who asked me, I would always ignore it. After all, life is your own now, as long as you do a good job and plan for the future.

You can discuss it with your family, saying that you are not yet able and ready to get married, and you tell your family that you will wait until your career is successful before you consider getting married, and I believe that your family will understand you.

You can have a good chat with your family, and if you want to make yourself better, you will meet better people.

Most parents want their children to get married and then hold their grandchildren, so why don't they have more children. That's how life is!

This is not the case for a small percentage of parents. It's better to be an animal than to be a human!

Parents urging marriage are like a knife stuck in the hearts of their children.