About my son s mental health issues

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and each child has his or her own unique personality. However, at the age of 15, it is a more sensitive age, the child begins to need more knowledge, care and respect, and he is beginning to really realize that he wants to become an adult, an independent adult, and his self-esteem begins to be more sensitive than ever. At this time, parents must not just beat and scold their children, why, how to reprimand their children during this period, for example, why are you so ignorant, why are you so stupid, etc., will make children lose self-confidence, including the teachers in the current school.

How can a child who is not believed and respected by his parents and teachers believe and respect himself? Parents, teachers occupy such an important place in his life, and he must be very inferior to being looked down upon by such important people. And a person with low self-esteem cannot have a positive attitude, and it is inevitable to sigh all day long.

But his heart does not allow him to be so inferior, and he can only proudly realize his fragile self-esteem through one way, that is, rebellion. This kind of rebellion is a blind opposition to the emotional reaction that parents say, and he uses it to deceive himself into thinking that he has the ability to stand up to his parents and teachers. In fact, what he needs is care, and real, thinking and help from his point of view.

He has no way out, and sometimes he has to vent his frustration with anger, which is both dissatisfied with his parents' lack of care about him, but also dissatisfied with his own incompetence, and he is exhausted from falling into such dissatisfaction all day long. Moreover, in our current era, the influence of the media on children is so huge, that some movies transmit concepts that make children believe that death, blind sacrifice, is the performance of heroic characters, and it is the performance of greatness. His belief in the greatness of his death helped him find a path to improve his self-esteem.

Moreover, there is an advantage to this, that is, if you want to die, you can greatly arouse the concern of your parents, you see, he makes a move to die, don't you just talk to him, maybe you are busy and neglect to communicate with him. If he succeeds once, he will have a second time.

What you should do now is to encourage him more, not in general, but in a specific way, even for the slightest improvement. He sighs and loses his temper, which is a sign of him asking for help, you have to calm down, control your temper, tolerate her, and endure his bad temper. A little bit to rebuild his self-confidence.

You're definitely being bullied at school, and you'd better go to school and ask the teacher.

You should investigate what is wrong with him, don't criticize him too much at home, let alone scold him, and try to make him happy!

Let's see if he can get better.

Eh: I'm 15 years old, too.

I think you parents don't know our children well.

You don't think adults and children are equal!

Also, it's especially easy to get angry with children like us now, and my mom seems to be menopausal, so my family often makes a lot of noise.

See a psychiatrist, it's not easy to deal with suicide.

It is necessary to pay enough attention to it.

In view of his young age and limited cognitive ability, I personally think it is better to go to the hospital for recuperation.

It's quite similar to me before, your son may be a little rebellious, and I personally think you need to understand him more.

You have to feel with your heart what he really wants.

I think. Care is indispensable, but you have to pay attention to the ways and means.

It's better not to force him to do anything.

Encourage him a lot.

Even if you want him to do something.

It's better not to use force.

Use more roundabout tactics and encourage him more and say that he is doing a good job.

In short, it would be better for him to feel that he was not being forced.

It's not good. Bear with me.

It is also related to puberty.

Look at the psychiatrist, these can't be sloppy.

The information is not very complete, how long has this situation been maintained? How does he feel personally? Your child has some tendency to be depressed, but further diagnosis is needed.

Obviously, your son has some knots in his psyche that he can't untie. Seeing that your son's situation is already very serious, I hope you will pay enough attention to it. Today's children are particularly rebellious. Heart disease also requires cardiac medicine.

First of all, you have to find out what is the ideological cause of your son's heart disease, what is the ideological cause of his temper or personality, and then prescribe the right medicine after finding it. It is advisable to find someone to help you get to know your son. Because as a parent, you don't communicate well with your son, and your son may not necessarily say it to you.

Even if you do, it's very likely that you don't know something well.

Is it a lot of study pressure If it is serious, you should see a psychologist.

It seems that your child is not lightly ill, you have to take him to the hospital to see, I think it's a bit self-isolated, to enlighten him, it's too late to die,

Go with the flow and don't do bad people and bad things.

Maybe something unhappy happened to him in the class? You secretly ask his friends to accompany him more, or maybe your family should go on a trip to relax. Or maybe you're looking for a way to talk to your son online"Be friends"bar.

You should be careful of childhood depression, and it is recommended that you take him to a psychiatric department for a look, which should not be taken lightly, because severe childhood depression can also be suicidal.

1. It's not that you don't have psychological problems, but you don't know that you have psychological problems.

At that time, it was very good to be able to ensure good health, who would care if you had psychological problems? Moreover, psychological problems are often not easy to detect unless they are particularly severe. It is not like a physical problem that can be seen by the naked eye or an instrument, as long as it has no appearance, or the person himself does not admit it, it will not cause people to notice it at all.

In addition, people who are often beaten and harassed are likely to become perpetrators of violence. When he was weak, he was bullied, but once he had absolute power, he bullied others in the same way. So of course he doesn't feel that he has a problem, and the problem is someone else.

Refer to the case of Sun Xiaoguo).

This is true from generation to generation, but it does not mean that the previous education was correct or fine.

Second, it is true that there are no psychological problems, but this does not mean that there is no problem with rough beating and scolding education.

It is undeniable that each child has different characteristics. There may indeed be children who are more solid, thick-skinned, and have bigger hearts. Often beaten and scolded and still alive, mentally healthy, positive.

However, this is only a part of the children, and it is possible that they have not been negatively affected by the scolding. This does not mean that scolding education will not have a negative impact on all children, and it does not mean that scolding education is correct. And even if this part of the healthy child only sees that he has been beaten and scolded, we do not see that in addition to the beating and scolding education, he may have also received other ways of education from the upbringing members (such as gentle, encouraging).

For example, the care from grandparents and grandmothers, such as the influence and support from the external environment.

When such children grow up, they generally do not easily use beating and scolding education. Because his heart is positive, sunny, gentle and powerful. There are more ways and means for them to educate their children than just scolding.

3. I have suffered from psychological problems, but after self-regulation and good education, I reconciled with my past parents and successfully got out of my psychological problems.

This kind of person who has stepped out of the psychological shadow will definitely not implement beating and scolding education on the issue of children's education. Because they themselves know best how damaging it can be.

Build confidence. There is a saying in psychology that you feel that you have a patient but you are not sick.

When you feel that you have a mental illness, it is still in the early stages, the illness is not serious and is likely to be caused by short-term anxiety in other areas, so you should build confidence that you can successfully solve the problem.

Adjust your routine.

Many times I feel that I am suffering from psychological Bilaozhen disease because of the recent irregular life and rest caused by autonomic nervous disorders, neurasthenia, endocrine disorders and other problems, and patients in a sub-healthy state may suspect that there is something wrong with the mental side due to physical reasons.

Get more physical activity.

Exercise can not only improve people's physical condition, but also make the mind healthier, the appearance and temperament will become more sunny, and the spirit and spirit will become healthy, and there will be no doubt about themselves, even if there are real psychological problems, it will be greatly improved.

Get social.

Many psychological problems are caused by the patient's introversion and not being good at interacting with the outside world, and over time, the person becomes withdrawn and depressed, which will produce many psychological problems. In this case, we should abandon our inferiority complex and lazy mentality, and go out to contact and communicate with friends of the same age.

If you feel that your condition is serious, you should seek medical attention promptly.

Chinese people are prejudiced against the profession of psychiatrist, and they are even more secretive about going to a psychiatrist. In fact, it is very normal to see a psychiatrist abroad, and it is not that you have a mental illness to see a psychologist, but when you feel that your mental health problems are serious, you can go to see a psychologist to solve your own problems.