Why are rural people so patriarchal?

1. There are two reasons why rural people prefer sons over women.

The first reason. The remnants of traditional feudal thinking. In that concept, people tend to prefer boys for the sake of raising children to prevent old age and inheritance, while daughters are generally regarded as losers and always want to spill water.

Boys can stand up for themselves. That is to say, it is the continuation of the household registration and surname. Moreover, there needs to be nepotism in the countryside. Whoever has more men will have more power.

The second reason. Men are the main rural labourer. Although now men and women are equal. But in the countryside, women are still unable to do some manual work.

Second, it is generally not easy to change this kind of thinking.

1. Clarify that raising children to prevent old age is no longer applicable today, such as filial daughters and even taking better care of their elders, because women are now more likely to have an advantage in society. The parents of unfilial men are often bleak. Give more examples from around you and around you.

2. If we want to change this kind of thinking, we must let them get in touch with advanced ideas and concepts. The more edification, the easier it is to change. cite the words of those who are famous as circumstantial evidence.

Patriarchal preference is a concept of inequality between men and women in society, which values the rights and interests of men while defining women as subordinate to men and restricting their opportunities to develop their personal talents and personal freedom. This concept is common in patriarchal societies and is often accompanied by the idea of the inferiority of men and the division of labor between women.

Despite the emphasis on equality between men and women in modern society, there are still patriarchal attitudes in some rural areas. This may be due to the influence of various factors such as traditional perceptions, socio-economy, culture, etc.

In short, patriarchy is a feudal and backward ideology, and we should strive to promote equality between men and women, respect women, and jointly create a better society.

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Raise children to prevent old age, and the daughter who marries out spills the water.

First because of labor, now it's for generations!

Why is patriarchy so serious in rural areas? In fact, I think that this phenomenon is not unique to the countryside, and it is not uncommon in the cities, but with the economic development of the cities and the communication with the world, the horizons have been broadened, and the idea of preference for sons over daughters has been weakened, but the thinking of our rural people has not been improved.

The phenomenon of preference for sons over women in rural areas is simply due to two reasons:

The first reason: in ancient times, boys could stand on top of the household. That is to say, it is the continuation of the household registration and surname.

Moreover, there needs to be nepotism in the countryside. Whoever has more men, then his strength will be relatively strong. Even in modern times, the number of males is a key factor in determining the status of a family.

Like I am the only son in the family, but I have a lot of cousins, and there are many old men in the previous generation, so I am still more influential in the village.

However, the situation is much better now, the closer to the city, the less patriarchal the countryside, and our village is not very far from the city, so the patriarchal situation has become lighter and lighter in recent years, but this phenomenon still exists, and it will take a long time to completely disappear.

The second reason: men are the main rural labour. Although science and technology are developing, the rural economy is still backward, and many high-tech machines are not affordable for our rural people.

The farmland on my side is very irregular, and some are halfway up the mountainside, even if you can afford to buy a machine, there is no way for you to walk, the machine can only be trapped in the flat land, and some manual work women still can't do it, so now men are still the main labor force in the countryside.

Although the awareness of equality between men and women is becoming stronger and stronger, due to the influence of historical legacies and the special environment in rural areas, the phenomenon of preference for sons over women still exists, and perhaps only when the rural economy catches up with the cities, this phenomenon will be reduced or even disappear!

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There are two reasons why rural people prefer sons over women. The first reason. Boys can stand up for themselves.

That is to say, it is the continuation of the household registration and surname. Moreover, there needs to be nepotism in the countryside. Who has more men?

Then his power will be relatively strong. The second reason. Men are the main rural labourer.

Although now men and women are equal. But in the countryside, women are still unable to do some manual work.

I think the main reason is that most people in the countryside are not highly educated, so their thinking will inevitably be more feudal, and there will indeed be more patriarchal people in this place.

Because of the traditional beliefs of most people. Many people think that boys are better than girls, which is why this happens.

Know. The willingness of young people in rural areas to have children has dropped markedly, and there is still a preference for sons over daughters in rural areas.

High-powered answers. The decline in the fertility rate of 2750 is already a very significant demographic problem facing Chinese society. According to a data survey, the number of rural young people who have children has also dropped significantly, and many rural young people are reluctant to have too many children.

Seeing this data, many people think that this is because of the serious preference for sons in rural areas, so many people are reluctant to have children. So as for the obvious decline in the willingness of young people in rural areas to have children, is there still a backward concept of preference for sons over daughters in rural areas? Here's what I think:

Although we have entered the 21 st century, there is still a very strong backward concept of preference for sons over daughters in this society, especially in many rural areas, where the backward concept of preference for sons over daughters is even more serious. Nowadays, many rural people still think that if they don't have a son in their family, then they will have no face.

Second, the concept of preference for sons over daughters is deeply rooted in most parts of the country, not only in rural areas, but also in most parts of China, including urban areas. It is precisely because this concept of preference for sons over daughters is deeply rooted that there is a great disparity in the ratio of men and women in China. If the number of women is significantly lower than that of men, then there will be a serious shortage of women of childbearing age in China, and the fertility rate will also decline.

Third, if we want to reverse the fertility rate, it is the most important thing to get rid of the concept of preference for sons over daughters, and the country has tried its best to reverse the fertility rate and increase the fertility rate. But if the country wants to reverse the fertility rate, the most important thing to do is to get rid of the patriarchal mentality in society. Provide equal employment opportunities and equal inheritance rights for women.

Only in this way will many women be willing to have children. With regard to the obvious decline in the willingness of young people in rural areas to have children, is there still a backward concept of preference for sons over daughters in rural areas? That's my opinion.

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Both in the countryside and in the city.

Patriarchal preference will always exist.

It's just that the phenomenon of patriarchy is not so serious now.

The preference for sons over daughters has been around for thousands of years, and it is not something that can be reversed in 30 years under the one-child policy.

However, it is a bit general to say that rural people prefer sons over women. It is true that the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters is quite serious in rural areas, but not everyone in rural areas is like this. It depends on the individual's point of view.

The preference for sons over women in rural areas is not accidental, but is related to rural production relations. Working in the countryside is the only way to live, while men are the main labor force, and only a son can be relied on in old age. In the city, both men and women can go to work and earn money, so it is the same for both men and women.

I believe that when productivity increases, the preference for sons over daughters will gradually improve.

Even in today's society, whether it is in the countryside or in the city, there will be more or less patriarchal phenomena, but it is much better than before, not only the development of society, but also the fact that children are more precious in people's minds, and it is the same for boys and girls.

Some. But the situation should not be as serious as before, you can go to Douyin, there are still many such cases. It's just that some adults themselves don't admit that they are patriarchal, and they still think so in their hearts.

From our point of view, there are no more. Those with more money and those with less money are all the same. For those who have only daughters, their parents have a lot of property, and some say that the money is empty, and the person is a baby, so they are giving birth to a child, and men and women are not negotiable.

Some of them are financially poor, and they already have a daughter. Parents and in-laws rewarded them with 100,000 yuan, and they also helped bring them, asking them to have another one, but they didn't give birth. Now it's the same for both men and women.

Obedient men and women are good. Disobedient, all the same. Now people want to open it.

Of course, I recommend having two children, siblings, and always have a companion. There is always a negotiation to do things).

At present, there is still a preference for sons over daughters in the countryside, but it is much better than before, and it is not as serious.

Nowadays, the concept of most rural areas has changed, but it is undeniable that there is still a preference for sons over daughters in some remote areas.

It's called the countryside, and he must have this situation, because their education level is not good, and the preference for sons is too important to them, and giving birth to a son is a meritorious service, and giving birth to a daughter is like committing a crime, so the gap between them is too big, and they should be given some popularization of this knowledge.

Personally, I think it's hard to find this patriarchal phenomenon around me, many people have realized that boys and girls are the same, I feel that it should be difficult to feel the patriarchal phenomenon in our lives, because many people's thinking has changed, boys and girls are all the same in the countryside, there are more or less patriarchal shadows in life, and the shadow of this phenomenon is still relatively common and easy to find. Take grandpa's house as an example, every year during the Spring Festival, there will be a family gathering, the whole family will get together for a meal, but when eating, it is often the women in the family who are busy cooking, and the men in the family generally only need to sit at the dinner table and chatter, drinking tea and waiting for the female members of the family to prepare the meal, and no male member of the family takes the initiative to go to the kitchen to help the women in the family cook, which is a typical patriarchal phenomenon. After all, such household chores should be shared between male and female members. And when it comes to eating, often the man sits at one table, the woman and the child sit at the other table as a dish, when it is ready, it is to serve the food on the man's table first, and then give the woman and the child this table of dishes, which seems to be a small detail, but it can also be clearly felt that obviously in this family, the man is treated with special care, and when the meal is over, the men in these family members do not need to clean up the table, continue to go back to the house to chat, or watch TV togetherAlthough this is just a small detail in life, it still makes me feel a little uncomfortable in my heart, after all, these housework should be shared by male and female members, and should not be pushed to female members.

There are still some shadows of patriarchal preference in life, especially in rural areas, and the shadows of this phenomenon are still relatively common and easy to find.

Take my grandmother's house as an example, every year during the Spring Festival, there will be a family gathering, the whole family will get together for a meal, but when eating, it is often the women in the family who are busy cooking, and the men in the family generally only need to sit at the dinner table and chatter, drink tea and wait for the female members of the family to prepare the meal, and no male member of the family will take the initiative to go to the kitchen and help the women in the family cook, which is a typical patriarchal phenomenon. After all, such household chores should be shared between male and female members.

And when it comes to eating, often the man sits at one table, the woman and the child sit at the other table as a dish, when it is ready, it is to serve the food on the man's table first, and then give the woman and the child this table of dishes, which seems to be a small detail, but it can also be clearly felt that obviously in this family, the man is treated with special care, and when the meal is over, the men in these family members do not need to clean up the table, continue to go back to the house to chat, or watch TV together, and the female members of the family need to clean up the table and wash the dishes, although this is just a small detail in life, but more or less it still makes me feel a little uncomfortable, after all, these housework should be shared by male and female members, and should not be pushed on female members.

In fact, I may feel very angry at first, but when the anger is gone, I think that after all, it is my biological parents, so everything can be forgiven.

A bowl of water is uneven. Those who say this are generally the children of the elderly in rural areas, who accuse the old people of favoring this child but not that child. It should be said that in the countryside, this phenomenon is very widespread.

The main reason is that Qi Xiao is the following three points. The first reason is that absolute fairness does not exist, not only the elderly in rural areas, but also ourselves, cannot achieve absolute justice. Some people are leftists and like equality; Some people are right and like to be free.

But no one is an absolute centrist, you have to be partial.

The second reason is that the elderly in rural areas generally have several children, and the personalities of these children are different. In the past, there was such a saying, "The boss is stupid, the second is sharp, and the naughty and mischievous number is the third". For the old man, he may like one personality and not the other.

Correspondingly, he will like children with this kind of personality.

The third reason is that when the children of the elderly reach adulthood, they always have to "separate". And in the process of separation, it is inevitable that there will be unfairness of one kind or another. In the past, when we were working collectively, when everyone shared the grain, some people would complain that they looked relatively small, let alone divide the family?

Rural people do not hide their affairs, and if they have to express any complaints, it is easy to cause discord between brothers and sisters.

The above three reasons can be said to summarize several possibilities for the phenomenon of "uneven end of a bowl of water" in rural areas. But I still think that we just need to do our own thing and have a high level of knowledge, and there is no need to compare between brothers and sisters. Because no matter what, a harmonious family is the backing of a person's career, right?