The generation gap with parents is more serious, what should I do

It's the same as when I was younger, but I'm not in early love, it's a normal period of love, it's just that my parents don't agree with us very much, so I have the same generation gap with my parents and can't communicate well. Now that I see your question, I want to say so much in my heart, because that's where I came from. If you feel that your parents are too strict with you, you can think about it

If your own daughter falls in love at the age of 17, you will let her go and keep her in check. Second, you feel that you are not ideal, is it that you are invisibly dissatisfied with your parents' discipline in your usual life, (this emotion is your unsatisfactory study, plus your parents love face and you do not do well in the test, and you are verbose, you are irritable and manifested, there is this generation gap invisibly.) Now the problem is that your generation gap has been formed, and you are now in early love on the basis of this generation gap, (in fact, you already know that your early love is wrong) your parents will definitely disagree, and now you can imagine it:

Your flowery daughter is 17 years old, are you afraid that your daughter will be deceived by early love and miss her studies? Through these two points, I can tell you clearly: you can be sure that you and your boyfriend are friends, don't go deeper, help each other in your studies, you can get to know him better during the period, and you can get married immediately after graduation, which is my idea.

If you want me to give you a way to keep your parents from knowing that you two can be in love again, I can't.

In addition, I would like to say that once you grow up to be an adult, and when you get married, and your parents are gone, you will regret your disrespect to your parents.

This kind of question should be empathetic, and we should think from the other side's point of view. Think about why my parents did that to me, and you will know their good intentions, think more about the consequences of what you say, and then communicate with them more. I think it should be possible.

Besides, this is also normal, and it will be fine in the future.

Normal. The rebellious period is over.

Whenever my parents have the following opinions, I feel that there is still a big generation gap between my parents and me, and it is difficult for my parents to accept their views.

The first point: I am right when I say everything, and I can't hear what others say.

Parents always have a feeling of being on top, as if they are right to say everything about Qiliang because they have given life to their children. Even if he doesn't say the right thing and someone refutes it and puts the right answer in front of them, they will still be stubborn to the end. As long as they think it's right, there's not the slightest possibility that they can change it.

The second point: belittle others and exalt yourself.

This is my own feeling, every time I go to a party with my parents and relatives, it becomes a competition. People will start showing off their children, and of course if your children make you proud, I think that's something to be proud of. But often parents are proud and belittle others.

My parents like me always bring the topic to me, what is in Japan, what is capable, in fact, young people don't want to hear this at all.

Then praise your own children will be counted as quiet, and you will belittle other people's children. Especially when talking about other people's families, it is very unobjective to evaluate other people's wives, and I don't think it should be like this as an elder.

The third point: selfish thoughts.

In fact, it is said that parents are selfless, and in my opinion, parents are the most selfish existence. They say it's good for you, but in fact, they're just imposing their own ideas on others. For the sake of your own face and your own peace of mind, you can put all the pressure on others.

Every time I go home to urge marriage and fall in love, I never care if my children are happy.

The fourth point: vanity loves comparison.

Parents are most concerned about the ** of the product, no matter what gift their children give themselves, the first thing is to ask how much.

You can reduce communication, and then try to be obedient to them as much as possible, don't contradict them, and don't tell them things they don't understand.

Communicate more, communicate more. Don't lose your temper.

It's normal to have a generation gap with your parents, as long as you can resolve it well, don't make your own decisions about everything in the calendar, and don't listen to your parents in everything, the two sides should do their best to communicate well.