I have been bothered by the communication problems between my classmates for many years, and I kneel

In the absence of any conflict, it may be small details that make you lose trust or identity.

For example: greedy for small and cheap; being too stubborn; Lack of hygiene; It feels fake, etc., and you should pay attention to whether there are similar problems.

According to your own words, it is because you have an extreme personality and are prone to tantrums. It is not easy to get along with each other, it is easy to cause arguments, and it is easy to disagree with each other. If so, you need to adjust yourself.

You know, the simple logic is that if everyone has the same attitude towards a certain person, in general he himself is problematic. I'm glad you've discovered this problem, so try to be kind to the people around you.

Suggestion: Everyone has the right to disagree, and no one is obligated to agree with you. When you have a disagreement, choose to keep your opinion open rather than force others to agree with you.

If everybody treats you like that, that's your own fault, you see, you know that you are suspicious, so communicate with everyone more, and don't think about it.

Do you know that there was a story about throwing an axe when you were a child? You're the one who threw the axe.

In fact, classmates get along, just like brothers, to have the idea of tolerance and integration, first of all, you have to tolerate everyone's shortcomings, but also to integrate into everyone, in front of everyone do not have lofty or proud thoughts, to be everyone-centered, and think about problems and do things do not be extreme, do not drill the horns.

Acquaintance is fate, take everyone seriously, and have a sense of community. Communicate more with everyone, remember one thing, tens of millions of others say bad things about others behind their backs, even if you have an opinion on someone, say it face to face, remember the time to talk about other people's shortcomings, first praise the advantages of others, and then say that you need to correct it in ***, I can't stand your *** habits.

You are still young, but your ability to ask this question proves that you recognize the seriousness of your problem. Actually, you don't have any major problems. You just need to slowly overcome the problem of suspicion and have more trust and understanding with people.

In addition, you must overcome the problem of being easy to get angry, be calm, be objective, and be able to empathize with others from the perspective of others, your anger will be much smaller, take a step back and open the sky!

You have to think about it, if you have done something to offend others.

Summary. If as friends and classmates, I can still chat as before, if it is something else, it does bother me a little, this sentence means that if our relationship is only as friends or classmates, then we can still keep the previous relationship and not change, but if our relationship is more than that of classmates or friends, then this habit will make me troubled and unhappy.

Hello dear, please wait a minute, I will help you immediately.

If, as a friend or classmate, I can still chat as before, if it is something else, it does bother me a little, this sentence means, if the relationship between us is only as friends or classmates, then we can still maintain the previous relationship and not change, but if the relationship between us is more than that of classmates or friends, then this habit will make me troubled and happy.

As far as my personal experience is concerned, girls are easily swayed by emotions, and in the past, when I was in high school, I cared a lot about others and not being with me, whether I didn't pay attention to myself, whether I neglected myself, etc., which always made me upset and couldn't think about my studies with confidence. In fact, as I matured, I realized that it was all my own problem. A person is strong inside, 1

Don't care what irrelevant people think. 2.People will naturally like you and want to be close to you because of your charisma.

3.After seeing a lot of things, you don't care so much about the future, you see a different world, you have more and more important things to do, instead of just focusing on the things you get along with the girls in front of you. 4.

People are independent, no one necessarily needs who to accompany, cultivate one or several hobbies of their own, such as painting, reading, writing, playing the piano, etc., and so you have your own hobbies, you will find that you will not always think about no one to accompany you, but every day happy and self-sufficient, and these hobbies are very cultivated temperament, will make you become a person that everyone likes to be close to, but also let you have a good attitude. 5.In the face of a vexatious or very calculating girl, you don't care about her, she finally feels bored and gives up, some things are more and more black, and the clear ones are self-clearing.

Hello kid, it's a pleasure to answer for you;

Your experience is very common in childhood, everyone's personality is different, everyone's interests and hobbies are different, you won't understand the sophistication of people, as a student, learning is not only to keep up, being a person is also a compulsory course;

First of all, you have to learn to analyze and know what caused this situation, what you have a problem with in that detail, and what you should do to remedy it.

In fact, the school and society also have a little responsibility, but this is small, and the key lies with you. You have to remember that what others say and do is someone else's, it has nothing to do with you, and even if it has something to do with you, you should put on a calm attitude. In addition, if a person wants to integrate into the group, he must play one of the roles in the group, due to different personalities, communication is usually to run in slowly, you should be people-centered, let yourself adapt to others, rather than let others adapt to you.

Also, you should cultivate more of your own interests and hobbies, and if you have more interests and hobbies, then it will be convenient to communicate with other students, and simply put, you know a lot of things.

Finally, as a student, you should have a good psychological quality, complete what you should do, and integrate into the group around you;

These are all things that you will encounter in life, don't worry, it's just the incomprehension between friends. Don't worry, as long as you get to know them again, take the initiative to make concessions, and then try to reconcile your relationship, right? If your classmates are very cautious, then you should be tolerant, and take the initiative to say hello and chat with them when appropriate.

If they ignore you, don't be discouraged. Who said that if you take medicine, you will get better immediately, right? You have to smile and smile again, you know?

Don't be intimidated by these difficulties. Heaven descends on the people, you must first suffer their minds, you have to think, I can find friends, I will not be alone.

Don't care too much about what others do to you. And don't mind being xenophobic and ostracizing you.

The key is in your own hands. Keep your mind in balance.

Relax and try to be cheerful and lively to blend in with them.

There's nothing bad about being alone - -

But you have to be proactive, and you can't always think about why people don't come to you or something.

And it's not necessarily that they're speaking ill of you when they're together, it's just that you're thinking that way, and you're just doing it in your heart

Normal mentality, slowly these are all good!

You can try to observe them and see if they fit in with you! Be bold and play with her.

Try reading the books in the Yilin series, I always read them. I used to have such a problem like you, but now it's better.

Be honest and don't take it too seriously.

Be tolerant, it's okay.

Since the landlord is calling for a communicator, then why don't you come out and express your opinions, I hope it will help you.

To put it simply, it's really simple, I'll just send you eight words: sincerity, smile, humility, humor.

Sincere! Sincere! Sincere!

When making friends, don't mix those utilitarian hearts, treat people with sincerity, and others will treat you sincerely! This is the soul in the eight characters that I gave you; Smile more, this is a good signal to others: I am a kind person, let's make friends with me; Be humble when there is a conflict, and take out a man's belly; Occasionally use humor to liven up the atmosphere when dating, of course, if you don't know how to say it, it's okay to tell bad jokes to cool off the heat.

Don't think it's easy to look at what I said about lightweight, in fact, most so-called communicators can't do the above points, and of course I'm working in this direction. If you do the above eight words, then congratulations, you have become a surpassing existence of most people, and you have become an expert in communication. If you do the above and still feel that you have not made a really good friend, then there is no need to worry, it is just that there is not enough time, you must know that a real confidant should be enough to have one for a lifetime.

True friends should be trickles of water and need to pass the test of time, but those who flatter and treat you with great hospitality at the beginning of their meeting are the ones who need to be wary, because they will have something for you.

I am also studying at university, and when I first arrived, I had the same worries as you, after all, I traveled more than 3,000 kilometers from home to the Northeast to study at university. But after entering the school, you will find that everyone is very easy to get along with, and there is nothing to worry about. Remember, you are no different from others, you are not the only special person, and no one will deliberately isolate you.

You have to believe that as long as you have a heart that yearns to socialize, there will be many people who are willing to be friends with you.

Having said so much is to hope that it will be helpful to the landlord.,Save a teenager who is not good at making friends.,Let him better integrate into society.,In my opinion, seniors are of great significance.,I hope you can read it carefully.,After all, it's all my hard work.

Okay, after a lot of ramblings, I'll finally give you a motto that I follow when I get along with people; Do unto others as you would have them do to you!

Let go of your face and change yourself. Before going to university, you can read books on interpersonal relationships and apply them in practice. Zheng Hao thinks about others, helps others, faces with a smile, deals with some small fuses in life, and it is normal for him to suffer some losses with his classmates.

If you are valuable, others will need you.

Appeal is related to personal charisma, and since you can be appointed as a class leader, there must be a reason to appoint you to answer.

Maybe what others see you is not the same as how you feel yourself, if you feel that you are lacking in confidence, or if you are predominant, and you want to try to change that. I can give you some methods:

First, try to speak in a crowded place, such as a public place such as a venue;

Second, allow yourself to participate in speech or debate clubs or competitions;

Third, read some books, such as speech and eloquence, personality charm, etc. Forward Hall.

Since you want to mingle with others,,You should use action to change,,Good character has innate factors,,The day after tomorrow you can try to get together with a lot of people,,Don't worry,,Others talk and laugh and you can listen to it,,Try to speak when you talk about envy to the problem you are good at,Don't be afraid of what others will say about you,This is mainly because you have a strange heart,Stool grinding,Unless you have something particularly unconfident,, When the squad leader has to maintain your original style,It is impossible to pull without restraint at the beginning。。 Take it easy.. The accumulation of one thing after another, come on.

I have also experienced the third year of high school, like you said, I can understand you very well, this reason cannot be said to be your problem, but the third year of high school, everyone is facing the first very important choice in life, the mentality is more impetuous, I feel very unsociable, as if the people around me can't understand their own thoughts.

You can reflect on it, do you usually talk and act too much? Speaking too straight is the most hurtful.

If you don't insist that it must be a friend, then you can usually say hello and help them, and you can generally maintain a good relationship.

From your description, I think you are a wise tx. From your feelings, I will give you three references: First, the friendship of classmates must be permanent, don't be demanding, and be at peace with what happens:

The second is that there is still a chance in the second year of high school, set your goals higher, and you will not regret it in the future: third, there is still more than a year before the college entrance examination, and if you put all this time on the entrance examination, you will definitely achieve results like your basketball. I wish you success in the college entrance examination.

Sometimes you should wonder if your way of doing things is not in harmony with the group. Playing basketball allows you to make friends because you share a common hobby. If you want to be with the group, you must not be afraid of trouble, and you don't have to agree without hesitation to say that you do your best if you need your help for other people's difficulties.

Talk to them more, or someone else will think of you as a bad student who doesn't like to talk.

1. Study hard and get into a good university in the future. Reality only recognizes people's abilities. It's the same with friends, so don't be upset.

Second, as long as there is no college entrance examination for a day, you can't give up on yourself for a day, and the goal is not so low, why not work hard to get one? It's man-made. Think about whether your friend is so focused on the college entrance examination that he has no time to take care of you?

3. Do you think it is easy for your relatives to provide you with education? For their sake, can you put aside all the questions that are not related to your studies and concentrate on the college entrance examination?

Fourth, when you really graduate, you will find that even classmates who had a very stiff relationship with them at that time will have a very warm feeling with each other when they meet. What happens between the children while you are studying is nothing, after all, there is no conflict of interest between you. When we meet again in a few years, everything is light and breezy.