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In fact, some mother-in-law parents are very snobbish. Several of my co-workers ended up falling out with their parents over the economy. When each of them told me, they were all in the same situation as yours, each with their own stories, and they all felt sad.
You have already given a lot, and your parents are used to your well-behaved and sensible, so they think that you should keep paying, which is a tacit understanding, a tacit understanding formed in the process. Once you want to break this tacit understanding, it must be uncomfortable and unaccustomed. Some parents think that it is natural for their daughters to subsidize their families, and their own money is often used to subsidize their sons and daughters-in-law, which is still an internal and external psychological factor.
In addition, when you have the financial ability, it becomes an inevitable trend.
No matter how much you love your parents, this will not be the last. Even if you say yes this time, there will be a next time, unless you can't afford it financially. And your parents must think that your husband played a bad role in the middle and made you "selfish".
First, the relationship between your parents and son-in-law becomes estranged, and then the relationship with you becomes delicate. One day you will refuse, it is better to refuse as soon as possible, so that parents can get used to a new tacit understanding.
And, of course, you have been doing it without regrets. You must have no complaints and no regrets, otherwise, if you do it, you still don't fall well. As for the son, when giving money, you have to make up your mind not to have one, that is the source of all contradictions.
It can destroy all family affection and has great lethality.
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Just express the one or two incidents where you were bullied by your brother and write them down.
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Older siblings who fought from childhood to adulthood may indeed exist in real life. However, fights and conflicts in themselves do not mean that the relationship between siblings is necessarily bad. The key is how they handle fights and conflicts, and how they build and maintain relationships.
The relationship between siblings is often full of conflict and friction in childhood and adolescence. Fighting is a way for them to deal with problems and disputes. However, as they grow older and mature, they may gradually learn to solve problems in a more mature and rational way, reducing conflict.
Fighting is not the only cause of a bad relationship between siblings. The key is how they handle fights and conflicts, and how they build and maintain relationships. Here are some suggestions to help them improve their relationship:
1.Communication: Strengthen communication with each other to understand each other's thoughts, feelings, and needs. Through effective communication, they can better resolve issues and disagreements and reduce conflicts.
2.Learn to compromise: When faced with disagreements, learn to compromise and make concessions, and try to find a mutually acceptable solution. Compromise is the key to maintaining a good relationship.
4.Common interests: Find some common interests and activities to strengthen your bond with each other. This can help them build trust and friendship in their shared experiences.
5.Support each other: Give care and support to each other when they are facing difficulties and challenges. This will help to deepen the affection for each other.
While fighting may be a common experience between siblings, it doesn't mean that they have a bad relationship. By learning to communicate, compromise, respect, share interests, support, and forgiveness, they can improve relationships and build deep relationships.
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Solutions to being bullied by siblings include trying to communicate, staying calm, reaching out to parents or other adults, asserting oneself and seeking support, and staying confident and happy.
1. Positive communication: The first thing is to communicate clearly and make it clear to our brothers and sisters that we don't like them to bully us, and we don't think that this Liang Zi is a normal behavior.
2. Stay calm: When facing bullying from our brothers and sisters, we often get angry and angry, but this can easily provoke the other party and exacerbate the problem, so we should try to stay calm, deal with the problem with reason, and guide them to stop bullying.
3. Find parents or other adults: If we feel that we are unable to solve the problem, or if we encounter a serious situation, then we should seek help from an adult in time.
4. Stand up and seek support: When others are present, we should firmly express our opinions and ask for support, and never go for a tooth for a tooth or act inappropriately to make things worse.
5. Stay confident and happy: Although our siblings may often bully us, we can't afford to lose confidence and happiness. We should look for other things that comfort, support, and uplift us, such as studying, art, sports, or spending time with friends.
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1. Family conflicts are also commonplace, you can magnify them or ignore them. Today, I advise you: brothers and sisters deceive others too much, don't think about revenge, learn the following four tricks to balance.
2. First, adopt an attitude of avoidance and let the contradictions resolve naturally. Many years ago, Lu Xun and Zhou Zuoren were both famous masters in the literary world, and they lived in the same courtyard and grew up together. For some reason, Zhou Zuoren complained about Lu Xun, and picked up the copper furnace and smashed it at Lu Xun.
At that time, Zhou Zuoren's fame was greater than Lu Xun's, and his salary was more. Lu Xun silently moved out of the yard and rented a house outside. Although the contradiction has not been resolved, the roots of the ears have been purified, and there is time for reflection.
Someone said, "Distance, it's a very strange thing." It can make two people who don't know each other talk about everything, but it can also make two people who don't distinguish each other go to their own ends and forget each other.
If the conflict between siblings arises, and you still insist on reasoning, fighting over the house, and expressing anger, then the conflict will intensify. If you take the initiative to leave the land of right and wrong, the effect will be different. When you leave, you will be resentful, but after a while, you can really let go.
A colleague of mine is from Heilongjiang. Once, he and his two sisters competed for their parents' demolition money. Since he came to Hunan to work, he has stopped arguing, but thinks that his sisters have taken care of their parents and deserve to get the family wealth.
Therefore, when your siblings bully you, don't do it, but retreat until you can really face them calmly, and then make friends. Time, distance, can really dilute everything. 3Second, borrowing from his parents, he descended from his donkey.
Two years ago, I took my family on a trip. A van, speeding by, slashed against the front bumper of my car, leaving scratches as wide as two fingers. I had a dispute with the other party, and the other party was also very picky and unwilling to lose money.
Mother suddenly stood up and said, "Forget it, pay attention next time." With these words, I waved my hand, which was regarded as forgiving the other party.
That's it, it's over. Although I suffered a little loss, I feel lucky that at least we are all safe. The contradictions between people have reached the level of "-for-tat", and it is not who is right and who is wrong, but who is not convinced.
For example, the younger brother's family has tens of millions of assets, but he is unwilling to give up the 10,000 yuan in the big family. He just couldn't get angry, why should he be polite. If the parents had stepped up and made a decision, things might have been different.
People live with one breath, and the Buddha receives a stick of incense", this is instinct. If you find a way out, you can go down the way.
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If you're bullied, use the self-defense techniques you've learned to fight back, and then hand in a leg sweep.
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You can help him, but don't hit anyone.
You can try to hit someone once, and hit it harder. You'll find that you've grown up in an instant, and you can try it if you don't believe it. If you don't change right away, just ask me. Remember that you can only do it once.
Damn, that's a bully! You just pick the best of the 3 people and find him to fight alone! Or if they provoke you, you will directly smash the most arrogant with something, the more ruthless and fierce the better! Of course, don't smash it to death! Don't smash the point. Let's see who dares next time!
Brother, when I was in middle school, I was much worse than you, and I was tormented every day by the brutes, who dragged me from the classroom to the water room and beat me with the legs of a stool. Since my parents are usually tired enough, I don't want to burden them psychologically, so I haven't told them. At the same time, the teachers didn't understand me and often wronged me, so my junior high school was a purgatory life. >>>More
If you are bullied, you can choose to call the police or respond to the school teacher at this time, the most important thing is to respond to the family, and then let the parents communicate with the school to solve the matter.
All men are created equal, and no one can bully anyone. If you are beaten, you will call 110 for help from the police; If you are bullied by a business, call 12315**, and if you are hit by a car, call 122 in time to ask the traffic police for assistance.