How to get along with people who think others are selfish

There are all such people, and there are many of them. They are also despised, they are selfish, which in itself is a punishment for themselves. Such people blind themselves, they themselves are miserable, it's just that many people themselves don't realize that they are miserable, which is even more sad.

For such a person, you can try to influence him with your own behavior, I am talking about actions, not words, not asking you to reason with others, which will only make enemies. You have to be clear that you are in a much better position than he is. You are on the mountains, he is in the valleys, and what he sees, you can see, and what he does not see, you can see.

If he is truly aware of this contrasting relationship between you, he will climb up until he stands parallel to you, then, congratulations, you have won a friend. On the other hand, if he is obsessed and determined to be a frog at the bottom of the well, then please stand firm, hold on to yourself, and look farther away, because the world is much bigger than that valley. You can look into the distance, there are like-minded people out there, and you're not alone.

Otherwise, once you lose yourself and a gust of wind blows, it is very likely that you will also stumble and fall into the valley and become another pathetic frog among them.

I think first of all, we should unravel his mental defense, and getting along with people requires heart-to-heart communication. Really be good to him, people are not stones, he will always feel that nature will be good to you in turn.

Here's how:

First, if possible, stay away from selfish people as much as possible, because once a person's character is formed, there is basically no way to change it through probation, so try not to make friends or get close to selfish people.

Second, there are several types of selfish people, the most typical is self-centered people, basically they will not consider anyone but themselves, so when it comes to their own personal interests, they will be very tough and hold grudges. If the subordinate does not affect the work and the group, it is okay, but once it becomes an obstacle to the team, it is necessary to strip them from the team as much as possible to avoid affecting morale and unity due to their presence.

Third, selfish people will be very cold, and there is no real affection between people, no matter what it shows, the heart is measured by the relationship of interests, so as long as they have no use value for it, they will very simply abandon or even sell themselves, so don't make deep friends, nod friends enough.

Fourth, selfish people will show greed and miserliness, the pursuit of fame and fortune, the money must be compared, the demand for others is excessive, not only money, but also emotionally will never pay more for others, in this case as soon as possible to terminate the relationship with it, as far as possible not to have any economic relations with it, if there is also as much as possible through agreements, legal documents, etc.

Fifth, it will show a withdrawn personality, because its selfishness will lead to no real friends, so no one will come to help will be alone, or everything is superficial, unless this situation is your own relatives or there is no way to leave the relationship, otherwise try to avoid contact with it.

Hello, dear, this question is up to me The more selfish people you are, the more you ask others to be selfless!

If others can't make the slightest concession and accommodation for you, but they only ask you to unilaterally wronged and sacrificed, this kind of person must stay away in time, because if you are close to them, you will never get any gains in addition to suffering losses in your life!

But in addition, don't be the kind of person who is particularly stingy and stingy, and it is difficult to achieve any great climate if you are careful about everything.

People who are difficult to make a profit for the rest of their lives always like to "compete" on these three things. Why do you say that, you can see it!

1.Compete in what you give to others.

Wherever people have what they get, they have to give. People who only know how to get but don't know how to give, are selfish and narrow-minded by nature.

Moreover, everyone walks in society, sometimes you can take the initiative to show favor to others first, and in paying this kind of thing, take the initiative, be generous, and see the other party's reaction.

Generally, people who have normal three views and understand social principles and etiquette will be polite and reciprocal, and they will know that there is something to give back, and the relationship between the two sides will be long; And the kind of people who get cheap and sell well, and like to use moral kidnapping to force others to obediently and infinitely offer the benefits and benefits they want from social relationships according to their own ideas, are hypocrites and real villains, and remember to stay away.

But then again, the kind of person who always stares at the other party's contribution to others, carefully calculates and measures everything, especially cares about whether the other party's contribution is equal to his own side, and especially likes to compete, may be really difficult to make a big difference in this life.

The mind is too narrow, the vision is too shallow, and the energy is not big enough, and the limitations of life are considerable.

2.I don't want to suffer a loss, and I don't know how to back down.

The ancients often said that "suffering losses is blessings", which shows that people living in the world are really inevitable not to suffer losses. When you eat too much, you get used to it.

Once you get used to it, it will become a normal part of life.

If you have to say something beneficial about this self-deceptive life philosophy, it depends on whether you can sum up some lessons, logic and laws from the losses you have suffered.

If you can do this, you may encounter similar losses in the future, and you may immediately take a detour to avoid the traps set in front of you, and you will not repeat the mistakes of the past.

Why do people highly agree that "suffering is a blessing"? It's not because you encounter something, the price you pay for entanglement with it is far more troublesome than walking away and getting rid of it in time!

People with foresight, vision, and ability will weigh the pros and cons and priorities when something bad happens, and they will know how to give up those things that are not so important, even if they have a certain impact on their mood and interests, and then move to the places they care about and what is especially important to them.

When you reach a certain height, those who are not at the same level as you will no longer be able to find it difficult for you, which is a kind of success that kills two birds with one stone.

And people who are entangled in everything, don't want to suffer losses at all, and don't know how to back down when they encounter broken people and bad things, spend all their time and energy on these aspects, how can they have any spirit to do big things.