What should I do if I encounter a surprising colleague?

You don't have to worry about them, they are not your friends or relatives, no matter how much it is, it's better to turn a blind eye! I think that other colleagues were coaxed by this man, which is not necessarily a good thing, and I can only blame these women for being stupid! There's no need to be serious with them, and there's no need to think about how to face it, it's a big deal to change jobs!

Happiness is the most important thing! Just open your mind and don't care about these ignorant people! They're just a bunch of jokes!

All you have to do is watch the show!

You can only follow the reality of others.

I've already started working, I'm not a kid anymore, so I won't be reading any ideological and moral books every day, right? Society is realistic, society is cruel, how do I feel that you are still like a little girl who has just come out of the hotbed? I remember reading a passage written in an digest before, the reality is too unsatisfactory, even if life gives you garbage, you can also step on the garbage under your feet and climb to the top of the world.

The world only cares if you reach a certain height, not whether you step on the shoulders of giants or on garbage.

It's her ability to make them happy, and if you don't have it, don't be envious, jealous, hateful, or pretend to be disdainful. Again, society is realistic, society is cruel.

If you are cheap, you are invincible, and there is no way.

My point is: go back.

This question instantly reminded me of the countless sales and fighting scenes in the past ten years of work, some of which were scolded by my colleagues, and some of which were watched by others scolding each other.

When I first entered the workplace, I was scolded by my colleagues, and I often had a lot of scruples, so I basically chose to swallow my anger, value harmony, and then get angry with myself when I got home.

Later, I experienced a lot, and the skin became thicker, and I began to have contacts.

Combined with my own experience, I summarized the twelve-word policy for dealing with being scolded: on-the-spot response, factual speaking, and controllable conflict. (Exclude the situation where the relationship is good and the jokes come and go.) ）

01.On-the-spot response.

First of all, why do you want to respond on the spot?

No matter who is at fault, the act of scolding others itself represents a kind of malice, a kind of top-down bullying, and the other party thinks that they are stronger than you and can wantonly scare you or test you.

In the face of malice, it is necessary to fight back immediately, because once the dialogue is over, there is no reason to start again, and the winner or loser is decided. The person who scares about you doesn't have to pay anything, and he has also suppressed you and won a greater right to speak, while you are entangled in thinking about right and wrong, relationship, influence, etc., and have lost the best opportunity to counteract.

02.The facts speak for themselves.

Next, let's talk about how to fight back.

There's a way to go back. The basic logic is that Yu Sen distinguishes between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions".

Most of the words are "phenomena" and "opinions", and the response is most powerful with "facts".

Here's an example of what happened this morning:

I went to a company for an interview, and HR saw that my latest work experience was a naked resignation, and he asked me: "You are very willful?" If you don't like it, just say it naked? ”

I replied to him: "The naked resignation is because the transformation of the department is inconsistent with the demands of personal development, which is a rational and analytical choice, and it has nothing to do with whether you like it or not." ”

"willful" is a negative evaluation, "if you don't like it, you will resign naked" is a point of view, to put it bluntly, it is called buttoning a hat. If I take this hat, I will fall into the pit of willfulness and immaturity, and the situation will be very unfavorable to me. At this time, don't justify whether you are willful or not, and tell the other party what the facts are.

In daily conversations, we need to train ourselves to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions", as well as the logical relationship between them, otherwise it is easy to be led into rhythm and slip into the ditch without knowing it.

03.Conflicts are manageable.

When responding to the other person, you should be careful about your words and actions, "personal attacks", "discrimination", and "name-calling" are unacceptable, and they will also put yourself in a disadvantageous position, and there is no room for change. So don't say anything as soon as the emotion comes up, be grabbed by the other party, and kill with one blow.

Mutual resentment is just a verbal conflict, and you should always remind yourself that the conflict should be controlled to the extent that you can control it, at least you will not take the initiative to escalate the conflict, and assess whether the intensity of the conflict is beneficial or unfavorable to you.

In short, "Control your emotions and don't get up." ”