The relationship was good before, but then it was cold

There are always people who have become more and more cold for a variety of reasons. Some of them have less contact with each other, and the relationship becomes more and more cold, and some are because the concept is changing with age, becoming different, and there is less common language.

Hello, first of all, it's not your fault, no one can always maintain a very stable relationship, friendship is also love. Maybe people just regard you as a close friend, maybe they think too much, or maybe you both like each other, but neither of you confesses!

Secondly, you need to recognize that you are not her boyfriend, so everything you do is wishful thinking, you give and desire her to accept, and you are also very happy. So there's no need to be sad about the current coldness.

Finally, I hope you get better soon!

For a variety of reasons. Everything is changing.

The circles are different, the family is riddled with trivial matters, and there is no contact if you don't move around for a long time.

No one is perfect, no one is full of people, no one is at fault, when there is a party who cares for a long time, and he will talk coldly, except for picking the garden, three knots, life and death, to the white head.

Hello, you have just determined the relationship, you still don't know much about it, come slowly, don't be too anxious, you can communicate with him more, understand his inner thoughts, don't be too anxious, bless you, I hope you are happy and happy, and give birth to a cute little treasure as soon as possible.

The relationship is like movement, it doesn't work, it doesn't work, but it works when it moves. If you want a relationship to stay in good shape, or even keep heating up, you need to have more contact, more movement, and more contact. There is no one in this world who is missing and who cannot survive, so don't think that you have a good relationship with the other person, you can not keep in touch often.

Otherwise, you will all understand that without each other, your own life will not be affected much. Whether it is love, friendship, or even family affection, you need to keep in touch and contact often, so that you will get closer and closer.

Although distance can produce beauty, if you keep a distance for a long time without approaching, or keep the distance too far, what you will get in exchange is not "beauty", but alienation. No matter how good the relationship is, it can't withstand estrangement, and no matter how deep the friendship is, it will become "weak" if you don't contact often. The relationship may be changing, but you don't even notice it.

At first, they just became less enthusiastic, then they became normal friends completely, and finally they became strangers. By the time you realize that something is wrong, it is actually too late, and the relationship between you will never be restored. Sometimes when I can't sleep in the middle of the night, I often think that there really is no relationship that will last a lifetime.

The relationship between people is actually very fragile, whether it is family, love, friendship, even if the relationship is good at the beginning, but once something happens, or there is no contact for too long, it will fade.

If you don't talk about it, it will naturally fade. We know that when two people first get along, the way to communicate is undoubtedly through chatting, so if you don't contact for a long time, even if the love is strong, it will eventually be dull.

You know that the most important thing for couples to get along with each other is trust and a sense of security given to each other, if two people don't even have a sense of security between them, then the two of them will only fall into a crisis of trust, constant suspicion and suspicion, and in the end it will only be the boy who gets tired of the girl or the girl who gets tired of the boy first, and finally goes to break up.

1. Along the way in life, I have met a lot of people and made friends. But later, some friends became passers-by, some friends turned against each other, and some friends never saw each other again, which was sad. There is a saying that one time, another time the faith is dry.

No one can stop in the past, and no one can stop for you.

Growing up, I found it especially hard to be friends. The years are changing, people's hearts are changing, and the former "dragging the family to meet each other" is just a later sentence. Your life is very different from his; What you want to talk about is not on the same channel as what he wants to hear.

2. No matter where you go, as long as the other party can leave a warm memory in your heart, so that you can recall it, and still feel that those years were not in vain, it is enough. It's not that they are separated for no reason, but the three views have long been different, and their hearts are gradually estranged, and they slowly withdraw from each other's worlds.

Don't be surprised at the fragility and transience of friendship, when the tide of time dissipates and the stone that symbolizes the truth of adult friendship comes to the surface. The truth of dating for adults is just three words: light, cold, and far. Friends, less is less, more often.

3. When you miss the days when the two of you used to stay together, you should also understand that such two parties are destined to separate, and it is better to let each other go than to force them together to increase their disappointment. Just say goodbye quietly, and go to each other's path before the two have a greater conflict, but leave the friendship at its best.

The reason why friends are friends is because they understand each other and take the initiative with each other. He keeps an eye on your news and is willing to listen patiently to see what can be done for you when you have something. And you, too, always remember each other and keep in touch.

4. In the end, many relationships are all about interests and each other's values, compared with the beginning, there may be less love and sincerity, and more reason and thinking. To this day, the truth is still the same. Under the interests, it is difficult to have true friends, whether we are willing to mature or not, the other party may have matured a long time ago.

Gradually, it disappears, just a symptom.

5. When a person no longer meets your needs, and a person can no longer keep up with your pace, you will consciously or unconsciously abandon him, and at the same time, you may also be abandoned by others. We will eventually become the old people of the mountains and rivers. What is a friend?

People who come together based on similar emotions or common interests. Therefore, it is also possible to drift away due to the divergence of interests and emotions that are no longer there. "Don't drag your friends on the road, look for friends on the road.

Everyone has a personality and a direction in life. If you force yourself to walk with someone, you will lose yourself. As a person who focuses on reading, if he devotes a large part of his energy to managing the world, he will be disturbed by the world and will not be able to be a "bystander of the world".

1.Lack of communication: In a relationship, communication between both parties is crucial.

When two people enter a cold period, the problem that often occurs is that both parties are unwilling or do not know how to communicate proactively, resulting in problems that could have been solved getting worse. In the long run, the relationship will become more and more cold, and eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship between the two.

2.Habitually being too dependent on each other: In a relationship, it is dangerous to rely too much on the other person.

When it comes to a period of coldness, the estrangement of one partner can tear apart the other's sense of security, which can lead to the breakdown of the relationship. Therefore, both parties should get along with each other with an equal mentality, support each other, talk to each other and understand each other, and should not treat each other as their whole life.

3.Constant quarrels: During the cold period, the relationship between the two has become cold and delicate, and it is often easy to break out conflicts and disputes over small things.

If two people still quarrel from time to time after entering the cold period, and if it continues for a long time, it will be easy to hate each other, making the relationship between the two even worse, and eventually the relationship will break down completely.

4.Increased burnout: When two people are in a cold period, they don't know how to save their relationship for a long time, they can't communicate with each other, and they can't support each other, and the burnout at this time can make one party feel very disappointed and frustrated.

The other party gradually becomes a stranger in their hearts, no longer empathizes, no longer actively pays attention to each other, and in the long run, it will be difficult to return to the previous heat, which will eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship.

Because of the sadness of experiencing a breakup, I feel unconfident and panicked about continuing the relationship again. But when couples get through this period of compound coldness, the relationship will be the same as before. Lovers in the cold period of resuming contact, must take the initiative to manage this relationship, only love can make our feelings warm up again.

When going through the compound cold period, you must use the right way to maintain the relationship, because after the compound cold period, the two people will love each other as always.

How should we get along best after reconciliation?

1. Take back the elongated face.

If you want to reconcile, attitude is important, you look cold and say that you want to reconcile, who will believe it? So take back your stinky face first and put on a pleasant look, which will give the other party a signal, you want to reconcile, the other party thinks that you will be soft first, and it is estimated that you will give three points.

Second, we should take the initiative to look for opportunities to coexist.

In the early days of resuming contact, many young couples want to put on their own posture and hope that the other party will take the initiative so that they can prove their worth. Each expects the other to take the initiative, but in the end, no one pays attention to the other. If you have the idea that you want the other person to take the initiative to prove your worth, then you might as well ask yourself the answer in your heart, how likely is it that the other party will take the initiative to ask you, if you weigh the answer is very likely.

Then you need to lower your posture and take the initiative to ask the other party, unless you have made up your mind to separate completely, if you don't want to separate, then show sincerity to work hard, at least you will not regret missing a beautiful relationship because of your willfulness in the future.

3. Don't be cautious and don't be too willful.

Some people have experienced a breakup, once they get back together, they will become cautious, and they are very restrained in what they do, for fear that they will not do well and face a breakup again, and being too willful will also make the other party lose the confidence to continue, a good relationship is mutual, but also equal, only in this way, can it last.

Fourth, change the previous shortcomings.

In order to avoid repeating the mistakes of the past, we must change our own shortcomings as much as possible, such as finding that the other party is still the same as before after reuniting, the fundamental problem has not been solved, and the contradictions and estrangements that should exist will still come back, which is also the crux of the infinite loop of many couples.

5. Do what we all like.

Since two people can come together, then more or less everyone has some common interests and hobbies, and if they do more things they like together, they will have a lot of common topics, and if there are more topics, they will get along more steadily.

It must be because your relationship is not as good as it used to be, and although the two of you have reconciled now, you can never go back to the previous relationship.