Are adult love all the same?

In the past, in school, love started because the other party was kind and cute, or it was a diary. After work, I found that most of the adult love starts from wanting to sleep with each other.

The fast-paced city life has made people lose the patience to understand a person, it is simple and straightforward, to see if the other person is valuable, whether it is the person they want to seek.

When adults know someone, most of them ask to see each other first, and then, and then meet. If you meet, both parties are still satisfied with their looks. It will be possible to go on a second date, watch a movie, eat, sleep.

If you find that it is okay after sleeping, it may evolve into the so-called finding true love and becoming a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. Then began to live together in the big city drift life.

If you have lived together for a while and find that you are compatible with each other, then due to age. Therefore, they began to get a license to get married, and some, when they met a better fit, they would break up with the partner who had lived together for many years, and then get married with someone who had just known each other for less than a week.

So is it wrong for a relationship to start with wanting to sleep with each other? It may be that different people have different opinions. Some people may strongly disagree, while others will approve.

This adult is not suitable for accuracy, all the same, some people have a low face, thin skin, tactful, and some people are direct, which has something to do with the personality of the family, so let it be.

It should be said that the love between 18 and 22 years old is relatively simple, and then their relationship at this time is purely because they like to be together, but the older they are, the more material and realistic they may be, because they care more about your conditions.

It's not all very direct, some people are more tactful.

Adult love is not like when you are young, you can be desperate, you just fall in love for the sake of falling in love, you don't have to think so much about it, adult love needs to consider reality and later.

1.Candid announcement

He rarely pours you with sweet words, but he generously takes you to meet friends and relatives every time.

He has never wiped his face and took the initiative to coax you to be happy with affectionate titles, but every time he was in front of outsiders, he said bluntly: "This is my wife".

A lot of love, he did not show you directly, but with this lucky pride, he showed it to the whole world without a mistake.

2.Pay attention to your feelings

Before doing anything, he will ask for your opinion, and if you think the matter is inappropriate, then discuss it and make a decision, instead of blindly meeting your own needs and ignoring you. They may even take it for granted that you should be obedient and obedient.

3.Care about your details

He remembers your casual words, and he will find an opportunity to help you realize a wish you occasionally mention, his love for you never needs you to take the initiative to ask for it, but to observe your needs attentively, and then help you realize them one by one, at the moment when you least expect anyone to pay attention to you, in fact, he is silently noting down your likes and dislikes.

4.Inadvertent need

The need in a specific situation is normal: he has encountered a setback and feels that he needs your comfort; He has a problem, he feels that he needs your help, and what is really heartwarming is the need for no purpose and no reason: a sudden miss, a crowd looking for you.

Hand、A small composition sent by the night....

The more unexpected, the more important it is.

5.Pay attention to your emotions

When two people love to a certain extent, many things are not just as simple as focusing on the "truth", there is often one party, who needs emotional comfort, this comfort or even violates the truth, but if you can't get it, you will be extremely lost, sensible people, will always hide this loss, because you know, you can't be unreasonable, you can't make trouble, so the loss becomes a need that has not been spoken again and again, drowning in tears, but when the other party notices you, take the initiative to accompany you to play an "unreasonable" play, And how can you not be impressed? Because he doesn't want you to be sad and sad more than who is right and who is wrong, let alone falling asleep with emotions countless times.

-Gain and loss are the main thing, and feelings are secondary

If you like a girl when you are young, you can get rid of all your bad habits for her, run all over the street for her just to buy the osmanthus cake she likes to eat, be willing to follow her footsteps unconditionally, and be willing to indulge in a moment's heartbeat. Now that I think about it, if it's really something that can only be done by youth, if you want to put it aside now, you will definitely not be able to do it. As an adult, although you like a girl and are willing to give your feelings, accounting is more costly.

To a certain extent, I will pay for you, I will like you more, but I want to get your response, like I do to you, if you can treat me like this, then I hope we can love equally, if not, forget it.

- Start weighing the pros and cons

Adult love is mature, rational, and realistic, because there are no unrealistic illusions about love, and they just want to find a pleasant and suitable person to spend the rest of their lives with. Based on such considerations, there will always be some specific requirements when choosing the opposite sex. Such as occupation, monthly salary, family background, social relationships, etc.

All aspects must be within acceptable limits before continuing to be considered. That's reason. It is a fact that rational love is not as pure as sensual love.

But I have to admit that rational love often goes further and is more stable. When I was young, I liked someone because he gave himself a different feeling, and since then he has been obsessed, he likes everything, and he is willing to wronged himself. Adult love is indispensable to rationality, and love without rationality is destined to not go far.

- Not attached, willing to let go.

In the past, when you fell in love, you were dumped 10,000 unwillingly, always thinking about revenge on the other party or how to torture yourself, thinking about how to make him regret it and make him turn back. There are also those who fall in love with each other, and they obviously feel that it is not suitable for him, but they just don't say break up, so they drag it out, and in the end it ends hastily, and it even makes it a little ugly. And now that you are in love, you understand what you want, and you find that the other party can't get along with you, and it's not suitable, so you mention breaking up, because before that, you have analyzed it rationally and understood that you can't run in any way, even if you can't bear the pain in your heart, but the long pain is better than the short pain, and it is better to break up earlier for you and me.

Because you do understand that there is no one in this world who has to be the best, she is not necessarily the best person, and people still have to look forward.

Adult feelings are sometimes almost cold-blooded, because too rational, too understanding of the impermanence of the world, time is the best teacher to teach people to grow, you have experienced more things, and gradually understand more truths, knowing that the sense of security of adults is based on feelings.

Adults talk about love and do it at their own risk, so it is natural to talk to each other about what love is, and to practice the love they are talking about.

Know how to share your "heartache".

At the moment when your relationship is sublimated from friends to lovers, it is not the mutual appreciation of each other's cooperation, not the tacit understanding in the heart, not the heartache hidden in the heart that plays a decisive role. It's a sign of your inner comfort and reluctance when your relationship is in trouble. Only positive emotional communication will instead lay a crisis for the development of love, because the soul needs to rest.

At this time, properly sharing the heart of your fragile self will make your spiritual image more vivid and vivid, and timely sharing some painful childhood experiences or past sad love histories will stimulate the male desire for protection and the female maternal side, making it easier for them to fall in love with each other.

Love is attracted, not pursued

Later, I finally understood that the most meaningless thing in the world is worthless sincerity. For example, if you're looking for a job, you'll say to the interviewer, "Although I don't meet the requirements of the position and don't have any work experience, I'm genuine about the job."

Can you give me a chance? "Do you think you'll be accepted? What's more, if you say you're sincere, then someone else isn't?

This is a classic example of belittling others and elevating oneself.

Proactivity and an open mind are required

Modern love requires you to seize the moment and take the initiative to pursue it, rather than waiting passively like a rabbit, which will make you miss a lot of opportunities. It is stupid to blindly close yourself and wait passively, only by building self-confidence, opening your mind, and taking the initiative to pursue, will you get a love that is more suitable for you.

Have some mental resilience

Whether it is love or something else, we must be relaxed and relaxed, enjoy the intimacy of love, accept the alienation of lovers, know how to cherish and maintain what we have, know how to adjust our mentality in time when we lose, and will not mourn endlessly because of the past.

<> so mature love, the individual in the relationship can meet two conditions:

1.Respect each other's independence and freedom.

2.Each other is willing to abide by each other's love rules.

In the adult world, love is accidental, and love is the norm.

When we were young, when we mentioned love, we always liked to say that life and life, we thought that love has no term, and later we found out that the term of love is not so long, it may only be a few years, or even a few months.

The twenty-year-old lovelorn is heartbreaking, feeling that the world has collapsed, and pulling his friends to get drunk happily. And the thirty-year-old lovelorn is no different from usual, he doesn't dare to drink until dawn, he doesn't dare to cry until the early hours of the morning, he forces himself to fall asleep, and he forces himself not to cry. The world of adults does not tolerate hypocrisy, probably we have all discovered that this world is not what you want to get, you can get, everyone must learn to accept regrets, tolerate flaws, and keep saying goodbye.

If we are lucky enough to find the person we love, then we must also be clear that love is never all about self-motivated people. Because people have to be responsible for their own lives first, and then the two can talk about the future days, and the life of adults is not so much kissing and kissing. Even if you fall in love, there is room for each other, love is not everything, and your time is precious.

Don't think too much about love, it's true that love is good, but at the same time it's also true that it adds a burden to you. If you haven't figured yourself out, then being with others at this time will only further increase your burden.

We love each other, but we are free with each other, we respect each other's interests and hobbies, do not interfere with each other, understand each other, no two people are born incomparable, we need to run in, and we need to understand.

We allow our lovers to come into our lives, and we must also be prepared for them to leave, because along the way, we are not unable to do without each other, but it is better to have each other. Love is mutual, and you can't just take it or give it.

Adult love is not to become indifferent and realistic, but it is precisely because we understand the difficulty of reality that we must understand and tolerate each other, because what we ask for is not a short companionship, but a lifetime of companionship.

Adult love has relative reason, does not lose oneself, and has the ability to judge oneselfThe reason why high school, school, and parents forbid us to fall in love is because our minds are not mature enough, not rational enough, and it is easy to lose ourselves in love.

In my high school days, there was such a thing, two students with good academic performance fell in love, could have promoted each other, but the result was very sad, because the two classmates were younger, but impulsively had an undeserved relationship, and finally the two broke up, the girl could not accept jumping off the building to commit suicide, which not only affected the school, the most important thing is that the boy will live in guilt, and the woman's parents will also suffer. This requires us to have a certain degree of discernment when we fall in love.

Adults don't fall in love like they did in high school, they have a lot of things to think about, and they don't give everything they have because they just like itThey pay more attention to the suitability, their reason will prevail over the so-called little like in their hearts, compared to love at first sight, it seems that they are more willing to believe in love over time, and all love at first sight is the intention of seeing color.

said that the breakup is not entangled, even if there is still a little bit of liking, it will not be retained,This is the pride from adults, although they also hope that a relationship can go to the palace of marriage, but they will not let go of their face and pride, and as long as they find that one party is not honest enough with themselves, then there will be cracks in this relationship, once there is a crack, it is difficult to go back to the past.

We value the same values and whether we are genuinely committed to each other

Maybe you will find that you can't even understand each other without the same values, and it is very difficult to communicate with each other, which will only make the relationship fruitless, and you will be very tired of each other, and gradually the likes will disappear, and breaking up will become inevitable. If a relationship is just blindly asking and not knowing how to give, then the other party will feel that you don't care about her at all, and after a long time, you will be disheartened, and the relationship will not last long.