Why does it feel awkward to greet someone you don t know well?

Because you don't have anything in common in the process of talking to this kind of person. Perhaps, you just know each other or are classmates, but you haven't really communicated with each other.

When I was in college, I didn't usually communicate with my classmates. Every time we meet, we always say have you eaten? Or when will I go back to the dormitory to tidy up.

Because you don't know what you're saying that will interest others, and you don't have a deep communication, you have to be careful about what you say, for fear that what you say will hurt each other, or that others don't like to hear what you say. Therefore, we don't know what to say to them, and when others talk to them, we will occasionally say a word or two.

Every time I am with this kind of person, I feel very embarrassed, so I don't go when my classmates ask me to go out to play. If there is any common topic with them, you will be embarrassed if you go, and others will think that you are superfluous. I always choose to sleep or read in the dormitory, and I only go out shopping or play with people I have a good relationship with and can talk to me.

People who have a good relationship with themselves, you don't have to be careful when you speak, you don't have to be very restrained every time you speak, and you don't have to think about what to say.

So, every time you say hello to someone you're half-baked, can you just ask about dinner? After a few pleasantries, just say that I still have to leave in advance, let's talk another day, so that others will not think that every time you talk to others, it is perfunctory. Because you don't have a common topic between you, it's definitely awkward for you to communicate together.

And sometimes you really don't know what you need to ask someone. In fact, in the face of such a person, you can just say a few words and leave?

Because if you don't say hello, it will look rude. But if you say hello, you don't know each other very well, so you don't know how to speak. Even the other party may ignore you and feel like the kind of person you don't know and pretend to be familiar.

So after the people who are not familiar at all say hello, they feel that there is nothing to talk about, which is particularly awkward. <>

I've had this experience a lot, for example, because of the demands of my job, which I used to encounter when I was working a summer job. What is the person I know doing, there is a little connection at work, but I don't talk often in my daily life, and I belong to that kind of half-baked situation. When I met them on the road, I knew them, but I didn't know them well, and I was always hesitant to say hello to them.

Afraid that if you say hello, what will happen if someone else ignores you? Also, it's a little weird to say hello to people you don't know well. It's just that I said hello inexplicably, and then there was no then, which was particularly awkward.

I think it's mainly because we don't have a common language, and I don't know each other well, so I don't have anything to say. It's also a bit stiff to speak, so it's awkward to say hello.

I joined a new department in my freshman year, met them during interviews before, recruited new ones, and introduced myself. Back then, I just introduced and met, what others were like, specifically, and I didn't usually have any opportunities to get along. So it's that half-baked feeling.

But because they are from the same school, I often meet them, and every time I see them on the road, I am very hesitant to come forward to say hello, because I am afraid, he doesn't remember me as a junior sister. In case he doesn't remember, I come up to say hello, maybe people will feel inexplicable, and I will be very embarrassed. When I stepped forward to say hello, I felt very deliberate.

But if I don't say hello, and he remembers me as a person, he seems very rude. So every time I meet this kind of half-baked person to say hello, it will be very embarrassing and awkward, because after saying hello, there is nothing to say, and I feel that this behavior is very deliberate.

In fact, I believe that there are many people around us who have had this experience, that is, a kind of awkwardness when greeting, especially in the face of those half-baked people, we will feel more awkward, because they are not so familiar with each other, but they know each other, so it is not good not to say hello, but it will feel very embarrassing to say hello, so there are many people who are afraid of meeting such friends, not to mention other people, in fact, I am quite afraid of meeting that kind of unfamiliar friends, and when I really meet, It's to avoid it if it can be avoided, but if it really can't be avoided, then you can only say hello to each other awkwardly. <>

And I think the reason why we feel embarrassed is because we don't know each other well, so it's very likely that we don't know what to say after we meet, and if you stand there in this way, you will feel embarrassed, and there is another possibility that you are afraid that after you greet him, but the other party does not respond, and if you encounter this situation, it must be a person who will feel embarrassed, but because you know each other, and you are afraid that you will not greet him, he will greet you, So in this process, it is natural to form a very awkward feeling, and this is one of the reasons why many people are reluctant to meet half-acquaintances.

It's true that there may be a lot of these kinds of friends around us sometimes, and you may just know his name or have had a few contacts, but you don't have a deeper understanding, and at this time, greeting people can really feel awkward, so I think since we both feel embarrassed by each other, it is better to greet each other with a smile, because it is neither embarrassing nor rude, and the next time if you encounter this situation, I think you can do it.

Although I always forget this and forget that, I see people who leave each other's names, and I am not familiar with this person, but if I walk down the street I will quickly find that this is someone I know, even if I may have forgotten his name, at this time I will want to go up and say hello, in case he forgets me, how embarrassed I am to say hello so presumptuously, if this is the case, I say hello, I will feel very awkward. <>

I see people who like to say hello to others, and I know very well needless to say, as long as I know someone I will rush up to say hello to them, sometimes I feel like a fool, I know people as long as I have seen the face of me to leave an impression on the street I will go back and quickly find each other, at least before they find me I find them, but sometimes it will make me very embarrassed.

I clearly remember when I was in high school, I was in high school, and I didn't know them very well, I only knew that it was a class, and one day I saw a classmate walking on the road, and then I greeted me very warmly, she was stunned for a moment, and then searched in her mind and then saluted me, I was embarrassed, a little awkward. Another time, when I went out to dinner, I saw a classmate who didn't know her well at all, and I was in the same class, so I greeted her on the street, but she ignored me directly, and my impression of her plummeted from then on.

Greeting people who are half-familiar with you will always encounter such and such problems, because you are not familiar, others are not impressed by you, because you are not familiar, others will feel that the two people are not familiar enough to say hello, and then you say hello, others have to think about whether this is to say hello to me, do I know him, just make you awkward, if you don't say hello, others see you, but they are not embarrassed to say hello, waiting for you to hit first, but you have walked over, you will think a lot, you are still awkward, so let's talk about it, The reason for the awkwardness is because it is not familiar.

Just because it's unfamiliar. When unfamiliar people meet together, it will be more embarrassing, we don't know each other, and we don't know what each other is thinking, whether we like ourselves or hate ourselves, and because I don't know whether I understand him, so when I see him, I will feel very awkward, even more so when I was a child, I won't look at each other if I don't know each other, let alone talk.

Maybe I don't like his friends, so I feel a little speechless when I see him, and it's this kind of mental plot that leads to the fact that we don't communicate much when we meet, and I remember being like that when I was in school.

Anything I'm not familiar with, although I'm a little embarrassed to meet him, I won't go up to meet him, everyone is like this, sometimes you don't need to think so much, when you are embarrassed, maybe others are in the same mood as you.

Maybe the scene is wrong, for example, you are walking with your partner and you happen to meet him, and the girl has a good relationship with him, and then suddenly you see it, and you will feel something unspeakably bad. Now I see a lot of couples walking together, if they meet someone they know, they generally don't say hello, and they may consider that it will have a bad impact, but this consideration is more thoughtful anyway, after all, this is for the sake of others, it's not a big deal.

I didn't get along deeply before, and I kept some basic precautions in my heart, which everyone has, this is due to the fact that this defensive heart is making trouble, when we meet a half-baked one, we will greet politely, but it is a more embarrassing greeting, many people are unfamiliar at the beginning, after understanding, they will become good friends, early discord or other reasons, all in order to better understand it.

I also deeply feel this way, in the process of getting to know someone, it is very awkward to meet at this half-baked stage. If you only know each other at the beginning, and there is no contact, you can meet without greeting, and treat it as if you don't know each other; And there is no need to pay attention to anything between acquaintances, and it will pass after greeting each other. But if we know someone and have had a few contacts, but we don't know each other very well, then it will feel awkward to meet and greet them.

I think it's mainly because that stage is in an awkward stage, and it's not good for two people to meet and say hello, and it doesn't seem good not to say hello, and I don't know what to say, because the two people don't know each other very well, and they don't have anything to say, so it will make both people feel very awkward. <>

I still remember that Jiangsu Satellite TV had a love reality show called "Let's Love Each Other", in which koala CP, that is, Wu Xin and Wilber Pan, this was the situation when the two of them met for the first time in the show, which was particularly embarrassing. Because Wu Xin is the host of "Happy Camp", and Wilber Pan has appeared on her show several times as a singer, but the two have no contact in private, according to Wilber Pan Later, after participating in the recording of "Happy Camp", he added the WeChat of the other four people in their happy family, but he did not add Wu Xin's WeChat. So after a few years, the two will feel very awkward, embarrassed, and have nothing to say when they meet again.

In fact, this is just an indispensable stage in the process of getting to know a person, and when everyone gets acquainted, they will naturally not feel awkward, just like Wu Xin and Wilber Pan, now the two have a very good personal relationship, and there is no embarrassing problem at all.

It will be very embarrassing to talk to someone who is half-familiar, you must overcome this psychology first, you must establish your self-confidence, do not have excessive psychological baggage when talking, you should be relaxed and natural when talking, and always feel that you are excellent, and you will not be very embarrassed when you talk.

In a half-baked relationship, we can also make the relationship familiar, take the initiative to say hello, raise topics, and give others more opportunities to share.

This is normal, it will be fine after more contact and more communication, there is nothing to worry about.

The same mentality, I sometimes do this, but if you ignore it, don't talk about it, there is no big intersection in the first place, so why embarrass yourself.

Brother, it's exactly the same as me, I'm like this, it's so uncomfortable, I want to avoid it when I meet it.

Slowly get used to it. Exercise more.

I'm really the same as you said above ...

I'm like that, I'm scared to death.

Then don't talk about it, and since there is no topic, don't continue.

Many people have some awkward feelings when getting along with people they meet for the first time, or with people who are half-baked. However, it is necessary to distinguish whether this emotion affects your normal social interaction. If you feel very embarrassed but can communicate normally, and there is no too much awkward atmosphere such as cold scenes, it means that the landlord does not have some social fears.

But if the case is the opposite, there may be some social phobia disorder. In this way, you need to adjust your mood, and do more social psychological construction before communicating with others can help you dispel this bad mood. When you are at home, you can do more eloquence practice, which is helpful for your interpersonal communication.