In the past, love talked about feelings, entered social love, talked about reality, firewood, rice,

Hello, landlord. The love on campus is more simple and relieved. There is no excessive consideration of reality and too much desire for material things.

In the short term, you may still think that these are not problems, and two people can work together. But the more I get in touch with society, the more I see. It has been affected a lot.

Some people wonder if they have made the wrong choice. Because the other party can't satisfy himself with even the most basic material life. At this point, the relationship will be shaken.

It will make people calm down and face reality. Some people will continue to persevere, believing that through hard work, the two of them will go well. I personally choose the second option.

But I won't influence your choice. Parents didn't object at the beginning because they loved you, so they had an official attitude towards each other, hoping that the other party could achieve what they asked for as soon as possible, but in the end, I think your parents' opposition may be that the other party has not met or has no potential to meet their requirements. So they were against it.

Landlord, I personally suggest that you think about it calmly, see what you need, and take a good look at what is in your heart. As a guest. No matter what you do, I feel like I've got your back.

If you have any questions, you can continue to ask me i. I hope you and I have my opinion.

Yes, society is realistic, because you used to be in school and could rely on your parents financially, so there is no pressure in this regard, there is less consideration, and pure feelings account for a larger proportion. And when you enter the society, you have to rely on yourself and start to learn to be independent, especially in the economic aspect, so this will affect the feelings, and in addition to the feelings, there are also materials, which is what life is all about. If your boyfriend is only currently in financial difficulties, and his personal ability and behavior are good, and he is self-motivated (presumably you should know him well after four years with him), then you can persevere, because he is a potential stock, and all the current difficulties are temporary.

If your boyfriend is not very capable or can only talk flatteringly, and has a low eye, and does not want to make progress, then you should really think about whether you can live together in the future, if you don't want to, then give up as soon as possible, as the so-called long pain is better than short pain.

It is rare to meet someone in life who loves him and he also loves you, but you have to choose the same bread and love after all, choose bread, you don't necessarily have no love, you don't have bread with love, then your love will be very hard! You can only hope that you have love, and the object of love can give you bread! If only he could give you love and not bread!

My mind is to give up if I can! It's painful, but at least he's good in your heart now! But if you have quarreled many times over bread!

Or break up. And now he is no longer good! So for this goodness.

You need to give up! You can see if you fall into that situation! Hope it can help you!

Escapism will never be the solution to the problem, reality? Affection? Painful?

Hehe, why is it painful, why can't you give it up, in fact, don't you already have the answer, what you really want!! Tea, rice, oil and salt are indeed very important, and we always have to live, but are these really problems? Remember, the problem in front of you is never a problem, it is no longer a problem when it is solved, you just need to know what you want most, as long as you make a decision that you don't regret when you think about it later, why bother if it's right or wrong.

There is no difference between falling in love and entering society, hehe, today's people, even if they talk about love in their college careers, how many of them are not mixed with reality? In the same way, does it only take reality into account when falling in love after entering society?! Don't push yourself into a corner, calm down and think about it, love is not only emotional, rationality is equally important.

It seems that it has reached the stage of eating no meat and abandoning it, realistically speaking, carefully examine yourself, ask yourself if you have the courage to live the rest of your life with the person opposite, if you don't have this courage and responsibility, the future is gambling, and you have to think about it in many aspects.

Parents strongly oppose it, your final outcome will not be good, how much love has been hindered by reality, there is nothing that you can't let go, only those who dare not let go.

I feel that you are very entangled, and you can't accept the reality of loving him. Now the post-80s generation will have such realistic pressure, depending on whether you want love or bread.

Just let time dilute all this.

The subject said several questions here to confuse the concept of love.

The first is that a crush is not love, and a crush is a kind of affection. Many people's crush is just a very beautiful relationship idealized in their hearts. So there are many people who don't want to express their crush at all, because it would destroy the beauty that has been formed.

The second love may not be love. Men and women get along with each other because of their affection. It may lead to love, it may just be a prelude to a relationship.

When falling in love for about half a year, it should be that the emotion can be sublimated to the point of marriage. If there is no talk of marriage within half a year, this is no longer love, but a habit, or some kind of compromise.

For the vast majority of people, the purpose of love is to stay together, that is, to get married. If it weren't for such a purpose, it would be difficult for strange men and women to maintain only by emotional attraction without any substantive communication in life. Because this is a kind of cruelty to the personal life of the two sailors.

Being in love for too long and not entering into marriage is actually irresponsible to yourself and others.

I used to have a crush on someone for a long time. If it weren't for the fact that he didn't show up for a long time, I was worried that something happened to him, and I wouldn't have confessed. But he's in a different place.

If there is a talk of marriage, then it is that he is going to give up his worker Kirisaku and his family, come to my city, and start over with nothing.